A woman I’ve been trying to fade out and end things with for a while has contacted me saying she wants to meet.
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I’ve been trying to turn her down by saying I’m busy with work, but she keeps suggesting one alternative date after another, and I haven’t been able to get away.
In a situation like this, I’m wondering whether I should meet her once and tell her clearly, or just keep avoiding her.
What would you do?
👤Asked byGuest👨GenderMale🎂50s👑Universe male member
Haha, LOL.
You’ve got nothing to worry about. Enjoy it while you’re still needed.
Before long, people will start pretending they don’t know you. It’ll be disappointing when someone you know does that to you… LOL.
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He keeps suggesting one alternative date after another, so I haven’t been able to get away.
☆Questioner, you’re kind of cute ♡
You haven’t told him where you live or work, right?
Why not message him clearly saying, “I’m going to step away from this”?
If even that feels like too much hassle, just block and delete him.
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You’re very kind, haha.
I think a lot of men tend to say something like, “Work will be busy for a while, so I’m not sure when I’ll be able to meet. I’ll get in touch again.”
If you’re going to part ways, I don’t think either of you really needs to meet in person.
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I’m Tsubaki, and I feel like my papa (a male supporter) is probably fading out on me too, just like he is on you, questioner. I understand how you feel more than you know (crying).
I’m the type who’d rather be told straight. If possible, I’d like to meet and talk about it.
Being busy with work goes both ways, doesn’t it? When we meet, we’re both making the same amount of time for each other. So if he’s planning to fade out, I wish he’d at least give me a reason—even if it’s a lie—that would make it easier to accept. Say, his wife found out, or he can’t afford it anymore, or something.
I hope my papa is reading this Q&A too (lol).
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I’m a female member, Potassium.
I’m the type who thinks it’s better for both sides to turn someone down tactfully, with something like, “Actually…”
(If she’s not the type to take a hint, say something obvious like, “I’ve run out of money” or “My wife found out.” If you tell her there might be a claim for damages, she may even block you…)
For her sake, it’s better to wrap things up quickly and let her move on.
Setting aside the fact that I was actually a little touched that he wanted to meet and talk, it seems to have become common for couples these days to bring up breaking up over LINE, so I don’t think they necessarily need to meet in person.
If you want to thank her by saying, “Thank you for everything,” you could always express those feelings with a gift!
The other respondents are so harsh…
To my papa reading this:
When you want to end things, please just say it clearly…
That’s just my opinion.
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After “I liked her” was removed from Tsubaki’s answer, I realized this wasn’t the time to joke around, so I’ll give a proper answer.
When I end a monthly arrangement that’s lasted over a year, I explain the reason properly.
Usually, it’s because things have become stale for the woman, and I explain that carefully. None of the women I’ve dated have ever been rejected in their lives, so most of them become emotionally unstable, and some even come to my place.
That emotional instability can be frightening, but I don’t want them to ever experience heartbreak again, so I explain the reason and then end things with them.
With women who aren’t in a monthly arrangement, I simply don’t reply to their SMS. It’s like leaving a message unread on LINE, although I can still read the messages. Sometimes I block them, since there are functions that work like blocking.
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We’re both in our 50s, so I’m going to be a little harsh.
Confucius said, “At fifty, one knows the will of Heaven.”
Forgive my presumption, but that’s not the sort of question someone in their 50s should be asking. Pull yourself together!
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