I was interested in this club and considering joining, but after reading through the Q&A, it seems to me that the main focus is exchanging money for sex. Apparently, there is a demand for that in Japanese society today. Since I’m single, I feel uncomfortable with that. I believe in God, but I’ve decided that I probably shouldn’t expect to meet someone I can truly love here. I work in healthcare, and I haven’t had any opportunities to meet anyone. I’m registered with a matchmaking club, but they expect you to respond to the other person at an early stage, which is difficult for me. Would it be a waste of time to keep looking for a partner here? I’m on the night shift today and will be heading home soon. Should I give up on romance and devote myself to the work I’ve been given in life? Maybe sometimes you have to give up on love and romance—but I feel lonely.

Judging from your other questions, you seem to be a man. Medical workplaces are mostly women, so if you’re not popular there, it may be pretty tough in other environments where the gender ratio is closer to 1:1. If you want romance, you’re probably better off staying away from dating clubs. You can pay to go on dates that feel like you’re in a romantic relationship. Some people do genuinely fall for each other, but that’s extremely rare. However, if you’re completely unpopular in your medical workplace, it’s questionable whether you’d be able to find someone even by paying. That said, if the problem is simply that there aren’t any women there you’re interested in, you may be fine… You can fulfill your work responsibilities, have a romantic relationship, and get married too. I believe these are all things you can do normally—without having to give up anything. Marika

Have you considered looking for someone through a regular dating app? I’m not saying you can’t find what you’re looking for here, but I think it would be extremely difficult. Everyone has different expectations, but based on the people I’ve met, women who build the kind of relationship close to romance that Tsubaki-san described aren’t the main group here. Given your situation, I feel it may be difficult for you to meet someone like that. And even if you did, it would basically be a pseudo-relationship, so if your ultimate goal is marriage, the chances of getting there are extremely low. (There are examples, so it’s not impossible.) Thank you for your hard work in the healthcare field.

You’re a man, right? If so, joining is absolutely worth it. Some female members openly say they’re looking for a relationship, and if you’re not used to being around women, you won’t know what to do when someone truly special comes along. If you can’t properly escort a PJ, there’s no way you’ll be able to satisfy a non-PJ woman either. Intimacy is all about experience, so apply for an interview and join today. Gold membership should be more than enough. I’ve been through five or six “rounds” of relationships with women since I was young, but I still have so much to learn. It feels like reading philosophy books by Kant or Heidegger, whose meaning changes every time you read them. Even the female respondent here has genuinely fallen for her papa, hasn’t she? There are wonderful women waiting for you.

Unfortunately, this is a dating club, so it’s a place for enjoying relationships that are close to romance. Of course, some relationships may include intimacy, but since you can’t meet anyone—and therefore can’t earn anything—without receiving an offer, women who simply want to turn intimacy into money as quickly as possible would probably choose to work at an adult entertainment venue instead. What’s more, women who work at adult entertainment venues are often viewed unfavorably here. That’s why I believe many of the women registered here aren’t looking merely to exchange intimacy for money. They actually build relationships that are close to romance, and I think that’s the main demographic here. If you’re looking for a conventional romantic relationship, you may be better off continuing your search through a matchmaking club or using a dating site or app, as those options are probably more suited to what you’re looking for. Also, when you say you “can’t meet anyone,” it sounds like an excuse to me. Do you really have no opportunities to meet people…? There are countless wonderful women out there. Lastly, though I hesitate to meddle, your question had many typos and no paragraph breaks. As a woman, it made you come across as the kind of man we call “a person to avoid.” Women tend to make judgments over even small things, so paying attention to that may help you meet more wonderful women! That was presumptuous advice from a young person. I’m sorry if this answer offended you. I hope you’ll take it simply as one individual’s opinion.