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Aug 17, 2022 09:59
9 answers
Other
I think you should take this seriously. I recommend looking for a new papa.
The reason is that a papa who wants to keep seeing you will make time to meet, even when he’s busy, without constantly complaining.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
It may not be the case, but you should take it as a sign that the relationship could be coming to an end.
You should approach the relationship with that level of awareness.
It’s also important to think about risk management so you’ll be prepared in case you do break up at any time.
To answer seriously, it sounds like they’re thinking, “Maybe I should put a little distance between us.”
I often feel that way about the woman I’ve been seeing the longest.
But then I sometimes want to see her, and she occasionally invites me out too.
That’s probably why we’ve been seeing each other for years.
Other
Maybe it’s because of Obon, or perhaps things really will get hectic starting in September!
But if he doesn’t contact you for a long time, it might be a sign that he’s saying goodbye. (´・ω・｀)
Other
It probably depends on the person, but when I get busy, I actually want to see her more, so the number of times we meet hardly changes—though the time we spend together gets shorter.
(Of course, since that’s due to my schedule, the allowance doesn’t change.)
That said, this only applies to girls who are a high priority for me. I’ll meet them whenever I have a bit of free time.
In any case, unless you have a monthly arrangement or something similar, if you’re meeting less often, I think it’s perfectly fine to look for a new papa.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If this relationship is making you feel anxious, that may be the case.
Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about giving each other a sense of validation, so if they’re showing changes that make you uneasy, it could be a sign that something is wrong—and it may not be a healthy relationship. It doesn’t necessarily mean either person is solely to blame.
For now, if they’re still meeting you and the frequency hasn’t changed, worrying unnecessarily will only lead you in a negative direction, so try not to overthink it. Take a chance on things improving—or on the current relationship continuing in a good place. If it still doesn’t work out, you can always move on.
Once you give up—or your feelings turn elsewhere—the other person will gradually lose interest and leave.
Other
Papa’s job… isn’t it handling the financial close?
Don’t limit yourself to just one person supporting you—find some new papas as well.
As Marika said, if you don’t turn down your date plans, you may gradually become a higher priority.
👨 Male
Universe member
With the economy gradually returning to pre-COVID conditions for many companies, they’re probably quite busy.
I think it’s best not to worry too much and simply wait.
Also, you should avoid relationships that feel like they might turn risky.
If you’re an easygoing woman for men to date, I don’t think you have anything to worry about.
Other
I don’t know whether it’s work or another woman, but it does feel like you’ve been pushed down his list of priorities.
If you accept that papa’s date invitations no matter how last-minute they are—even the day before—he might think you’re devoted to him because you don’t have any other papas, and there’s at least a chance he’ll value you more.
This is based on my recent experience.
Marika
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
That alone doesn’t tell us what the situation is really like.
You’ll have to trust your own instincts.
In any case, it sounds like you’ll be seeing him less often, so I think it would be a good idea to find another papa (a male supporter) in the meantime.
By the way, when you say he keeps repeating that he’s busy with work, do you mean something like: “I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work! I’m busy with work!”?