If you don’t understand or know what “world-weary” means, I don’t think you need to force yourself to find out.
Even if someone is that way with other people, you won’t know whether you’re compatible with them personally.
Also, it’s quite strange to still be struggling over offers after nearly four years in your 40s. At that age, you should be able to find a good partner within six months to a year or two.
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I think you should have asked the staff right then and there.
Pretending to understand when you don’t know what the other person meant isn’t a good idea.
If you don’t know or understand what “すれている” means, I don’t think you need to force yourself to find out.
Learning it could lead you to develop prejudices against women, and those prejudices might prevent you from building a good relationship with a woman you otherwise could have gotten along with.
I think you should trust what you felt yourself. How other people feel is just noise.
If you thought she was a good woman, then she is a good woman, no matter what anyone else says.
Don’t let the noise sway you.
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You probably should have asked the staff member right then and there.
That said, speaking as a woman, I do think the staff member was saying something unnecessary.
Also, everyone perceives things differently. Some people wouldn’t mind the exact same behavior from the same woman, while others would. Even the same woman might avoid behavior that could put a man off when she’s with a man who’s her type.
So in that sense, I would “check” for myself.
In this case, I’d make offers to several blacklisted women, while also making a similar number of offers to women from other classes to verify whether this is something specific to blacklisted women.
I think this is the kind of question where asking other people won’t necessarily give you an answer you’ll be satisfied with.
If you don’t have the money or time, you’ll just have to keep wondering.
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I looked it up online, and this is what I found:
Older people often use “suretēru” to describe a woman who is loose with men.
It means being worldly or streetwise, but it’s generally not used as a compliment.
I think “abazure” would fall under the same category as “suretēru.”
If she’s in a dating club, does that mean she’s used to men, expects to be paid, and waits on the bed with her legs spread as soon as she’s finished showering?
That’s a little frightening.
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Why not just ask the staff member on the spot?
As you said yourself, I think it really depends on the person. I’ve never felt that anyone was too jaded, so this is just speculation, but I imagine I’d think a woman was pretty jaded if, within five minutes of meeting, she said, “I’m okay with going to a room after this for ¥N” (lol).
Just substitute any number you like for N.
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