I’m a woman registered as Type B.

I don’t currently have a regular papa, but the people I continue seeing are those I click with, respect as people, and feel comfortable with—even when we’re sitting in silence. One of the good things about dating clubs is getting to meet all kinds of people, so rather than replacing one person with another, I think it’s perfectly fine to keep things a little more casual and see multiple people…… If you politely turn someone down, wouldn’t that mean you’re not deceiving them about your type? (*´ω`*)? That said, I don’t think you can really see someone’s good qualities after meeting them just once……(*´•ω•`*

If you want the relationship to continue long-term, I don’t think you necessarily need to break things off. Rather, over the course of a few months, people will naturally drop out. From there, you can narrow it down to the men you genuinely want to continue seeing. The men will probably be narrowing down their options in the same way. Also, it’s possible to continue seeing different papas, each serving a different role, so I don’t think you need to decide on your terms too early. > Most generous (well-paying) papas cut ties with a woman after having an adult relationship (intimate) once—or have no choice but to do so. The chances of that happening are certainly higher. Even if they don’t cut ties, you should keep in mind that it’s rare for them to find a woman they want to sleep with a second or third time. From a man’s perspective, physical compatibility is more important than simply having good chemistry. I think it’s better not to narrow things down until you’ve had enough time to determine whether you’re compatible in that regard.

Congratulations on joining! I’m also registered as Type B. If it were me, I’d mainly go on dates with the person offering the best terms, while keeping the others as backups and seeing them once or twice a month to maintain a good balance. Since we went out of our way to meet, I rarely end things myself unless I genuinely dislike the person or feel it’s impossible to continue. Usually, I only start distancing myself after getting to know them better and realizing it won’t work. If you’ve already agreed to meet again, rather than ending things by leaving them on read or blocking them, I think it’s better to come up with a reasonable explanation and have a proper conversation. That way, things are less likely to get awkward or lead to accusations of misleading them about your type.

> After agreeing to pursue an adult relationship (intimate)—although no date had been set yet—would it be considered relationship-type fraud if I decided not to meet him a second time because I found another papa (a male supporter) offering better terms? “Relationship-type fraud” refers to someone who claims to be Relationship Type B but behaves like someone who is Type A—in other words, someone who says they’re Type B but insists on meeting only for meals. In your case, you simply decided not to meet him again after considering whether you wanted to pursue a relationship with him. That has nothing to do with relationship-type fraud. In the first place, even if you’re Type C or D, it’s perfectly normal to say, “Let’s meet again next time,” and then decide not to meet after all. It’s a matter of free choice, so you’re free to decline. People naturally change their minds, and experienced men understand that. > I’d like to move on to a papa offering better terms, but I don’t know how to end things with the papa I’m currently seeing. When he messages you asking something like, “When can you meet next?” you can simply keep replying: “I’m sorry, but I already have plans that day.” That should be enough. However, just as you’re thinking this way about him, he may meet someone he likes better and end things with you as well. So you could say something like: “I’ve gotten a boyfriend, so I’m going to take a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for now. If we break up, let’s meet again.” That way, you don’t completely cut off the connection. If he has a bad personality, you should probably block him. But if it’s only a matter of terms, I think it’s fine to keep the connection open.

I was also registered as a Type B, under the name Misei. I accepted as many offers as possible and went on dates with all kinds of people. From there, we exchanged contact information and arranged our schedules. When you say “good terms,” do you mean a generous pay-per-meeting allowance? Or are there other favorable conditions you have in mind? As I mentioned before, if things develop into an ongoing relationship, you can receive a more stable allowance, grow closer, and enjoy a better arrangement. They may even buy you gifts or set you up with a monthly arrangement. On the other hand, even if you receive a lot at each meeting, it can end sadly if things don’t continue… So rather than focusing only on the allowance, I think it’s better to observe your partner carefully and figure out what kind of person they are. I hope you meet someone wonderful!

If you haven’t set a specific date, I think you can let things naturally fizzle out simply by not arranging the next meeting. I wouldn’t consider not meeting a second time to be a bait-and-switch, but personally, I do think it’s questionable to break even a casual promise, even if no specific date was set. That said, it’s hard to come back once you’ve cut things off, so I think it’s better to keep them as an option. Apparently, maintaining an arrangement can be surprisingly difficult.

I’m sure other female respondents will answer your question, so I’ll offer a different perspective. You should keep as many papas who are hygienic enough for an adult relationship (intimate) as possible, even if their allowance is low. That’s because the high-paying papas are the ones who tend to drop you first. Most high-paying papas cut ties with a woman after one adult relationship (intimate)—or have no choice but to. Speaking from my own experience, and excuse my blunt wording, I already have women firmly ranked from No. 1 through No. 5. So any newcomer who can’t beat those five in terms of appeal is done after one adult relationship (intimate). Last month, I met a popular black-label B-type girl, and on our first date we went straight from the meeting point to a hotel (*). No meal. The allowance was 13 for two hours, but after meeting her, I decided she wasn’t more appealing than No. 5. There was no reason to add her to my monthly arrangements, so I’ll either see her just once or meet her one more time before gradually fading out. *This was at the woman’s request. Some women feel that dinner only (no intimacy) is a waste when the allowance is high. I never suggest it myself. If you panic and message a papa you previously cut off after a high-paying papa drops you, it’s already too late. So while you have room to juggle them, keep things going with as many as possible. Once a high-paying papa has settled in, gradually start cutting the lowest-ranking ones. I have around ten women who are something like monthly arrangements, but only about five are true monthly arrangements. The other five are “irregular monthly arrangements.” Actually, these irregular arrangements are surprisingly strong. They receive less allowance than the top five, and since I don’t get cut even if we don’t meet often, some of these relationships continue for a long time. On the other hand, Women No. 4 and No. 5 are monthly arrangements, but because I give them 15 each time, their positions are always unstable. I know this sounds awful and very unpleasant, and I’m sorry, but you’ll get hurt if you don’t understand this behind-the-scenes reality, so I wanted to share the information.