What should I keep in mind while living with my entrepreneur boyfriend?

I wasn’t living with him, but someone I used to date was an older business owner. He had a housekeeper, so his home was clean, but she didn’t come every day and couldn’t take care of everything. I think you should do the little things only you would notice, so he can feel comfortable. I’m sure he’ll appreciate that thoughtfulness. Even when it comes to work, he always has to make major decisions, so I think he needs someone to listen and help him clear his head, as well as provide comfort. What surprised me was how happy he was when I made him homemade meals. He said eating alone made meals feel rather empty. As others have said, I think it’s important to show affection in ways money can’t provide.

You’ve found a wonderful man—congratulations. You’d understandably feel uncomfortable relying entirely on him for everything. Try offering things money can’t buy, such as welcoming him home with a smile. Even at home, make some effort to look presentable, and consider learning aromatherapy oil massage—you can find tutorials on YouTube. With enough money, he could find a woman like you anywhere. Just do your best without pushing yourself too hard.

My ex was a business owner. Well, we broke up, but he still treats me very well to this day. As Mr. Makeotoko said, he told me there are plenty of young, beautiful women out there, so he never has trouble attracting women. He has money, status, and plenty of free time, so women naturally gravitate toward him. That’s why I think you need to fill a need that isn’t about those things. What I feel is important is not prying too much. Manage your own emotions, and maintain enough composure to think, “I’m perfectly fine even without him.” I think it’s better for both of you not to become too emotionally demanding. If you live together, you can handle the housework. If you don’t, he can hire a housekeeper, and you can take care of anything that catches your eye when you visit. If you like him, I think you should clearly express it through your words and actions. And be sure to tell him how grateful you are, too! Wishing you both happiness!

> I’m no samurai, but if it comes to that, I’ll have the decency to take care of my own fate. Oh, come on—I thought you’d stay active for life.

Speaking as someone who has founded and runs multiple companies: “Creating an environment where I can focus on work” and “Being someone I can feel is on my side, no matter what.” Those would be the two things I’d want. I’m surrounded by young, beautiful women, so I’m never short of female company. No matter how cute a woman is, one who’s high-maintenance is the worst because she makes it impossible to concentrate on work. Someone who stays a step back and supports me would be ideal. Being “on my side” is even more important. Being a business owner is lonely. You’re surrounded by enemies—and sometimes even your own family can be against you. I think it’s important for you to gradually show through your actions that you’re his one and only true ally. Sorry for such a vague answer, but if there were a woman who could be on my side without getting in the way of my work, I’d support her for the rest of my life. Sex wouldn’t matter to me.

> What should I keep in mind when building a life with my entrepreneur boyfriend? I think men often feel, “She seems like she’s having a hard time, so I’d like to help her…” I think it’s best to stay by his side without getting too deeply involved, while creating a comfortable situation (environment) for both of you. You may need to do a few housekeeper-type things, too, I suppose.（笑)

Rather than focusing on the fact that he’s a business owner, I think it’s better to offer him something that money can’t simply buy elsewhere. Even if he says that he could just hire a housekeeper, he may still feel disappointed if you take that as an excuse not to do any housework. What he’s probably looking for is your sincerity and genuine feelings. It may be true that he isn’t asking you to do housework, but I think it’s an easy way for you to show your gratitude toward him. The housework is just one example. Perhaps you should think of it as showing gratitude by finding and offering something he genuinely wants. As for sex, just as sex with your live-in boyfriend is different for you from sex with a client, sex with a hostess is probably different for him from sex with someone he lives with.

Are you living together? When I was living with a 20-year-old woman, her mother and grandfather asked me to marry her, but we eventually parted without getting engaged. It was a long time ago, so I don’t remember why anymore. Every woman I’ve dated has eventually wanted to get married. The one whose engagement I called off and the one I divorced simply weren’t suited to married life. But as girlfriends, we’ve continued to have good relationships even afterward. What I’m trying to say is this: At present, the man is completely satisfied, so she has essentially made him feel fulfilled. As long as that dynamic continues, he won’t build up any dissatisfaction. However, living together or sharing a household is a different story. It’s rare to find someone you can live with every day and become increasingly happy with. If you also have good sexual compatibility, then— This is the part that concerns me: > I’m beginning to think that simply doing the housework may not be enough. If he thinks he could just hire a housekeeper, and continues taking other things for granted as well, there’s a risk that he’ll suddenly come to his senses and lose interest. Even men can find a woman’s appeal and strength in the things they themselves can’t do. Sometimes they find it attractive when a woman properly handles chores like tidying and cleaning. I think it’s not so much about what she does, but that it conveys thoughtfulness and consideration through the way she does things thoroughly. When you spend a lot of time together, you may find happiness, consideration, or gratitude in each other’s everyday actions. You may also sense each other’s vitality and enthusiasm for life—or, on the other hand, feel that the relationship is shallow. The question is whether you can grow together. Are there areas where you can meet each other halfway? Are you giving something to the other person? These are things you should think about.