Even when they message saying they want to meet for an adult relationship (intimate), I find myself feeling detached and thinking, “It’s all just about the money, right?”
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Do any of you ever feel this way?
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I wouldn’t say I completely fail to understand why you’ve lost interest, but you’re engaging in papa-katsu as an adult pastime too, aren’t you?
In this kind of arrangement, the most important thing is to keep things smart and drama-free.
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Until you’ve built a solid relationship, I believe it’s essentially 100% about the money.
As things continue, I’d like the money to become less important, and I try to build that kind of relationship.
At the very least, if I’m going to receive an allowance, I want to be someone who makes them think, “I’d rather give it to this person.”
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In my case, there’s no question of losing interest—it’s a relationship within the boundaries of a dating club, and I’m perfectly fine with that.
Still, can’t you sense that it isn’t entirely about the money? If you can, then let’s consider that good enough...
If you can’t sense that at all, I think you’d be better off either leaving the dating club or looking for another female companion. There are women who will genuinely be there for you.
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I’m sure you’re simply not compatible with the person asking the question.
Could it be that you choose women based on their looks and youth?
Of course, it’s your choice who you see, but I think the two of you are mismatched. She probably sees you as nothing more than a walking wallet anyway. So I suppose the feeling is mutual.
Why not date someone who gives you greater peace of mind?
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When did you start feeling that way?
If you weren’t jaded at first but are now, something must have changed within you. It might help to analyze what that change was.
If you thought she was a good girl but she gradually became more and more money-focused, or you kept being disappointed, then all you can do is keep rolling the dice until you meet an honest woman.
If you’ve felt jaded from the beginning, then perhaps allowance-based dating just isn’t for you. You might find it more comfortable to target women who are closer to you in terms of overall profile—women who would date you without needing an allowance.
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I’m often introduced to my monthly partner’s best friends, and we’ll meet up as a group of three. My standard greeting to her friend is:
“I’m [name]’s ATM.”
I’ve been around women three or four times over since I was young, and I have no desire to be seen as a man at this point. I’m even proud of being able to be an ATM.
A dating club is a place where you give women money and take them on dates. If that feels empty to you, go meet women in the real world.
I enjoy both, so I’ll keep making offers through Universe while also approaching women offline.
Long live ATMs!
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Hmm, that’s probably a case of “it goes both ways.” The woman you’re seeing may also be thinking, just like you are, “He only wants to get laid anyway.”
Hopefully, you can both keep your ulterior motives—wanting sex and wanting money—well hidden and make the relationship work.
If you frequently find yourself thinking, “She’s only in it for the money,” it might be worth taking a break from being a papa (a male supporter).
If you can have a successful relationship through normal dating rather than papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’ll probably feel better about it. And if it doesn’t work out, you may come to appreciate the woman you used to think was “only in it for the money.”
If you’re tired, I think you should take a break!
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They’re the one who’s lost interest. Try thinking about how the woman feels.
I’ve said this before, but having a good eye for choosing the right person is important.
It’s not enough to simply look for someone you like. You have to choose a woman who will genuinely like you too.
For example, in my case (this is probably confusing, so feel free to skip it):
I had some fairytale-like romances in high school and college, but got dumped and parted ways upon graduation…
After graduating college, every woman I seriously dated eventually ended up marrying me or getting engaged to me (I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic, so there were more than five of them). After turning 30, I even managed to maintain lifelong, positive relationships with the women I’d divorced—since I knew married life wasn’t for us, we remained lovers instead. None of them ever simply walked away…
What I’m trying to say is that having a good eye for choosing the right person isn’t just about your own preferences or convenience. You also need to be able to judge compatibility—including the atmosphere between you and the way you instinctively feel about each other—and choose someone who will like you too.
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