I’m thinking of surprising a college-aged woman in her 20s with a bag for her birthday. Would she be happy to receive one?
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Since it might seem a little expensive from a student’s perspective, I’d like to know whether she might feel uncomfortable because people around her could look at her strangely.
The options I’m considering are a Lady Dior, Louis Vuitton’s Petit Palais PM, Alma BB, or OnTheGo MM.
Why do you want to give her a designer bag in the first place?
Bags are really difficult gifts because everyone’s preferences are so different. Even with the same brand, she might want one particular bag but not another, or prefer a specific color. So rather than giving it to her as a surprise, I think it would be better to ask her and either go shopping together or let her choose. Also, even if she’s happy about it, it could be awkward if she lives with her parents…
Mack,
Don’t say things like that! I’d hate for more papas to start singing loudly on their dates for birthdays…
Although, when it comes to surprises, singing is definitely much more unexpected than a bag, haha.
Conclusion:
- Don’t give a bag as a surprise.
- If you want to give her a bag, give up on the surprise.
- When it comes to surprises, singing is still the way to go.
(Though it would be nice if there were some allowance afterward.)
—Misato’s inner voice
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With songs, I’ll speed up or slow down the tempo, and if the video shows the ocean, I give bonus points—it gets me hyped lol.
What am I even talking about? lol
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Bags are a very personal expression of a woman’s taste, so I’d advise against it.
A papa I used to see once suddenly gave me a bag from a clothing brand. I love the brand’s clothes, but the bag really wasn’t my style, so I ended up thinking, “I do love their clothes, but I’m not really into their bags…” It honestly put me in a difficult position.
He probably thought, “If she likes that brand’s clothes, she’ll like their bags too.” But fashion preferences are surprisingly nuanced. Even if your partner seems to love Louis Vuitton, she might still think, “The Petit Palais isn’t really my thing.”
Unless you’re absolutely confident you can nail her specific taste, I really wouldn’t recommend making it a surprise.
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Is the girl from a wealthy family?
If so, an expensive handbag probably wouldn’t mean much to her...
For an ordinary girl, there are plenty of more reasonably priced, cute brands—or even no-brand bags—that would be perfectly fine.
Going shopping together is the safest option, but since it’s a gift, she may also appreciate the thought of you choosing it for her.
If you know what brands she likes, you could probably find a better bag for about one-third to one-quarter of that budget. That said, tastes are easy to get wrong, so check whether it can be exchanged. Then you can take her shopping later and let her choose something she likes.
I used to choose and give my wife a handbag every year too, but she exchanged it almost every time.
Still, it’s nice knowing that someone chose and prepared something for you before that day. Especially when they hand it to you in person and it turns out to be something you actually wanted...
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Even if she wants a bag, she probably won’t be very happy if it isn’t the one she actually wanted.
If you want to surprise her, you should do some careful research to find out exactly what she wants.
That said, you don’t have to insist on making it a surprise—you could simply ask her what she would like.
I think it’s better to give her something she genuinely wants.
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I’m the type who’s happy with anything I receive, so I assume women are probably the same.
Since she’s still young, she likely doesn’t have many belongings yet, so that might be a good option. Though for some reason, almost all female college students these days seem to own brand-name items. Strange, isn’t it?
If you go shopping together and ask her which one she likes, she’ll probably say, “This one!”
P.S.
Haha! LOL
Mac, you’re amazing! LOL
Date tends to spoil cute girls and spend money to keep them happy, so I’ll have to reflect on that.
It really is a heartfelt song, isn’t it? I thought it was wonderful.
But Date might not be able to do that. When she says, “I really like this one,” I just end up going, “Oh, really? Really?” LOL
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The budget is probably around ¥400,000.
I wouldn’t recommend giving a student something that expensive—it would make her papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) obvious, and you’d just end up getting exposed.
The soon-to-be-released 1TB iPhone 14 Pro, paired with a pink Gucci phone case, costs about the same as the bag you’re considering, so I’d definitely recommend the iPhone and case instead.
There’s virtually no chance anyone would realize it’s related to papa-katsu, and she’d be happy almost 100% of the time. Well, let’s make that 99.9%, since Potassium-san might not be happy with it.
Also, if the choice is between a ¥400,000 bag and ¥300,000 in cash, she’ll definitely be happier with the cash.
You could casually hand her the money and say:
“Use it for beauty treatments or whatever, and become even more beautiful.”
You might just have a chance.
Apparently, with today’s female college students, it’s even more effective if you sing Official Hige Dandism’s “Pretender” at full volume when giving them the present, so be sure to practice hard.
For good measure, you should also practice getting a laugh when your voice cracks or goes so high that you start coughing.
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It depends on the person.
Even if the answerers here say they’d be happy about it, that woman might think you’re just treating her like Mercari.
Conversely, even if people say they wouldn’t be happy, she might genuinely appreciate it.
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