Why do some men in multiple relationships refuse to get tested for STIs?
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It seems some of the people answering here are like that too, and some of my papas (male supporters) are strangely adamant about not getting tested. Their carelessness is starting to make me uneasy.
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I hardly ever get tested—only occasionally when I add it as an option to a comprehensive health checkup.
As the other respondents have said, I tend to take it too lightly because I’ve never had anything before, and I find it a hassle.
I’d taken a break from answering for a while, so I don’t think they were referring to me personally.
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I think it’s because they believe they’re fine. I used to think that way too.
Recently, I’d only been seeing one person for an adult relationship (intimate), so the frequency had gone down. However, I still get tested regularly, and I have a full panel done during my annual health checkup.
It looks like I may soon be seeing two people for adult relationships (intimate), so if that happens, I’ll probably get tested once every month or two.
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I’m okay with seeing multiple people, but I do get tested too. It’s not as often as once a month, though…
That said, whether they’re involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or not, I feel like there aren’t many men who get tested regularly.
When I went to a clinic affiliated with a dating club in Tokyo, I noticed that all the other patients seemed to be women…
Maybe everyone else uses at-home test kits and mails them in, but I can’t bring myself to draw my own blood, haha.
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It’s probably something like: “It’s a hassle to go, I’ve never been to that kind of clinic and don’t know how it works, and I’m reasonably careful anyway. I’ve never had any symptoms, so I should be fine.” Since about 90% of the patients at those clinics are women, I imagine the testing rate among men is pretty low.
People think they’ll be fine as long as they don’t have unprotected sex, but it’s the same if you involve oral sex. I remember reading an incredible story on the blog of a clinic in an area with lots of adult-entertainment businesses. I’m really glad we live in an era when HIV can be managed with medication instead of being fatal.
If you want to get the man you’re seeing to get tested, you could use shock therapy and lie: “I’m sorry, this is difficult to say, but I tested positive. I may have infected you, so could you please get tested?” While you’re at it, you could add, “I hadn’t been tested in a long time either, and I haven’t seen any other men since meeting you, Mr. XX.” That would somehow make you sound like an innocent, wholesome type, right? Then, once you’ve strengthened your defenses that way, you can carefully observe his reaction. You should be able to gather all kinds of data—his ability to manage risk, his courage when things get serious, and so on.
If you’re seeing multiple men, you can make a risk map, right? Then you can rearrange your portfolio accordingly. In addition to the allowance factor, take the risk factor into account, act all cuddly with the man who scores highest, and try to increase the frequency of seeing him. Fill any remaining income gap with the other older guys, starting with those who score highest. Let’s find the optimal balance between risk and income.
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They were originally romantic partners—or rather, my ex-wife and former fiancée. Because I know everything about her daily life, from her current family situation to what’s been happening in her life, she’s someone I can be intimate with without protection. I could never do that with any other woman.
Since I’m not lacking opportunities for adult relationships, there’s no need for me to take unnecessary risks searching for an adult partner through a club.
That also means I can carefully assess women who aren’t used to clubs—at least when it comes to adult relationships—without getting too deeply involved.
Many wonderful women are attracted to that sense of ease. Since I’m not pushy, I don’t flaunt or even give the impression that my allowance has any influence. Many women naturally click with that. In particular, I’ve been able to ease my way into the hearts of even the most seemingly unapproachable beauties.
Of course, their personalities tend to fall into two categories: sweet and kind, or spoiled. But being a man who’s attracted to beautiful women, I find both types adorable. From the women’s perspective, perhaps they see me as someone who had the nerve to approach them without hesitation. They’ll say things like, “You really have bad luck with women,” or “Paper Airplane, you’re amazing.” Often, we end up deepening a mutual, inseparable relationship and becoming captivated by each other.
So if I increase the number of partners I’m seeing, I may need to get tested more often.
I think it’s important both to choose your partners and to be chosen yourself.
As a little extra thought on the subject of having the luxury of choice: I’ve experienced the peak of happiness through love marriages and blissful married life several times. I sometimes wonder how many lifetimes that amounts to for one man… And now, having been blessed with wonderful encounters through the club as well, how many lifetimes’ worth of happiness have I experienced? I still need to keep working hard so I can continue sharing that sense of ease with others.
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Were there really any respondents like that?
I’m not entirely sure, but maybe they find it a hassle. Or perhaps they feel the cost isn’t worth it?
Universe recommends getting tested, so I really hope people will do it.
Maybe they call it a “Partners Check” because “STD testing” has a negative connotation.
Perhaps it’s just the image those words evoke? Though with PCR testing being so common now, maybe that’s not really an issue anymore.
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Everyone thinks they’re fine, clean, and hygienic.
But from a healthcare worker’s perspective, you shouldn’t touch your mask with those hands—it’s unsanitary.
You’ll end up getting infected sooner or later. Since you’ve noticed it, you should be more careful.
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I remember Shingori-san once saying he hadn’t been tested, but I’m sure he gets tested now.
I was surprised to learn that Kamihikōki-san hasn’t been tested. So you’ve only had an adult relationship (intimate) with one person, right?
I’m a bit of a player, so I get tested constantly. Blood tests hurt, but I can’t exactly skip them. I’ve actually almost been infected about five times, haha.
I use mail-in testing kits. I use Yoboukai and GME. Yoboukai tests for mycoplasma and ureaplasma, while GME tests for trichomoniasis and candida. I’ve never seen a kit that tests for everything.
GME is affordable and good, but the downside is that it’s difficult to draw the blood sample.
This is just my impression, but people who don’t get tested also seem like they probably offer a lower allowance...
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