I’m thinking about leaving papa-katsu behind!

If you’ve saved over ¥10 million, you can take a break, but let’s save more until you get married. Keep those savings absolutely secret and stash them away for life. There’s no such thing as eternal love. If you’d choose your boyfriend over ¥1 billion and give up the money, then sure, you can quit right away.

I agree with Aya. By the way, what made you start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? If it was because you felt lonely or wanted validation, I feel like you might come back to it again soon… Are you saving or investing the money you receive through papa-katsu? (*´ω`*)? I worry that if you spend the money from papa-katsu however you like and plan to rely on the income of a high-achieving boyfriend in the future, you may eventually find yourself wondering, “What can I actually create or achieve on my own?” That thought can really bring you down. Before worrying about “graduating” from papa-katsu, I’m a little concerned about you… ( ´・ω・｀) I hope you work hard, graduate from university, and go on to lead a wonderful life. (๑>◡<๑) Oh, and as for goodbyes, most of mine ended in arguments… Sorry!

If that’s how you feel now, I think it would be best to graduate from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). No one knows what the future holds. Even if you and your boyfriend are in love now, who knows how you’ll both feel ten years from now… As for ending things, I’m the type who believes in explaining it properly. If you’ve been seeing them for a long time, think about each papa (male supporter) individually and decide how best to let each of them know.

Wouldn’t it make sense to retire from papa-katsu once you actually marry that boyfriend? Since you’re not even getting married, if your papa is already thinking that way, then he’s that kind of papa. It’s perfectly fine to say goodbye by leaving his message unread. That would mean taking a break from papa-katsu for now—or retiring altogether if you no longer feel like continuing. Honestly, though, I wish there were a papa you really liked who would celebrate your marriage, and still want to meet up afterward—not for papa-katsu, but simply to listen and be someone you could turn to for advice.

> I’ve been seeing my current papas for the past one or two years. Should I explain my reasons properly and say goodbye while thanking them? There’s nothing wrong with thanking them and ending things, but honestly, you seem like the type who’d come running back the moment your boyfriend dumped you. Sorry. From your question, I can tell how confident you are that “turning my youth into money is way too much fun!” That kind of feeling is addictive, so it’s hard to break free from it. I can easily imagine you still doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) at 30…

I’m Potassium, a female member with a high-spec boyfriend. (My boyfriend and I have such incredibly warped feelings for each other that I can still do papa-katsu, lol.) Hmm… if I came to love my boyfriend as much as the questioner does, I’d probably just take a break for the time being. It depends on the relationship I have with my papa, but in my case, we’ll continue being intimate until I get married, and after I’m married, we plan to remain friends without intimacy. So it wouldn’t end abruptly, and I feel like I wouldn’t necessarily need to draw such a firm line. Because he’s high-spec, women are constantly throwing themselves at him. I never know when someone might take him away. Even if you think you’ll be able to get married, it may not work out. Marriage involves both your partner’s parents and your own. As for thinking, “I’ll never do this again,” I know that if I ever wanted to start papa-katsu again for some reason, I’d feel stressed about betraying my past decision, so I personally wouldn’t do it. But if you’re the type who can move forward without worrying about promises you made to your past self, and continuing halfway makes the present painful, then maybe you should quit. Ah, judging from the question, you were asking about properly expressing your thanks, weren’t you? I’m the type who does that properly. (Unless the papa doesn’t want it.) I haven’t received that many offers, but with everyone I’ve met, I always sent a final message expressing my gratitude and saying that I was glad we met and had the chance to talk. I want the men to feel, in the end, that they were glad they got to meet me. It would make me happy to be remembered as a wonderful woman by someone. (Self-serving, I know.) That’s just my personal opinion, though.

Rather than quitting for good, I think it might be better to take a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). A few girls have come back after taking some time off. One is currently on a break too, and I’d say there’s about a 50/50 chance she’ll return. That is, if she finds a papa (a male supporter) she gets along well with and who offers good terms（笑） This is just based on the small sample size of people around me, but while you’re still a student, I don’t think the chances of ending up marrying your already high-spec boyfriend are necessarily that high. Sorry for the mean-spirited answer.

Best option: Delete all of your papa’s messages without reading them (but don’t block him). Second-best option: Send the content of this question, along with heartfelt words of gratitude like, “Thank you so much for everything.” Worst option: Send the question exactly as it is. That’s just what I would do. Not blocking him sends the message that you don’t actually hate him, while deleting the messages without reading them means, “Please take the hint.” That’s how I interpret it. If it were me, I’d take it in whatever way was most convenient for me and give myself a gentle soft landing. Besides, written messages rarely convey someone’s true intentions and are easily misunderstood. Writing out the reason for ending things and sending it is nothing more than self-satisfaction. That’s why I think deleting the messages unread is the best option. If you absolutely feel the need to say something, I’d only want to hear words of gratitude for everything up to now. Of course, as the woman receiving the money, you probably had things you had to put up with—but you were being paid. Consider it your final courtesy. If you’re going to say anything, consciously put into words only the things you appreciated about your papa and the memories you enjoyed, and tell him those. That’s important not only for the man, but for your own mental health too. If you sort everything away as a bad memory, your unconscious mind may end up carrying the trauma. You’d be creating a cross for yourself and choosing to carry it. That’s just my personal opinion, lol.

I think you should move on. > I feel that four hours of studying or spending time with my boyfriend is more valuable than four hours of papa-katsu for ¥100,000. You should live in a way that reflects what you personally value. papa-katsu is only a temporary source of support, so I think you should leave it behind once you no longer need it. Your papa will probably send you off with his blessing.

I’m not going to push you forward. Instead, I’m going to pull you back by your arms and legs. The fact that you’re posting here is proof that you still have doubts. If you quit while you still feel attached, I think you’ll regret it to some degree. The papa (male supporters) you have, who can be beaten by a high-spec boyfriend of all people, are pretty pathetic too. I’m not saying they have to win every time, but it’s not impossible to beat a high-spec, serious boyfriend. That’s what makes this world so interesting, and that’s why I’m still in it. Let’s have you meet a papa who makes you think, “I’ll never find anyone better than him,” and then retire from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Out of the papas you’re currently keeping around, I recommend continuing papa-katsu while keeping only your No. 1. There are definitely better papas out there. Some of the women answering here are true winners who continue papa-katsu because they think their papas are better than their boyfriends. They aren’t just winners at papa-katsu—they’re winners in life. Once you reach that point, you won’t regret retiring whenever you choose. And even if you don’t retire, you shouldn’t have any regrets. To begin with, is your boyfriend really that high-spec? Someone isn’t high-spec unless they consistently earn a high income, you know? Maybe it’s just my imagination, but I feel like I might have a chance of beating your boyfriend. Probably just my imagination, though. Pathetically, the only chance I’d have is through the underhanded tactic of spending money impressively right in front of you, lol. Speaking for myself, I skillfully find out on the first date whether a girl has a serious boyfriend. If she does, I go ahead with the relationship; if she doesn’t, I gradually fade out. This is a world where you have to beat the serious boyfriend to prove your worth, after all. I admit I’m completely twisted. You still have plenty of room to move up, so aim higher and keep going. You’re a loser at papa-katsu. Are you really okay with retiring as a loser? It’s far too soon to quit. Win first, then retire. Besides, I don’t understand what you mean by feeling bad for your boyfriend. He’s high-spec, right? That means girls should be flocking to him by the dozen, and he’ll be putting it in any number of holes. He’s a man, after all. A high-spec guy who doesn’t cheat isn’t a high-spec guy. He’s only high-spec compared with the small number of men you’ve happened to meet, isn’t he? Keep pursuing both your boyfriend and papa-katsu at the same time, and aim higher in both areas. Let’s become women good enough to have both. You’re nowhere near there yet. The idea is absolutely laughable. Retiring from papa-katsu when you’re still such a child that you haven’t even fully grown hair down there? You’ve got another thousand years before you’re ready. Even at my age, with gray hairs mixed into my pubic hair, I still desperately want to be popular, so I’m working out like crazy. Today is abs day. If you define them too much, people find it off-putting—abs are truly a deep subject. Since your boyfriend probably isn’t anything special anyway, stop wasting time looking at this Q&A site. Go lift weights, go running, earn money through papa-katsu, and invest heavily in your beauty routine. Otherwise, everything will end up half-baked, your current boyfriend will dump you without a second thought, and you’ll end up coming back to this Q&A site again! You can do it!! Keep working harder and become an even better woman!!!