It seems cases of syphilis and HIV/AIDS are increasing as well…
It’s probably best to keep your partners to a trusted few and get tested for STIs regularly.
I get tested once a month. My doctor said blood tests only need to be done once every three months, so I follow that schedule. For a while, I was also getting regular COVID tests.
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Always use protection and get tested regularly. Most importantly, I don’t see anyone who’s dating multiple people.
Even when a former papa reaches out and says, “Let’s meet again,” I politely dodge the invitation because I’m afraid of STIs and don’t want to add more partners.
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That’s not just a little scary—it’s seriously concerning.
I suppose the only option is to limit the number of papas you see…
If someone receives a lot of new offers or openly says they’re seeing multiple people, they’re probably involved with quite a few partners. It may be a little safer to avoid them when possible. Even if they say you’re the only one they’re seeing, most are probably dating two or three people anyway. So if they openly admit to it, they’re likely seeing quite a lot of people, which comes with considerable risk.
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Dating through an exclusive dating club often feels like you’re constantly dealing with the risk of sexually transmitted infections（笑）
Ever since I decided to do this, I’ve been especially careful. I’m an old man, so even if I were infected, there are medications available, and it feels like I’m racing against my remaining years, so I’m not that scared. But the women I date are just starting out in life, so their situation is completely different.
What concerns me most is when I go to the hospital to get tested for STIs. Just imagining the nurse looking at me and thinking, “What a perverted old man! He must have picked up some disease...” makes me determined not to get infected（笑）
In my case, regardless of the dating type, I can’t imagine being intimate on the very first day we meet. Dating through an exclusive dating club is a kind of contract, so I’ve never been intimate until I know whether we’re in a situation where we can agree to the arrangement. On the first day, we have a meal, get tested afterward, and once the results come back, we finally become intimate（笑）
At the beginning, the women also date multiple people in case things end quickly, but once they understand my approach to an exclusive one-person arrangement and things become stable, they stop seeing the others.
That’s when they stop doing papa-katsu as promoted by Universe, and it starts to feel more like becoming a papa’s mistress.
Once things reach that point, the relationship becomes firmly established and continues despite the considerable age difference.
At the moment, I can’t see when it will end, but I suppose that eventually she’ll say, “Let’s end things.”
I’m almost looking forward to that day（笑）
Oh, and just as Fuu said, I hope you’ll get tested as well and have a safe relationship.
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I make sure to have the right information and get tested regularly.
If caught early, it can be treated with medication.
If you’re worried, I think you should get tested regularly too.
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I’m wondering what those periodic warnings about syphilis are supposed to mean.
If you’re afraid of papas like that, the best thing to do is for you, the questioner, to stop seeing those men.
In any case, the best precaution is to avoid unprotected sex.
You can get tested, but that only tells you whether you’re infected at that particular moment—it isn’t a measure to prevent yourself from becoming infected.
That said, while club activities could technically be described as dating multiple people, honestly, I don’t feel they’re all that different from young women looking for encounters through dating apps.
If anything, the men lurking around on those apps solely looking for sex seem more likely to have unprotected sex, making them more dangerous.
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Quite the blood donor, lol.
I’m getting close too, so maybe I’ll aim for 50 donations.
The word “ecchi” comes from the H in HENTAI.
I keep it to three people, including one who probably doesn’t have any papa besides me.
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If you’re seeing several papas—and have even more besides them—then you’re definitely involved with quite a few people.
Regular testing and using condoms, along with each of you seeing only one person, should go a long way toward keeping things safe.
That said, I’m seeing multiple people too.
Marika
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I get regular STI screenings twice a month, and I also get an extra screening 24 hours after having an adult relationship with a new woman.
I generally use condoms, but if a girl absolutely refuses, I sometimes have no choice but to pass. I can’t lie here in the Q&A box.
That said, even if it’s a regular partner I’ve been with unprotected several times, I still get tested for STIs after 24 hours.
But syphilis has an incubation period of about a month, so I don’t think there’s any real way to prevent it. Even with a condom, transmission can still happen.
To take truly thorough precautions, it wouldn’t be about seeing multiple partners or anything like that. After having sex, even with a condom, you’d have to avoid sex for a month, get tested for syphilis after that month, and only have sex again if the result is negative—then repeat the month-long break.
So if you wanted to eliminate the risk of syphilis completely, you’d only be able to have sex 11 or 12 times a year.
That’s totally impossible.
Anyway, I wonder where the Japanese word for “sex” actually comes from… Maybe it’s from the first letter of HOTEL?
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Female member Potassium here.
Since I’m seeing multiple people, including my boyfriend, I get tested for STIs. I even had a test a few months before joining the club, back when I wasn’t seeing multiple people. I went again yesterday.
It’s to protect myself, my papas, and my boyfriend—well, ultimately, it protects everyone, haha.
One reason isn’t papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), though—it’s simply because donating blood is one of my hobbies.
Donating blood can help ease stiff shoulders, and since I’m pretty hot-blooded, it makes me feel refreshed. I recommend it!
Just my personal opinion.
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Aside from always using condoms, I only get tested regularly.
Also, this isn’t exactly a precaution, but I usually see two or three women at a time, mostly in long-term arrangements. Whether I meet someone through the club’s new offers or find them outside the club, I don’t have adult relationships indiscriminately. Since I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I haven’t had anyone who met me once and then ended things—once we meet, it generally turns into a long-term arrangement.
Of course, I only know what they tell me, but most of them either see only me or have about two papas (male supporters), including me. So far, I haven’t gotten sick since I started.
I think the fact that most of them don’t need a particularly large monthly allowance also means they have less need to see other papas.
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