How many times—or what percentage—of the allowance should a Christmas gift be?
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I don’t mind making it something expensive, but I also feel that going overboard might actually hurt our chances of maintaining a good long-term relationship.
How much would be appropriate for a birthday gift as well?
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I give cash as a gift every year, but I’m thinking of making it a song this year.
Now I’m just waiting for someone to ask, “Are you ever going to stop with the songs?”
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I give presents for birthdays, Christmas, and White Day.
I don’t set a specific budget upfront, but I only enter into long-term arrangements with girls whose values seem compatible with mine, and I only give gifts to those long-term partners. So far, no one has asked for anything particularly outrageous.
I usually go shopping with them to buy what they want. Since the allowance varies from person to person, I’d say the amounts have ranged from tens of thousands of yen up to around 500,000 yen.
I imagine they generally have an idea of how much they can reasonably ask for based on the level of their allowance.
If someone asked for something I clearly couldn’t afford, I’d probably end the arrangement.
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It’s fine to spend around five times the allowance—or even about 20% more.
You can also give something expensive, such as appliances, furniture, or clothes. Don’t worry that it might somehow have the opposite effect and make it harder to maintain a good long-term relationship.
Likewise, a birthday present can be worth anywhere from 30 times the allowance to around 20% more.
In conclusion, if you’re worried about it, don’t buy anything. If you genuinely want to show your feelings, give a gift without setting an upper or lower limit.
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I’ve already received lots of gifts for no particular reason this year, so I probably won’t get anything special for Christmas.
That sounds nice—exciting!
It’s a good idea to decide on a budget yourself and then ask your partner what they’d like.
Marika
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I’m planning to move, so please rent me an apartment in Osaka City.
I’d be happy if my birthday present were more expensive than my Christmas present.
The KITAHAMA, 53rd floor, please.
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I’m just going to say it without holding back:
I want a set of wheels (fidgeting shyly)
¥332,000—for the front and rear ♥
Sure, my current wheels are still perfectly usable.
But these would look stylish and cool, wouldn’t they? They’re a little pricey, but I think they’re worth it! Nothing bad will come of it!
Trust me! I think I’d drive more carefully with them.
Is that a no? (looking up with pleading eyes)
Wait—if you read it carefully, they weren’t saying they’d buy them for the person answering! They never once said they’d buy them for Osaka! My apologies. I may have been exhausted lately and letting my imagination run wild. Forgive me!
Hmm, so the question is how much to buy for the person the asker is dating, huh? Just go all out and buy them something like that!
The more expensive, the better, right? Thinking long-term?
They’ll be happier the more expensive it is, so why not? Don’t worry about it! They’re not going to complain that it’s too expensive!
Yeah, that was pretty careless, lol. Definitely careless! My answer was sloppy!
Of course, it’s my fault for misunderstanding, but it’s not like I got disappointed and then stopped caring.
Basically, just don’t make the other person feel this way, lol.
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Christmas and birthdays are special, so I’m already thinking about what to get my papa (a male supporter). I’m looking forward to seeing how happy he’ll be.
If he were buying me something, I’d want jewelry or a watch—but everyone has their own preferences, so I’d like him to ask me first.
Rather than guessing based on your own taste, it’s best to ask your partner.
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If you can’t think of anything they might want, you don’t have to give them a present. In fact, forcing yourself to give one probably increases the chances of getting it wrong.
After all, if their regular allowance is already enough and your relationship is still shallow enough that you can’t even imagine what they might want, it’s simply too soon to give them a gift.
With my current papa (a male supporter), I received no presents during our first year—which was completely fine. In the second year, he surprised me with a Cartier watch, and in the third year, he gave me a Rolex and some cash.
I’ve mentioned this here several times, but I didn’t own a watch and used to wear a super-cheap one that cost around 300 yen whenever I needed one. He thought, “You’re an adult—shouldn’t you wear something a little nicer?” I don’t know much about brands, so what touched me wasn’t the Cartier itself so much as the thought behind it.
But if I had been a watch enthusiast, I might have thought, “What? A Cartier?! Give me a ladies’ model from Richard Mille instead!” and been annoyed.
There’s no single right answer when it comes to gifts. If you don’t know what they want, I think your only two options are either not to give them anything or to buy exactly what they ask for.
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Again? You’re early this year.
People don’t like impatience.
We can’t see the level of closeness between you two, so you’ll have to judge that for yourself.
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At Christmas, play a Mariah Carey Christmas song and passionately sing the opening lines from somewhere out of sight. Then, when the instruments kick in with the “jang-jaka-jang-jang,” make your entrance in a Santa costume, still singing.
After that, give her a present worth about 20% of her usual allowance.
This is guaranteed to get great results!
For birthdays, passionately sing “Happy Birthday.” You can’t go wrong.
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I think the safest bet is to ask the woman what she would like. It might also help to tell her your budget upfront, so she can choose more easily.
Otherwise, you might end up worrying that she’ll think, “That’s more expensive than I expected—he’s all about money,” or, if she names something inexpensive, wondering, “Does he really think I’m only worth this?” It can get confusing…
Personally, I think you’re already lucky to be seeing someone who makes you want to give her a present. I’m sure she feels happy and maybe even a little envious that you think of her that way!
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I think it depends on the relationship.
If you’re genuinely in love with her, why not step up and show her what kind of man you are?
Personally, I don’t give gifts for special occasions like that.
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