I’m a Platinum member. *Reposting because my previous explanation was insufficient.

I think it’s a relationship of trust that starts with gratitude. Whether you use a deduction system—dropping the rating from 10 to 9, 8, 7 whenever something unpleasant happens—or an addition system is up to each person doing the evaluating. It also depends on how communication with the staff progresses (*ˊ˘ˋ*)｡♪:*

I think most people would give a 10 for a perfectly acceptable response. If the staff’s handling of the situation annoys them, they’ll probably lower the score accordingly. Unlike ratings for women, ratings for staff are really about customer satisfaction, so you shouldn’t worry about them too much.

I’m not sure whether it’s a perk of being a Black member or simply because I make an absurd number of offers, but I’m close with my staff coordinator, so I generally communicate with them for every offer—even for letter dates. That’s why I always give honest feedback on the letter-date surveys, without holding back just because they’ve treated me well. As a result, I always give them full marks. I’ve even invited my staff coordinator to dinner dates with women. That’s how close we are. I recommend that all male members—and all women—treat the Universe Club staff like valued customers. Thinking, “I’m paying, so of course I’m entitled to the service,” is the ultimate display of being unpopular. It’s also such a waste. I’ve made it a habit to treat everyone—from restaurant and hotel staff to airplane mechanics—with the utmost courtesy. Because of that, people treat me well wherever I go. And, to be blunt, women pay very close attention to those little details about a papa. Even at the supermarkets and convenience stores I regularly shop at, I always say “Thank you” after paying. The PJ may never see moments like that, but thanking cashiers who work long hours on their feet for low pay is simply the right thing to do. Even if it’s only a brief exchange during a letter date, the process isn’t fully automated. The staff are working behind the scenes, so I make a point of finding even small things they did well and praising them—sometimes a little more enthusiastically than necessary. Men who speak rudely or too casually to restaurant staff are absolutely beyond the pale. “Expressing your gratitude.” “Treating everyone with courtesy.” For me, these are just like strength training or running—training and preparation, if you will, to become more attractive to women. If you only try to look good in front of women, your true colors will easily show through. So even when it’s merely a letter date, I believe you should still express your gratitude.

Some people choose the middle option when they think something is average, while others choose something better. Perhaps you’re the former. Again, I think the issue is simply that you’re quite hard to please if you consider a 10 to be an experience that should leave you deeply impressed. If you suspect they’re lying, perhaps you’re not very good at appreciating the other person. For what it’s worth, I sometimes contact the club even for a letter date. Usually, I’m just checking the nuance of the comments.