I’d especially like to hear from female members. Apparently, it’s possible to hide your profile from specific male members, but is it fairly common to do that after the first date and make it look as though you’ve temporarily suspended your account or left the service?

I’ll have mine hidden right away too. Actually, I used to go on hiatus as soon as I received four or five offers. Marika

From a woman’s perspective, I suppose they’d want the post hidden from specific people. But don’t they realize that men who take screenshots probably do so at the offer stage anyway? Speaking as a man who doesn’t do that, I find it pretty unpleasant when a woman hides her posts from specific people—I’d almost rather end the relationship. This comes up often in the Q&A section, so women who follow it closely may use the hide-from-specific-people feature. But I think most women simply didn’t know that was possible.

I had everyone I went on a date with hide my profile. At first, I didn’t know anything and started with three stars. The number of stars kept increasing every time I went on a date, and when it reached five, one of my papas said, “Just how many people have you gone on dates with? That makes me sad!” I explained that of course I’d meet someone if I received an offer, but he seemed upset. Since I also had work and couldn’t continue seeing many people, I took a break from the service. Around that time, I had my profile hidden and tried to be considerate in various ways while using the service. Another person told me, “I look at your photos and videos every day,” which scared me, so I had my profile hidden from him as well.

> A completely ordinary middle-aged guy in every respect If he’s genuinely average in every respect, he’s an ideal papa (a male supporter). People who hide their profiles may do so because, like the other respondents, they don’t want to lie. And unless they regularly check the Q&A site, I doubt many people go to the trouble of hiding their profiles. In the past, there were two girls whose profiles were hidden fairly soon after our first date. One was a woman who had approached me first and had told me beforehand, “I hide my profile after meeting someone.” The other was so popular that she was busy with work, and after that her profile repeatedly switched between visible and hidden. It seemed she only made it visible when she was available to accept offers. Then, after some time had passed, a few girls took temporary breaks or left the service. I never confirmed their exact reasons, but all the girls who took a break became visible again once things settled down. We continued meeting after their profiles reappeared, so their breaks had been genuine—they had taken time off because of work, moving, or other circumstances. Since everyone who said they were taking a break had been telling the truth, I assume those who said they were leaving had also been honest. Besides, if it’s someone you really like, the subject of her leaving doesn’t even come up. There’s no need to worry about that, and I think you can tell from the way you meet whether she’s being genuine. That said, there were also girls who kept saying, “I’m going to leave,” but never actually did. I never bring up leaving or anything like that myself, so the girls who told me they were going to leave were all fairly savvy. Despite their appearance, they actually knew quite a lot about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—some had used apps or had friends involved in it. They were also very good at seeming completely innocent, even to the point of convincingly shedding tears, and they were skilled at smoothly getting their hands on large sums of money.

The girls I’ve dated eventually became hidden from view as things progressed, but none of them were hidden immediately after we met. The ones who later became hidden told me they had quit the site, and when I checked, their profiles were no longer visible. I haven’t had that many experiences, so this may not be very helpful as a reference.

In my experience, there really aren’t many.

Whether You Can Become a Presence Like a Typhoon I’m Potassium, typing as fast as the wind. Please treat any typos as debris blown in by the wind. In my case, whenever someone who had made me an offer was someone I turned down, I had my profile hidden from them. As for my current papa, I deliberately leave my profile visible—in fact, I even send him “You’re wonderful” messages all the time, basically saying, “Look at me!” That said, I also considered making my profile private from my own papa, and honestly, I struggled with it. Just as the questioner said, I thought that maybe he would take it positively and think, “She left the site because she met me.” That way, even if things with my current papa got worse, I could quickly find someone else without worrying about what he thought. But in the end, I deliberately chose not to do that. If I did, I feel like the relationship would probably fall apart in my own mind, and my mental state would suffer. I trust him, and I want him to trust me, so I deliberately keep my profile public. I did consider leaving the site, but since I had gone to the trouble of joining, I thought I might as well enjoy the site’s features. I use it as entertainment by sending “You’re wonderful” messages to papas. (It’s a harmless pastime that someone like me, who never gets offers, can enjoy without seeming to bother anyone.) So honestly, I do think there are people who would do what the questioner suspects. Even someone as silly as me has thought of that strategy. Still, there are plenty of things in this world that you’re happier not knowing. So don’t worry about it—probably, haha. Just my personal opinion.

Aside from using it as a pretext for temporarily taking a break or leaving the service, there are all sorts of reasons to hide your profile. For example, to deal with a papa (a male supporter) who took screenshots of your profile because he said he wanted to look at my photos regularly, or simply because I thought, “This person wasn’t really my type.” Personally, I think it’s pointless to ask the woman why she hid your profile. I’m sorry, this is a bit hazy, but I vaguely remember hearing that staff might also hide men who had already received an offer, even if the woman herself didn’t report them—or something along those lines. I really don’t remember clearly, so apologies if I’ve got the wrong information.