Negligent Injury? Trouble with a Supporter

> What would normally be the smoothest way to handle a situation like this? I don’t think there’s really any “smooth” way to deal with something like this. The man probably either didn’t expect to leave a mark, or thought, “It’s fine—it’ll disappear quickly anyway.” So I think the first priority is to preserve evidence. One option is to go to the police and make an official record. The police probably won’t take it very seriously if it’s only a mark, but if the woman says she wants to file a victim’s report, they have to prepare the paperwork, and that paperwork itself becomes evidence. (The police may tell you to discuss it between yourselves because preparing the paperwork is a hassle for them, but I think simply saying, “I want to file a report,” should be enough.) The important thing is not to waste energy complaining to the police, since that won’t help. Focus on filing the report, and be prepared to handle what comes afterward yourself. Once you’ve filed the report, it becomes easier to take civil action against him. That said, if someone from the dating club is acting as an intermediary, it may be best to leave things in their hands for now. Of course, it depends on how much the dating club is willing to support you.

It’s really difficult when your papa has a biting fetish. My ex-boyfriend was like that. He seemed to get aroused by seeing me in pain, so he would bite me in about five places every week. Thankfully, the marks never lasted more than a week. If you’re thinking of taking action, as Mac suggested, please go get a medical certificate first thing in the morning. Since he isn’t your boyfriend, I can imagine you must be absolutely furious. Have you been able to reach him since the day he bit you? The club may just give him a serious warning and leave it at that, though…

I can only imagine how you feel. However, while dating clubs are legal, they’re ethically questionable, so you should probably assume the authorities won’t be on your side. People say things like “you just need a doctor’s note,” but realistically, unless you’re in a condition severe enough to show up in search results for “domestic violence bruises,” I doubt it would be easy. I think all you can really do is report him to the club and stop seeing him. Anything beyond that would probably take a lot of effort without accomplishing much. I’m speaking from the opposite perspective, but this happens to men too. There are women with a habit of biting, and I think, “Ow! What the hell are you doing?” But if I said that in rough Edo-style language, she’d get scared, so I can’t. Besides, they’re doing it because they think they’re being affectionate. So I’ll say something like, “Ouch, that hurts—it doesn’t feel good,” in a sort of surrendering tone and watch their reaction. But some people take that as an M-type response and don’t stop. Well, when you’re in a customer-service business, all kinds of trouble can happen. Don’t let it get you down—keep going. Taro

First, you should go to the hospital, say, “I was bitten, so I need a medical certificate,” and get one. It’ll cost a few thousand yen since you have to pay out of pocket, but cover it yourself for now. Then take some selfies of the injury. If possible, message him something like, “Why did you bite me? It left a bruise,” and try to get an exchange like “I’m sorry, I’m sorry” in writing—even if you have to do it now. Save it if you can. After that, rather than going to the police, it would be better to consult a lawyer and try to reach an out-of-court settlement through them. You could ask another papa to recommend a lawyer, or consult Houterasu and have them introduce one to you. You’ll have to pay for that yourself too, but you’ll probably recover the costs and may even come out ahead. That said, it’s not exactly a great money-making scheme. If I were a woman, I’d skip all that hassle and spend the time earning money by sleeping with another papa.