My teeth are in really bad shape, and because of that, I can’t bring myself to smile with my mouth open.
(I struggle with my mental health.)
I can’t exactly ask my parents to pay for braces, so I’ve been thinking as best I can about how to save up the money.
① Ask a papa (a male supporter) for money, since I’m a virgin and hopefully he’d understand that
(I don’t know why, but men seem to like me.)
② Work part-time and save up little by little
I did the math, and it looks like I could save enough in three or four months.
③ Keep staying shut in and cry nonstop
Please give me some advice.
There are different kinds of being popular:
1. Everyone is attracted to you
2. Attractive, popular people are attracted to you
3. People who aren’t popular are attracted to you
In the third case, there’s often some self-misunderstanding involved, so they can be pretty painful to deal with. Basically, they’re just the right level of average and seem easy to win over.
I think it’s best to date and eventually marry the best person you can find.
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Are you in Osaka?
There’s a place in Hannancho, Osaka, that does orthodontic treatment for 30,000 yen. My kids had theirs done there.
I’m sure there are orthodontists in Tokyo and other areas that accept insurance too, aren’t there? Why not look into it?
If you’re embarrassed about your teeth, no one will know if you just keep wearing a mask.
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The fact that she goes out of her way to lead with “I’m a virgin” makes her come across as really unpleasant. It might even be more off-putting than her crooked teeth.
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Just when I was seriously considering it, I saw #3.
It made me think, “Are you kidding me?”
I know a woman in her 20s who has incredibly stained teeth and holds chopsticks in an unbelievable way, but she’s clever, has a great voice and figure, and is extremely popular.
The point is, if you recognize something as an insecurity, it’s about how you choose to face it.
If you just stay cooped up at home feeling sorry for yourself, who’s going to reach out and help you? Relying on others and shifting the blame are completely unattractive, regardless of gender.
—Akari
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Female member Potassium here.
If option ③ is already on the table, why not just go with ③?
Maybe the fact that you want to change things but can’t bring yourself to work at it is exactly why ③ is one of your options, right? The world isn’t kind enough for simply thinking about something to make it happen.
You should act before overthinking it. Why not try everything?
Oh, right—that was just my personal theory.
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If you’re seriously struggling with this, I’d say option ② is the way to go. You could also work on it alongside option ①.
By the way, when you say you want them to understand that you’re a virgin, do you mean you’re hoping to get a higher allowance? That probably won’t be so easy. And if you can’t smile naturally, do you think you can still win men over and keep them entertained? Since we’re talking about getting offers and being liked, why not start by doing what you can on your own?
Then, on top of that, you could use your allowance to get orthodontic treatment.
If you were popular, you’d probably already be receiving a generous allowance and getting your teeth fixed by now… So I assume that isn’t the case.
Why not try smiling anyway, regardless of whether your teeth look dirty? You may think, “Easy for you to say—you don’t have this complex,” but smiling is good for you too.
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Universe staff member Teramoto here—I’ll answer as well.
If you’re genuinely struggling, option ③ isn’t really an option, is it…?
Most people, if they were truly in a difficult situation, could push themselves to work hard for just three or four months!
Besides, if you’re confident that you’re popular with the opposite sex, then I imagine you’re confident about things other than your insecurity about your teeth as well. In that case, I don’t feel like going out would be all that difficult for you either…?
If you were in a situation where you felt insecure about your entire appearance, couldn’t go outside, and couldn’t even bear talking to people, my answer might be different.
But given your current situation, wouldn’t your best option be to work part-time for three or four months and save up the money?
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