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Aug 25, 2022 01:27
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Why not try becoming an answerer yourself and see how it feels?
If you feel uncomfortable asking, I think you should find the answer on your own instead.
Other
I feel like I tend to respond harshly to questions that anyone would find ridiculous—or that don’t even seem like genuine concerns, or are written in completely incoherent Japanese.
For questions that seem like the person is genuinely struggling, I answer normally.
Also, if it’s something that comes up extremely often, my response might be a bit perfunctory.
Marika
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Other
Next up is Miu, the silly answerer.
When I write answers, I try to make them as helpful as possible for the person asking. That said, I don’t have much experience, so my answers probably aren’t all that great… I am silly, after all.
I do have self-control, too. But on very rare occasions, I may stab someone with a hidden venomous needle while wearing an innocent face that says, “Me? I don’t have any poison.”
The only person I’ve ever stabbed so far is Make-Otoko, haha. He can handle it, though, haha.
I’ve gotten off track, so let me share a couple of sayings I like:
“Those who are wise can learn even from a stone by the roadside.”
“Everyone but me is my teacher.”
With so many different opinions out there, I think it’s up to each person whether they choose to take them as hints toward a solution or let them go to waste.
Other
There’s no point in responding to a genuine question with nothing but lies or sugarcoated platitudes, is there?
I do try to choose my words carefully, but if that’s how you took it, I’m sorry.
That said, I don’t really feel like answering questions that are nothing more than insults or attempts to one-up others, or questions that make me wonder, “Are they seriously asking this? Have they misunderstood something?”
Other
I’m Osaka, and I tend to give a lot of silly answers.
The good thing about this Q&A site is that it feels real. There are serious questions as well as silly ones, and the same goes for the answers. I think it’s up to each person to decide what to take away from both sides.
Before I became an answerer, I was just another questioner. I wrote about the things I wanted to know and the advice I was looking for. Mack’s advice at the time was pretty blunt: “Look at your face in the mirror,” “Don’t get carried away—it’s just an illusion,” and “Keep your feet firmly on the ground,” among other things lol.
Some people might think it’s harsh to say things like that without ever having met me, but it was really helpful to me. That experience sparked my interest, and eventually led me to become an answerer myself lol.
Both answerers and questioners are real people on equal footing, so I think the important thing is that neither side misunderstands that. People make mistakes, and their opinions may change depending on their mood—that’s what makes it real.
Even if people treat you like an idiot, ask yourself why it turned out that way. You might find something worth taking away from it lol.
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
> I’m hesitant to ask a serious question because I feel like people might treat me like an idiot.
I think serious questions do receive sincere answers.
What you’re probably referring to is the way people respond to strange questions. Once it becomes clear that a question has no real substance—or that it wasn’t asked seriously—the answers tend to reflect that.
That said, if everyone simply ignored a question without answering, it would disappear from view, so that alone should be enough. But apparently, that’s easier said than done.
So please feel free to ask as many serious questions as you like. You can tell whether a question is serious just by reading it.
Other
You’re hesitant to ask a serious question because you’re worried people will treat you like an idiot, right?
I won’t do that. I assume you’re asking here because something is troubling you and you can’t talk about it with friends or acquaintances in real life. I also think many people ask questions because they want to hear a variety of opinions.
Of course, some people are only looking for validation or simply want to share their own opinions…
When I was debating whether to interview at SALON, I started reading this site, and I continued doing so after signing up. There were times when I thought, “I didn’t realize some people felt this way.”
So, although I don’t have much experience, I answer in the hope that I can be of help to someone.
I’m sorry if I’ve made you or anyone else reading this uncomfortable.
In my case, I don’t have much experience either, and I may not always be able to give you the answer you’re looking for. But I write about how I feel at the time and what I personally think.
I expect I’ll continue doing that.
👨 Male
Universe member
When I think a question is silly, I sometimes give a silly answer to match expectations（笑）
That said, I don’t think I answer with my emotions completely laid bare.
> I hesitate to ask a serious question because I’m afraid people will treat me like an idiot.
Why not try posting it? I can’t really say anything until I’ve read the question itself...
Anyway, isn’t that okay? I think you can simply enjoy the answers by thinking, “Oh, so this is another way of looking at it.” You might even learn something from them.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Issues between men and women are especially irrational. There’s no logic to them.
So even if you respond rationally and without emotion in such an irrational world, people end up saying something like:
“Well, I can’t say I don’t understand what you’re saying, but…”
In the world of men and women, no logical answer that appeals to everyone is ever going to work.
That’s because papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a messy, highly emotional world.
Also, if you actually meet the person in real life, you’ll probably think, “Huh? This is the person who gave that answer?” Their personality can be completely different online and in person.
Maezawa-san, who often gives rather harsh answers, apparently comes across in real life as surprisingly ordinary—in a good way.
And one more important point: half of the people answering questions are idiots. I’m the prime example.
I mean, there’s something a little off about choosing to be a Q&A respondent in the first place, right? People who act like they’re smart are usually idiots, and idiots are idiots, so… wait, does that mean all respondents are idiots?
So even if you feel like you’ve been treated as an idiot, don’t worry about it. We’re idiots too.
P.S.
Wow, as expected, Misaki-san really gets it. I’ll reflect on what you said, but I won’t get depressed or start disliking you.
I’m the type who readily admits my own faults. Because I’m an idiot, haha.
Other
Unless someone digs deep and gives you a clear answer that completely challenges your way of thinking, you may never realize that people can see things this way.
Are you looking for an answer that gently embraces and reassures your feelings?
Please leave that to your friends. You probably won’t find a breakthrough that way, and you’ll just keep going in circles without making any progress.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
What I hate most are lies and talking behind people’s backs.
So I don’t post answers saying things I’d only be willing to say because the person isn’t there in front of me.
Other
I’m aware that I’m still quite immature in some ways, and that I can become emotional—or come across that way to others. My personality may also mean that I would respond similarly even if the person asking the question were right in front of me.
If I were the one asking a question, even if I considered it serious, I would reflect on it and see it as my own issue if that seriousness failed to come across.
Even in everyday life, when comparing face-to-face conversations with written communication—such as emails and messaging apps—I feel that many people are less considerate in writing, including in that regard.
As for this particular question, it seemed to me less like a genuine question from someone seeking a serious answer and more like an attempt to provoke or criticize someone specific. If I happened to meet someone like that in real life, I feel I would want to keep my distance, thinking there probably wouldn’t be a second meeting.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If you’re looking for a bland answer—the kind someone would feel comfortable saying to your face—you’d be better off talking it over with a friend over coffee and getting some sympathy.
The strength of this anonymous Q&A box is that, because we’re both anonymous, you can get frank answers.
Not understanding something that basic is pretty stupid.
For the record, I always take questions seriously. That’s precisely why I have opinions about stupid questions.
If many of my answers come across as overly emotional, I’d say you’re simply being too naïve.
Other
Before I registered as an answerer here, I sometimes thought that many people gave answers that were emotional—or, for better or worse, very honest and blunt, without sugarcoating their words.
That’s why my motto when writing answers is: “Be polite and kind, while honestly sharing my true thoughts.”
Now that I’m an answerer myself, though, I’ve realized that even among members of the same club, people have all kinds of opinions and ask all sorts of questions. Some of them are honestly so surprising that I can hardly believe what I’m reading.
I think about how to answer those questions, but I don’t have the courage to actually post my thoughts, so I just read everyone else’s answers instead…
If my answer ever comes across as harsh to the person asking, please let me know gently.
Questions targeting specific individuals will most likely be hidden at the staff’s discretion, but answerers can still see them.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’ve never gotten emotional.
I write those kinds of answers because I genuinely think they’re necessary for the person asking the question.
That’s why I think the person asking needs to take them calmly. In life, the people who are willing to tell you things you don’t want to hear are often the most valuable.
So stop being spineless and ask a serious question already.
Your character comes through in the way you write. Having someone point that out is actually something to be grateful for.
It’s precisely in that seriousness that your true feelings show through—and so many people end up revealing how self-serving they are...
Other
As I’ve mentioned before, the instructions for respondents say, “Answer from the heart, even if it isn’t entirely accurate.” I think they value the truth that emerges from raw clashes rather than some predictable, prearranged consensus. In my case, I’m usually answering while pretty drunk, so I never write anything I could actually say to someone’s face while sober. Every day, I wake up the next morning regretting it, then come back here at night—and feel a little saved if I find that people have liked my answers.
There are all kinds of respondents: some make fun of you, some agree with you, and some genuinely try to help. Since it’s anonymous anyway, being treated like an idiot isn’t that big a deal, is it? Just think of it as something that stays here, and don’t look back afterward. On the other hand, if you find something useful, just take that part to heart.
So, what was it you wanted to ask again??
There’s nothing to be embarrassed about, so go ahead and tell Uncle honestly. Hee hee.
LOL
Taro
Other
I find it exhausting to show my emotions openly, so I’m not the type to give answers like that.