If I meet a Type B woman for a first meeting and don’t move straight into an adult relationship, but instead meet her for dinner a few times (maybe two or three times?) to see whether we click, how much would the male respondents here offer as an allowance for a meal of up to about two hours? And female respondents, how much would you expect?
Also, does the dinner allowance differ if the woman is in the Platinum or Black class?
I’m vaguely thinking of offering ¥20,000, but would that seem too low or too high?
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From the second dinner onward, I already know they’re not someone I dislike, so I don’t go in expecting anything.
That’s why I remember being both surprised and genuinely happy when someone gave me an allowance, saying, “Thank you for the enjoyable time.” Whether it was 10,000 or 20,000 yen didn’t make much difference to how happy it made me.
Men who are considerate of the woman’s time and effort like that tend to be thoughtful and kind in every way, so I naturally become fond of them and start wanting to continue seeing them.
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I’m registered as Type B.
The allowance varies greatly depending on the man, but whether it’s 1, 5, or more, I continue seeing them in the same way. I don’t consider it cheap or generous—I’m simply grateful when I can feel that they care about me within their means.
I also think the allowance amount is separate from how well you click and your compatibility. Raising the allowance may make it more likely that things will progress afterward, but I believe there are many things more important than that to girls. Type B girls in particular tend to have various considerations and may be more cautious. Rather than increasing the allowance, I personally appreciate it more when a man meets me halfway on those other points.
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Please give everyone 1 as transportation money and a little something toward getting ready for the date.
If you men want to win the survival race, show up looking as clean and well-groomed as possible.
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I’m B. I’ve had men give me ¥20,000 in the past, but receiving ¥20,000 didn’t make me especially like them.
Of course, I was happy and grateful, but more important than the amount were things like their choice of restaurant and the conversation. As long as the time commitment wasn’t excessively long, I think compatibility mattered most.
As far as I remember, my current generous (well-paying) papas offered ¥10,000 for the first and second meetings as long as there was no adult relationship (intimate).
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I ask what the woman is hoping for.
If she says 2, I turn her down. If she says 1, I personally feel comfortable with it since that’s the same as the transportation fee for the first date.
Just like the allowance after the arrangement begins, I don’t adjust it based on the woman’s class. For transportation, I give 1 regardless of whether she’s Standard or Premium Black.
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> I’m vaguely thinking of ¥20,000.
If that’s the amount you have in mind, I think it’s probably the best choice.
That said, I think you should try inviting her to continue things on the second meeting. If you invite her but she says she’d like to have a few more dinners first, then just stay relaxed and meet for dinner again next time—maybe the third or fourth meeting.
> If the woman is in the Platinum or Black class, is there any difference in the allowance for dinner?
There may be a difference with women in Dating Type A, but with Dating Type B, I think the difference would be in the allowance for the adult relationship (intimate), not the dinner.
I’m not sure why you’re so focused on the dinner allowance.
Dinner is meant to get her to like you—choosing the right restaurant, having an enjoyable conversation, and increasing her impression of you.
What matters is the adult relationship (intimate) afterward. (Of course, if you only want to enjoy dinners, then you should focus on the dinners.)
So rather than worrying about the dinner allowance, I think you should pay more attention to the allowance for the adult relationship (intimate) afterward.
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Including transportation, I’d say ¥10,000 an hour.
So ¥20,000 for two hours, or ¥40,000 for four.
When I was just starting out, I used to give ¥40,000 for two hours, but I lowered it.
If you’re planning to give ¥50,000 per adult relationship (intimate), you shouldn’t give ¥20,000 for dinner only. I think ¥10,000 is enough.
If you’re planning to give ¥100,000 per adult relationship, then around ¥20,000 for a dinner date seems about right.
That’s just my personal opinion (and the kanji is different from the original poster’s name).
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If you just want to see whether you click, the same allowance as the first meeting should be enough.
If you offer too generous an allowance, she may decide that dinner alone is good enough and not be interested in an adult relationship (intimate).
My conclusion is that whether she’s “Platinum” or “Black” has nothing to do with the allowance.
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That sounds about right—not too cheap, not too expensive, and probably the safest amount. (I don’t know the questioner’s age, but many papas aged 60 and over give 45,000 yen.)
That said, if you want to have an adult relationship every time you meet, I don’t think you should set it at 20,000 yen. Even 10,000—or nothing—might be fine.
You should also confirm whether she expects it every time or not.
It really depends on the person whether they place greater value on spending time with a woman or on an adult relationship.
Hmm? But the maximum is only two hours?? That’s short… Maybe it is a bit much.
Wait, though—if she only wants to meet for two hours, maybe offering more would actually be better…
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