My main goal is, of course, to have an adult relationship (intimate) with a young woman who’s my type—that’s really it.
However, after reading through the questions here, I get the impression that there’s something more to enjoy about dating clubs beyond the physical side.
What exactly is it?
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If you come to enjoy club activities and make lots of offers, I think you’ll understand someday.
In my case, if all I wanted was an adult relationship with young women, going to sex services would be enough. I want to have adult relationships with ordinary women who aren’t involved in sex work or the nightlife industry.
Depending on the woman, even with money drawing a clear line between us, you can meet all kinds of women. For example:
- Women you can become close with and have fun spending time with
- Women who just want to get things over with quickly and keep it transactional
- Women who really enjoy adult relationships
- Women who are unbelievably cute but inexperienced and completely passive
And so on.
I think the depth of this club lies in being able to efficiently meet and date so many different kinds of women.
It also takes effort on our part to keep seeing a woman we like.
Sometimes things end naturally, and sometimes I’m the one who calls it off. After a breakup, I feel lonely both physically and emotionally, so I make another offer. I just can’t quit this club anymore.
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> Your goal is ultimately to have an adult relationship (intimate) with a young woman who’s your type—that’s really all there is to it.
I think you should consider why you chose a dating club instead of adult entertainment, since you could achieve that goal by going to an escort service.
If all you want is an adult relationship (intimate), adult entertainment is probably your best option. You won’t get rejected, either. (笑)
(Even with C- or D-rated women at a dating club, there’s still a chance they’ll turn you down after dinner.)
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Female member here, Potassium.
I think it’s great that your goals are clear and that you’re being honest and upfront about them. There are women who feel the same way and are perfectly satisfied with an adult relationship as long as they receive an allowance, so I think it might be a good idea to make offers mainly to women like that.
When it comes to dating, I don’t think there’s really such a thing as “deeper” or “more superficial.” I believe it’s about what you personally find enjoyable. Of course, being considerate of the other person should be a given...
So even if there is something deeper, it’s something you have to discover for yourself—and something you create.
That’s why, when you ask what lies beyond a dating club, the answer is: if you can’t discover it for yourself, then there’s nothing there. And I think what each person discovers will be different.
Enjoy your dating club life!
Just my personal opinion.
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> Ultimately, the goal is to have an adult relationship with a young woman who’s your type—that’s what it comes down to.
> I think that’s a perfectly reasonable way to look at it.
> That said, I recommend approaching this with the relationship itself as the main focus.
> Make sure it’s enjoyable and beneficial for both you and the woman you’re seeing.
Just because the man is paying doesn’t mean I recommend constantly switching from one woman to another.
Once you start seeing someone, I think it’s better to maintain the relationship for a while—ideally until she’s ready to graduate from the dating club.
I’ve been seeing one woman for four years. She has already left the dating club and started working, so she doesn’t need as much financial support anymore, but having some is still better than having none.
So I suppose we’ll probably keep going until she gets a boyfriend or something else changes in her life.
I’m also just thinking, “Well, why not?” (lol)
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I think it’s different for everyone.
For me, it’s curiosity. My sex drive also comes from that curiosity, but I think there are things you can show and talk about precisely because you’ve taken your clothes off.
Because a dating club is a place built around desire, it’s easier to form relationships where people can openly talk about what they want—and that also satisfies my curiosity.
That’s what I enjoy about dating clubs.
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There may be something there, or there may be nothing at all.
Everyone may fail to reach it, or perhaps no one will.
Either way, I think it’s enough to follow the rules properly and do your best not to hurt the girl you’re seeing.
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With my money, I’ve helped one person become a pilot, another become a nurse, and another become a dental hygienist, so I’d like to keep it up.
It’s fun to watch.
Though, of course, young and sexy is still the best.
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I think it’s like an endless stretch of shallow water that looks as though it might lead somewhere, but actually has nothing beneath the surface. Though if you keep running through it believing that, maybe one day you’ll stumble into deep water.
You asked what “the deep” is, and what kind of scenery you find there. The phrase “comfortable self-sacrifice” comes to mind. It sounds a bit dramatic, but something like, “I’d die for this girl.”
Just as women have maternal instincts, perhaps the paternal side of me gets stimulated.
Self-analysis is difficult.
P.S.
As for how I enjoy papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and explore the depths—speaking only for myself—I thoroughly study the girl in front of me. Not just the direction of her sexual desires, but also her background and how she was raised, breaking everything down piece by piece.
When you pursue someone’s preferences far enough, you eventually come face-to-face with the way that person was shaped as a human being. There are innate aspects, of course, but acquired influences are significant too.
Just like what I said yesterday about not bringing up her biological daughter, at some point you encounter something like her “prime number”—a solid core that can’t be broken down any further. In my case, I confront that core. If I feel I can embrace it and gradually dissolve it, I get motivated. If I think it’s a little beyond my ability to handle, I withdraw.
Loser-san has been reacting rather strongly. Did something strike a chord with him—some kind of prime-number-like core inside him? If so, that may be the very root of why he laments that he can’t fall in love… Though I apologize if I’m mistaken again.
People like Potassium-san, who don’t particularly feel anything even after hearing about someone’s biological daughter, are the papa-katsu girls who are truly happy.
Seattle-san’s story about raising a pilot was really something. I haven’t done anything quite that substantial yet.
When all is said and done, I just pat their heads, tell them, “You’re cute. I like you,” and heal them with words.
Maybe what they really wanted was to hear those things from their biological parents, but you can’t choose your parents.
Money is difficult to use and give in the right way. Just like medicine can become poison if you take too much, there’s an appropriate balance.
You can’t help someone without money, but giving too much is frightening too. In that respect as well, I have to admire Seattle-san’s boldness in raising a pilot, haha.
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“My goal is ultimately to have an adult relationship with a young woman who’s my type. That’s really all there is to it.”
Yes, I think that’s a perfect answer. Universe has a large number of registered women, they don’t embellish their profiles like escort services do, you don’t have to spend extra money on accompanying them or after-hours dates, and even if you receive a lot of offers, you won’t be seeing eight women a day like a popular sex worker. You can fulfill your dream safely, securely, and efficiently. As long as you follow the rules and observe proper etiquette, you should be fine enjoying yourself respectfully.
Or are you perhaps expecting someone to tell you that “at a dating club, you can fall genuinely in love with an ordinary woman”? If so, that’s a mistake（笑）
Planning dates entirely around your own preferences, having a scenario where you win her over with the ultimate pickup line, making her weak-kneed with your amazing technique in bed, then having a long pillow talk afterward—and finally sending her a message after you part ways, pouring out your true feelings… All of that is just male self-indulgence.
Sure, it might succeed some percentage of the time. But that only means she couldn’t bring herself to refuse, couldn’t find a way to dodge you, or put up with it because the allowance was generous. In that sense, I suppose she would be an “ordinary woman.” But taking advantage of that with a “genuine love” act is all it is—or, put another way, legally sanctioned rape. It goes against the purpose of the club, and frankly, it’s embarrassing as a man. Men who don’t talk about “genuine love” and simply enjoy themselves modestly and respectfully are far superior human beings, in my opinion.
Sometimes genuine feelings do develop as a result. After all, two people are meeting each other. But that can happen with sex workers or hostesses too. It can even happen after getting close to a woman who works at Starbucks. There are all kinds of hesitation, misunderstandings, and moments when both people lose control of what they say or do. Suspicion and wariness clash intensely with hope and fantasy, and only later, looking back, do you think, “That really was genuine love.”
I don’t think it’s a goal; it’s merely a possible outcome. Isn’t saying things like “I want to experience a passionate love” a bit creepy—like a girl who’s in love with the idea of romance itself? So don’t overthink it. You’re fine as you are. If you’re going to fall, you’ll fall, so there’s no need to worry about it.
Taro
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That “something deeper” seems to vary from person to person. Some people want to support a woman who has struggled in life, while others enjoy helping a woman who would turn heads wherever she goes become even more beautiful. From what I’ve seen in the Q&A posts and columns, it seems there are all kinds of motivations.
Through experiences like these, perhaps they enjoy feeling needed, or adding an extraordinary spark to an otherwise monotonous life of work and family.
Lately, I’ve been spending more time alone, so after looking through various posts and giving it some thought, I feel that my own relationship style is fairly low-key. Maybe I’m not the kind of woman who can offer that “something deeper.” I still have a lot to learn. I’ll reflect on that.
I hope you meet a wonderful woman and enjoy all the pleasures beyond just the physical.
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What would it be like to be able to go on dates almost every day with that ideal girl—someone you also feel has incredible physical chemistry with you?
You’d always get to enjoy the rich, ever-changing emotions reflected in a young woman’s expressions.
> My goal is to have an adult relationship with a young woman who’s my type.
If you use a club, that goal could come true as soon as tomorrow, or within a few days.
It depends on you, but what matters most to you: an adult relationship, dating, being in a relationship, the nature of the connection, or the sense of luxury and fulfillment that money can provide?
Your actions and results will vary depending on what you’re looking to gain.
And once you meet your ideal woman, you must never grow bored with her if you want to keep her by your side. She won’t fully open up to you unless she feels confident that you’re not going to lose interest in her.
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The people answering here are a bunch of blissfully self-satisfied types who think, “My papa-katsu is the pinnacle of existence,” so I doubt you’ll get much useful advice from a question like this. Still, I’ll answer anyway.
There are really only two options: a genuine daughter-like relationship or serious love, right?
I couldn’t find anyone I truly fell in love with, so I’ve gone down the daughter-like route. But some of the people answering here have apparently found genuine love.
Nothing enriches your life like love, so I’m jealous of those who’ve managed to fall deeply in love.
I’m just a defeated papa-katsu guy wandering around like a ghost.
I’ve experienced both the absolute peak of cuteness and the absolute peak of beauty at Universe. There’s nowhere higher to go. I don’t even see them on TV.
But I couldn’t fall in love.
I’m still seeing the most beautiful one now without an allowance, but I still haven’t fallen for her. My ace has even started saying she doesn’t need an allowance anymore, yet my heart still doesn’t stir.
It’s obvious that something inside me is broken...
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