Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

I agree with what Marika wrote. It would be wise to assume that things are quite difficult. Also, as Maezawa mentioned, I think it would be better to keep your activities low-key.

Good evening. This is Potassium, currently stretching. First, I just want to say how I feel! Please don’t push yourself, but I really hope you’ll keep at it. Seriously, I’m rooting for you! Now, back to the main topic. There may not be many of them in dating clubs, but I think there are people who are open to a relationship. (I hope there are!) To get offers, do everything you can to increase your chances and make the most of every opportunity. Starting with my own papa: I don’t think he ever felt uncomfortable receiving “You’re lovely.” He said that women he wasn’t interested in because of their appearance or other terms simply wouldn’t view their profiles. So I think it’s fine to send “You’re lovely” with a comment to lots of people without worrying too much about it! As for “You’re lovely” as a way to increase your chances, the reality is that it has only a very small effect compared with the advantage you can gain from looking good in photos or having an attractive appearance, so you probably shouldn’t expect too much from it. I’m not particularly blessed in the looks department, and I’m the type who has received offers mostly from people who liked me because of my “You’re lovely” messages and comments. But I’ve never been able to get the kind of results people often post in the Q&A box, like: “Overwhelmed with favorites └(ﾟ∀ﾟ└)　(┘ﾟ∀ﾟ)┘” “Overwhelmed with offers └(ﾟ∀ﾟ└)　(┘ﾟ∀ﾟ)┘” just by sending “You’re lovely.” That said, based on my experience, it is possible to adjust the number of offers you receive through your comments (though I’m still a little short on data from the testing period), so it’s a useful tool. Right now, I adjust my comments depending on how easily I want to receive offers, so they fit the balance I want in my papa-katsu life. Also, if someone adds you to their favorites, send them a “You’re lovely” right away! If you send a message saying how happy you are that they favorited you, thanking them, and mentioning that you read their profile and would love to meet, it might help lead to something more. Good luck! I’m quietly cheering you on from the sidelines! Jiron, experience (*`∀´*)✧

Whether someone is offended by receiving “You’re lovely” depends on the individual. I think the same applies when meeting someone directly outside a dating club. With that in mind, I’d suggest not sending “You’re lovely” yourself, and only sending it to men who have added you to their favorites. It’s unlikely that someone would be offended if they’ve already added you to their favorites. (Whether it leads to an offer is a separate matter, though.)

Most male members of dating clubs are looking to meet attractive women, and while they may be a minority, I’m sure there are men who will take an interest in you and want to date you. That said, simply being told that you’re “lovely” has fairly limited impact. If someone whose appearance isn’t to your taste approaches you, it probably won’t mean much. I think it would be a good idea to word your profile so that men who like your looks and view your profile can understand your situation, take an interest, and make you an offer—while also avoiding any awkward misunderstandings. Marika

As Kazu-san said, everyone has different tastes, so personally, I have no problem with her joining or with receiving a “You’re wonderful.” I grew up during the Showa era, and if you tell me my way of thinking is old-fashioned, all I can say is, “Yes, it is.” That said, when it comes to making her an offer, I’d probably be a little more cautious.

I’d welcome it. It’s much better than being approached by a boring woman. It definitely gets me excited. If she’s attractive and has a large clitoris, I’d be interested in meeting her. However, as you know, everyone has different sexual preferences, so I don’t think collecting opinions here would be helpful at all.