Question for men who have invited someone to a group dinner date, or women who have attended one:
This content is machine-translated.
What are the man’s intentions when arranging a group dinner date? And what is expected of the women?
I don’t get to meet the other women at the club, so I’m worried about things like, “What if they’re all incredibly cute?” or “What if I’m the only one dressed inappropriately?”
What kind of outfit would be suitable?
Also, I’ve never had any experience with group drinks or a singles mixer with several men and women my age, so I’d really appreciate any advice on what I should prepare for or keep in mind.
Your outfit doesn’t need to be any different from what you’d wear on a one-on-one date.
You do need to be a bit more sociable and have better communication skills than when you’re alone with a man. That said, you should be fine as long as you can hold a normal conversation.
Marika
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
First of all, I’m very grateful to the dedicated member who made this possible.
I tried it out just to see how it went, but I’m still seeing the girl I met that day—and she wasn’t even the girl I initially offered to meet. Without that event, I don’t think we would have met, so I’m grateful for that as well.
I think it’s fine to dress as you normally would. I don’t think there’s anything in particular you need to prepare.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’ve only done it once.
Since other people are there, I feel like you make the offer with the intention of everyone having a fun, friendly time together, rather than offering it to a woman you genuinely want to get close to. That’s what I did, anyway.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’ve been to two dinner group dates so far. They have the same kind of tension as a singles mixer, so I don’t actually dislike them.
What you need is the ability to read the room, plus the mental flexibility to instantly take one for the team when you sense that “today isn’t my turn.” You also need to be able to communicate your intentions without words—through eye contact and the overall vibe.
At the last dinner gathering, I took one for the team, but I’ve still got plenty more where that came from. There are a few stories I haven’t even brought out yet. I basically enjoy being the sacrificial piece.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Uh… well… how should I put it? It was fun, I guess lol.
P.S. To answer the question, I don’t think the outfit really matters, and it’s fine for women to take a passive role lol. If the guy puts in the effort and you’re having fun, I think it’s perfectly fine to just enjoy yourself.
As for the men, I guess it depends on how they work as a team lol. Sometimes there’s a member who makes sacrifices for the team’s victory! Don’t forget that! Thanks lol.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’ve never attended anything like a dinner-date event myself, but I imagine it’s basically a situation where you’re thinking, “I wonder if there’s anyone nice here.”
I think you should go with a relaxed attitude, as if you’re casually taking part to see whether you might meet someone nice—just don’t make it all about men and money（笑）
As for whether you’re beautiful enough, there will always be people more attractive and less attractive, so I wouldn’t worry about it.
For your outfit, I think something similar to what you’d wear for a club photo shoot at this time of year would be ideal.
Sounds exciting.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
It does seem like women may engage in a silent battle for status among themselves.
The men, however, choose the women they each prefer—man A chooses woman A, and man B chooses woman B—and make offers to them accordingly.
So when it comes to clothing, I think it’s fine to dress the way you would for a one-on-one date.
That said, in a two-on-two situation, the men may not care about it at all, while a battle between the women begins. In that sense, it might be better not to make offers like that too often.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
