I’d like some advice about refunding a monthly allowance.

You may not be obligated to refund it, but I would return it. Because I’d be worried about what might happen afterward…

You may not be obligated to, but he sounds like a terrible person who’s almost threatening you. If it were me, I’d return it—even by slamming it down—to make it clear that I don’t want to see him again. Marika

If they’ve told you to leave the service, report it to the staff. You should have been told that during your interview. Also, as Maezawa mentioned, you haven’t given them any personal information, right? If you haven’t shared any personal details at all, it’s fine to block and delete them. Of course, don’t forget to report it to the staff first. If you have any evidence, submit that as well. Honestly, there’s no need to tell them your real name or address. You may end up being stalked or threatened, so the decision is ultimately up to you. co

> Do I have an obligation to refund the money? No, you don’t. I think it’s generally common knowledge that money you’ve received doesn’t have to be returned. In this case, he might claim that this was a contract that hasn’t been fulfilled, but mistress arrangements aren’t legally protected in the first place. So it probably wouldn’t be considered a contract, and the money would still be treated as money you received. That said, it wouldn’t be wise to anger him, so I think you should focus on finding a way to end things without provoking him. The key issue here is how much of your personal information he knows. If he knows nothing, you can simply block him and reject his calls, and that should be the end of it. If he knows a fair amount and you’re worried about retaliation, you should think about how to end things smoothly. > The forced withdrawal and pressure to change plans have become unbearable. The site’s terms list the following under Article 12, Prohibited Conduct: “Verbal abuse, violence, harassment, stalking, or forcing female members or our employees to withdraw from this service or resign from the company.” So forcing someone to withdraw from the service is prohibited. It would be strange if the man weren’t forcibly removed for this, but the staff can at least warn him, so please consult them first. If he continues doing the same thing after being warned, he may be classified as a male member who has ignored repeated warnings from the staff, and he could eventually be forcibly removed. However, since he apparently can’t be forcibly removed immediately, there’s a possibility that he may redirect his anger toward you. For now, you could try saying something like: “I’m tired of talking about this. I feel that we’re not compatible, so I can’t continue seeing you. Please don’t contact me again.” After that, I think it would be fine to block him. However, if he knows your personal information, this approach may not be safe to use.

I’m a female member, Potassium. Wow, you really went through a lot. That must have been exhausting. Since I don’t know what kind of male member he is, I can’t offer much in the way of advice. My impression is that unless you properly settle things with him, it might just become more trouble. I don’t think you’re obligated to pay him back, though. If I were really angry, I might buy some sweet potatoes, roast them with him, and then say with a smile, “I’m using the allowance right now, but I wanted to give our relationship some form. Thank you for everything,” before imagining myself walking home alone. LOL Money itself is innocent, but I personally feel that if I use money from a man I dislike, that unpleasantness follows me around and makes me look ugly. So I would choose to return it. That’s just my personal opinion, though. It’s cold today, so be careful with fire!

You say the man’s demands are unreasonable, but if you don’t want to refund the money for the meetings that never took place, you’re not all that different from him. Personally, if a woman no longer wants to meet me, there’s no way going on dates with her would be enjoyable, so I simply wouldn’t see her again. In that case, though, I wouldn’t ask her to return anything I’d already given her… I think it really depends on the man. That said, I often wonder why people come asking for advice about a monthly arrangement when they entered into one in the first place, despite having terms that clearly weren’t suitable.

I think it depends on how the people involved see it.