I met with several women over a short period, and they were all wonderful! I was hoping to find even one person who seemed like a good fit, so I’m very happy that most of them have contacted me saying they’d like to meet again, including coordinating our next dates.

If we don’t click at the first meeting, I don’t meet them a second time. There hasn’t been anyone I wanted to see again but couldn’t. If I do meet someone a second time, it’s generally a long-term arrangement. However, if our schedules are just too difficult to coordinate, we end up parting ways—or simply drifting apart. I don’t have any particularly detailed criteria. That sounds fun. Although, I get the feeling that after narrowing things down, you might still end up unable to meet someone a third time.

This question feels a little hard to understand. Maybe I’m overthinking it. Shouldn’t it start with whether you actually want to meet them? Even if they say they want to meet you, you don’t have to see them if you don’t feel like it. You’re not doing volunteer work, so feel free to be selfish about that. Then, if you end up with a lot of people you want to meet, it comes down to how much time you personally have available. If you have to narrow them down within that time, I guess you can only choose in order of how strongly you want to see them. That all sounds so obvious that I’m not sure it even counts as an answer, so let me talk about myself. For the past few years, my only New Year’s shrine wish has been, “I want to sleep with a good woman.” I’ve had a pretty steady run of good encounters, and I got carried away this year, deciding I wanted to set a personal record for the number of times I had H in a year. I worked hard at it, but arranging my schedule became a pain, and I started feeling like I was having H on a routine basis—as if I had a side job as an adult-film actor. So, after a minor incident, I decided to reset everything for a while. At that point, I had to decide whether to replace everyone or keep some people (at least in my own mind). I thought I’d narrow it down to one woman who was truly my main person—someone I genuinely wanted to cherish. That would be more beautiful, wouldn’t it? But just as I came to that decision, she suddenly stopped responding（笑）. She recently came back, so we met up, but then my feelings became a little ambiguous. So, since things felt a bit off, I decided to keep one more person in the erotic category. I still want someone who could be my main person, though, so these days I’ve been making offers to new women as well. Seeing it all written out like this, I really am the worst. I think I’m a piece of crap who keeps wandering aimlessly while acting all high and mighty. I’m truly sorry. Still, I would be deeply honored if you could relate, even just a little, to the sight of me wandering aimlessly with such determination. Taro

I think things naturally narrow down as you date each woman equally. My first priority is that she responds well during intimacy. Beyond that, I prioritize women who I feel are on a level I wouldn’t normally meet in everyday life—whether because of their profession, our physical chemistry, or various other factors.

It comes down to whether you feel like seeing them again. As you meet someone a few more times, I think it becomes clear who you’re genuinely compatible with—including in terms of scheduling—and who you’re not really that compatible with. If you like everyone, then I think it’s perfectly fine to make the time and money to see them all. That said, I can also understand what Flag Maker is saying. Marika

If you choose someone whose preferred frequency of LINE messages and usual way of doing things are similar to yours, I don’t think you’ll feel worn out every time you meet. In short, choosing someone you don’t have to be overly considerate around will likely make it easier to maintain a long-term arrangement.

> I met several women in a short period of time, and they were all wonderful! I’ve never met several women at once, though. I prefer to get to know them one at a time. It can be hard to decide who to choose when you’re meeting several people. I was the same way when I was younger. I’ve moved on from seeing several women simultaneously. These days, I meet them one at a time（笑） The downside is that if I decide the first woman I meet is the right one, I won’t meet anyone else afterward. Sometimes I do wonder if I should have met a few more women first. But that’s been my approach since I joined the dating club, so I’m sticking with it（笑） Anyway, take your time and think it over.

>They were all wonderful women! But, if you look at it another way, it may mean that none of them took a particular liking to you. Since these women are from a club, I don’t think they’re especially focused on looks. However, compatibility—the kind that makes you feel relaxed and at ease—shows in their expressions through things like the quality of their voice, the way they speak, their overall atmosphere, and their natural thoughtfulness. Even now, shouldn’t you be able to get some sense of that kind of chemistry through your messages? As you meet more often, you’ll both start to sense and understand your compatibility in various ways. If you deepen your important physical compatibility as well, I think you’ll gradually recognize the differences. However, if you can’t meet intensively and find at least a better match, then even if you meet many more women in the future, you may never encounter the best one for you. Needless to say, you also need to be chosen by the other person as a better match, the best match, or even their one and only.

I know exactly what you mean. That’s the initial wave of excitement after joining. Once it passes, look back at this question. You’ll probably feel a little embarrassed. Here’s my advice: You’re probably feeling excited and like you’re “in a position to choose” right now, but that’s an illusion—so be careful.

I haven’t decided on anything fixed. I decide each time whether I want to meet, and naturally continue seeing the person I connect with better.