A question for the female members:

It may help to think of it in terms of men climaxing externally versus internally. An external orgasm would be from oral or manual stimulation, while an internal orgasm would happen during penetration. Which is it for you, questioner? Oral and manual stimulation can feel incredibly good and reliably bring you to climax, whereas climaxing during penetration can sometimes be difficult because of losing your erection or factors involving your partner. If we’re talking purely about reliability, oral or manual stimulation might be the answer. But in terms of how fulfilled you feel, penetration might come out on top. Which gives you greater satisfaction? And which type allows you to climax repeatedly? Also, it’s important to understand that men’s thoughts are 100% dominated by women—and sex with them—while women’s minds are 100% occupied by things other than sex. That’s why women end up putting on an act and not saying what they really think, while men misunderstand the situation. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) works for similar reasons: men mistakenly think that even when money is involved, there might still be some genuine feeling, while women think, “I can live without sex, but money is more important.” Men’s misunderstandings and fantasies—that a woman could never possibly have sex with someone she dislikes, even for money—just go on forever. Some girls discover external orgasms through their underwear as early as elementary school, while others who masturbate don’t feel any need for either internal or external orgasms. Some don’t even feel any need for sex at all. Unlike men, women generally don’t care that much about these things in the first place. Men can remember a woman’s happy words from a bed during an overseas trip or honeymoon decades ago for the rest of their lives. But even if you ask a woman, “Did you like what I did a week ago?” after racking your brains to come up with creative foreplay and techniques, she may not remember a thing. Men go to sleep every night thinking, “Next time, I’ll try this kind of foreplay or caressing with her…” Wait—am I the only one? Is that why I’ve been married and divorced so many times? Yes, I’m a born womanizer… Even among women who are married or engaged, there are some who take more than ten years to be “developed” and only discover external orgasms in their forties. From then on, she would excitedly tell me, “We’re incredibly compatible.” But privately, I’d think, “It took you ten years—how could we possibly be that compatible?” Still, that was probably what it felt like to her. There were reasons for it. From the moment penetration began, she was tighter than anyone else I’d ever been with, to the point that any man would climax almost immediately from how intensely pleasurable it was. There probably wasn’t much room to focus on helping her discover pleasure. She was simply so tight that penetration alone felt overwhelmingly good to a man, while she likely never felt any real need to climax and had come to associate penetration with discomfort. Incidentally, her current husband was the man who comforted her when I broke off our engagement. He apparently climaxes quickly during penetration simply because it feels good to him, but with that kind of pleasurable tightness, I think any man would react the same way. Another particularly memorable woman—and my longest-term ex-wife—had never experienced a true internal orgasm, or even an external one. But I think she was perfectly satisfied with that. Why? From the time we started dating until now, she has never once allowed me to touch her there—the only woman I’ve ever known like that. And yet she was always so wet that she seemed ready anytime, always in a state where we could have loving sex. She also sometimes masturbated, and apparently became wet just by imagining things. As potashium-san wrote about my first wife: > The pleasure lasts a long time, and after climaxing, I can stay floating in that feeling and fall asleep. > If I’m sleep-deprived, I may sleep forever. Every time, she would sleep naked just as she was until morning. When we were newlyweds, that was almost every night. For many women, loving sex is all they need, so you could even call it sex that transcends physical compatibility. Regardless of compatibility, they’re bound to feel fulfilled. Sex where both people feel each other with love is something truly special. That’s why relatively few women experience a genuine internal orgasm. For many, their satisfaction simply increases as the man reaches his climax. Even if a woman can only climax externally, she may still want penetration and may enjoy how it feels internally. Once she has an external orgasm, she may want penetration, and if the mood is right, she may want to feel it together. It’s similar to how a man may know that oral or manual stimulation is more perfect and perhaps more pleasurable, but once he gets excited, he still wants penetration. Penetration brings a greater sense of fulfillment and unity, and when both people climax at the right moment, that becomes good sex. Compatibility is very important, but it’s also important to convey the consideration that comes from sharing that sense of unity. Holding each other, being held, embracing one another—that’s probably what it feels like. I think many people are already looking forward to potashium-san’s writing and have become fans.

After a clitoral orgasm, having a vaginal orgasm feels the best. I can climax over and over. I’m embarrassed, so I’ll keep it brief…

Potassium, you’re intense… I’m usually an external orgasm type—I’m the kind who can keep coming forever. So sometimes my partner finds it amusing and keeps using the vibrator. It feels good, but it can be a problem because the bed ends up like a swimming pool… The back hole feels good too, but I can’t climax that way. Depending on whether they’re skilled or we just click, I sometimes climax internally as well. Why not try different things? You only live once.

An uncouth female member, Potassium, will answer. With my body, internal and external orgasms both exist (the “my body” part is important). With internal orgasms, the pleasure lasts longer, and after coming I can stay floaty and fall asleep just like that. When I’m sleep-deprived, it feels like I could practically sleep forever. However, once I’ve had an internal orgasm, I stay sensitive all over. An external orgasm is still possible, but it takes time before I can have another internal one. (It’s kind of like those graphs you often see: eating salad before the rest of your meal makes your blood sugar drop more slowly.) An external orgasm feels like lightning striking the top of my head, I guess. Since the pleasure doesn’t last as long, I can have them repeatedly, but toward the end I feel like a fish flopping around, ready to die—my legs are shaking, and I get muscle pain... When my submissive side is fully switched on, being pushed even further still gives me a strong sense of emotional satisfaction. But my mood changes randomly, like a gacha pull, so hardly anyone can tell which version of me they’re going to get. (On a graph, it would be like my blood sugar shooting way up and then crashing!) Both feel good, of course, but personally, I prefer internal orgasms. So if someone focuses too much on external stimulation, and my submissive side isn’t switched on, I sometimes end up having an internal orgasm halfway through without even meaning to. Then I feel bad for finishing on my own. After that, I’m thinking, “Don’t touch me—let me sleep!” But I also feel responsible for trying my best until my partner finishes. After taking a short nap, pillow talk and cuddling feel wonderful because of the warmth of another person. That time brings me a lot of emotional happiness. My body keeps teaching me that balance is important in everything. But everyone’s body is different, so it varies from person to person. A friend of mine said she can only have external orgasms and absolutely needs a vibrator. So this is just my personal theory. Wow, that got long... P.S. Sorry, I’ll put it bluntly: in my case, I can finish regardless of anything involving a man’s anatomy. When I take care of my own needs, I can have an internal orgasm without inserting anything at all. So maybe the twist is that it isn’t actually an internal orgasm? lol But since the same sensation is happening, to me it’s basically the same thing. When I see people obsessed with size, I instantly lose interest. I probably wouldn’t be able to finish—I’d just laugh. There’d be no mood, and I might laugh every time we faced each other, haha. “Summary” When I really think about it, I have no idea what internal and external orgasms feel like for other people, since I’ve only experienced them with my own body. I revealed way too much and now I’m embarrassed, so please don’t press Like... > Mack-san Ah, so this is what you meant by a “brain orgasm,” Mack-san! I’m not really sure how I ended up like this, but maybe the pressure from my parents, the walls I couldn’t get past when it came to sexuality, and various other things caused my inhibitions to come off. Still, I feel bad that I’m the only one completely losing control every time, so I end up wanting my male partners to finish in the same way too... I guess all I can do is keep trying, lol. > Paper Airplane-san I’m pretty sure I have plenty of haters, so it makes me happy and gives me strength to know that even one person sees me that way. Thank you. When I read it again later, I realize how silly I sound, and because it’s so intense, I get embarrassed and delete it, though, haha. I’m happy (*^^*) Thank you.

From what women have told me over my several decades as a womanizer, external and internal orgasms are two different things, right? Most women say internal orgasms feel better, but some prefer external stimulation. As for the number of times, some women keep climaxing from barely being touched and can come more than 30 times in two hours, while others can only climax once or twice. So, to put it in Kazu-san’s style, the answer is probably, “It depends on the person.” One thing you need to be careful about is not licking the nipples and clitoris too much. You need to carefully stimulate the areas around the nipples and clitoris, as well as the surrounding areas, and then gently lick the nipples or clitoris at the end to bring her to a quick climax. Otherwise, the hot water in the shower afterward can make things sting, which can seriously lower her motivation for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). So please be considerate. Any papa (a male supporter) who doesn’t understand what that stinging feels like should try going to a men’s relaxation salon. If you happen to meet a therapist who provides overly enthusiastic service, your testicles can sting terribly when you shower afterward. That should teach you why over-licking the clitoris and nipples is a no-go. PJ girls put up with things for the money, so I think it’s important for us papas to keep our desires well below full capacity. **Addendum** Getting a woman to have an internal orgasm is about the shape of your penis, not technique. I’m unattractive in the face, but I have a handsome penis, so even women who have never had an internal orgasm before have climaxed that way with me without me having to do anything special. Lucky me. Things like creating the right atmosphere, being good at foreplay, and having a handsome face all play a role, but if the shape of your penis—its firmness and curvature—isn’t right, it’s difficult to bring a woman to an internal orgasm.