I’m the person who asked about tsundere and the like. https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/13889

Is this man even your boyfriend in the first place? If he is, then going on ten dates without touching you even an inch—sorry to say this, but is he a virgin? My first girlfriend was my ex-wife, and after we started dating in college, I didn’t touch her at all for quite a while—probably around ten dates. But that was only because I was too chicken. Once I touched her, things gradually escalated, haha. These days, I feel like it’s unrealistic for either men or women to wait until marriage to have sex… If he isn’t your boyfriend yet, then not touching you even an inch after ten dates is perfectly normal until you’re officially together. Calling that “sincere” is honestly laughable. How poorly have you been treated up to now? That said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting a high-spec boyfriend. Go ahead and do as you please.

Being raised by a single parent doesn’t give you any advantage. Unfortunately, that’s just common sense: people generally assume their partner has two parents, so if you come from a single-parent family, it simply gives them one more thing to wonder about. That said, you’ll be fine if you have enough good qualities to outweigh that. I said before that if you want to get married, it’s quite important to be liked by your partner’s parents, so you should work on your inner qualities. The same applies here. As for your relationship with your boyfriend, he won’t drift away as long as you continue to grow, stay interesting, and bring something enjoyable to the relationship every time you meet. To keep a relationship going, it’s important to be an “interesting woman” overall. Little tricks alone won’t cut it. Unless your sincerity and intelligence show through, I don’t think you’ll be chosen as a marriage partner. So do your best.

You seem so focused on his intelligence that you might miss what lies beneath his personality, which is concerning. I think you should date him for at least three years. By then, you’ll start to see his true side, and you can think things through from there. If you’re considering marriage, take a good look at his parents. He really is a lot like them…

The people answering here are just showing off after making their papa-katsu debut, and most of them don’t have much relationship experience anyway. You’re asking in the wrong place. It’s perfectly normal to be attracted to high-status men. There’s nothing strange about it. If you’re choosing between a low-status guy with an amazing personality and a high-status guy with an average personality, the high-status guy wins. I think her name was Tsubaki? If I remember correctly, she said that the first thing she looks for when choosing a man is whether he has money. She said she would never fall for a poor man. Well, of course. To women, men are like shoes and handbags. Would you rather wear cheap shoes or expensive ones? It’s about which version of yourself you prefer when you’re wearing them. I’ve never once been turned down for an adult relationship by a woman I met through a dating club. That’s because, even if I’m low-status as a man, I’m high-status as a papa (a male supporter). And the main thing that makes someone high-status is a high allowance. I’m extremely careful about my grooming. I can confidently say I care more about my appearance than most women who let themselves go. I work out and run every day, and my regular partners touch my upper arms and breasts. I’m hairless from getting treatments, and I’ve even been complimented on my body odor and breath. But almost none of that really matters. It’s the allowance—the allowance. I get approval from premium black-label girls because I offer a high allowance. Women choosing high-status men is only natural. If you want to make her fall for you without resorting to a shotgun marriage, work hard at intimacy. To that end, tighten up your body with strength training and running. A well-defined six-pack paired with large breasts is unbeatable.

If he’s taken you on ten dates without making even the slightest physical move, his family probably doesn’t care much about family background. (If they did care about that sort of thing, they’d probably have made sure he was well educated in social skills and balance, too.) I think Taro’s advice is the best. Try to put aside distractions and other worries as much as possible, and focus on building a world for just the two of you.

Since I’m posting again, I let my imagination run wild. “How I, the cute girl with big boobs, outsmart everyone” I’m thinking of writing a novel like that! It’s about a girl who plays a little devil in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and everything that happens on her way to marrying her high-caliber boyfriend. Do you think it’ll sell? Everyone, please buy it ♥ Will men read it? Will even Todai students buy it? At the very least, do you think it’ll be a huge hit with women? Dreaming of it becoming a massive bestseller—then the questioner and I both win, lol.

Is it really wrong to like that he’s high-spec, too? I just hope she isn’t being deceived by it… As Taro wrote: > I didn’t fool around in high school because I was busy studying for entrance exams, so everyone assumes he’s serious and > genuinely sincere, and women interpret everything in the best possible light, exactly as the man wants them to. Apparently, even if the man doesn’t deceive them or explain anything at all, women will just interpret everything in whatever way suits him. In reality, just as some people can sing well without practicing, people who are capable of getting into the University of Tokyo often barely need to study for the entrance exams. Compared with kids who study normally for exams, those who have other things they want to do can spend all the time they want pursuing their interests, and their parents don’t object at all… including relationships with the opposite sex, of course. They’re not delinquents, so I suppose they may seem a little serious, though… If he works quickly and efficiently, perhaps he’s also using the times when he can’t be reached meaningfully to do the things he wants to do… > I’ve never met a man who went on ten dates without touching me even a tiny bit. Even that may simply be the questioner interpreting things in the best possible way on her own. Perhaps the questioner goes through life interpreting everything positively, no matter what happens with the man she’s seeing. She seems to be in the throes of infatuation right now, so she can probably continue believing that for a while—or perhaps forever. After all, the man doesn’t need to say or do anything. She interprets absolutely everything in the best possible way and continues to believe in him. She doesn’t want anything to shake her faith in the woman—in other words, in herself. That part will never change… So it will continue indefinitely. She’ll probably be able to keep following him. From the man’s perspective, that’s not necessarily a bad thing either. > Taro, That image is exactly right. Because she has that image of him, everything ends up working in his favor. I think that’s exactly what’s happening with the questioner this time, too. She probably can’t see him any other way. In reality, it’s not all that different from singing or sports. People at top schools often don’t study all that much—or rather, just like with singing and sports, effort alone isn’t enough. However, compared with sports, the number of people admitted to top schools is in the tens of thousands and the competition is less intense, so some people can get in with a certain amount of effort. Going to the University of Tokyo is harder than making it to the Koshien, and becoming a hit singer is far more difficult. Singing and sports are brutally tough worlds where even talented people who work desperately hard may not get results. Compared with that, academics are a much more forgiving world. In fact, it isn’t really a competition; it’s simply a place for learning. But more importantly— Thanks in part to that image, I’m truly grateful when a woman sees me as “serious.” I really mean that in a positive sense. No matter the situation—even if things turn into a complete mess involving other women—she’ll always believe me. Or rather, I don’t even have to ask her to believe me. She thinks things through on her own and interprets everything in my favor far beyond anything I could imagine. I’m left wondering, “Can she really interpret it that positively? Even to the point of deciding that the other woman is entirely at fault?” She just keeps expanding the story in her head and viewing absolutely everything in the best possible light. That image never falls apart… This seems to have gone off track, so I’ll stop here. Sorry…

I didn’t answer the previous question because it was posted during the day. I’ll answer everything here. First of all, I don’t think University of Tokyo students are popular. People say, “Wow, that’s amazing,” because they’re at the top of the academic pyramid, but they’re also half intimidated by them. Deep down, women think, “He’s way too smart—he’ll just treat someone like me as an idiot,” so the only ones who genuinely approach them are academic elitists. Campus is almost a desert—not to be rude, but there simply aren’t many women, and more of them care about brains than looks. There are universities they’re friendly with, like Ochanomizu and Tokyo Woman’s Christian, but generally speaking, those are fairly homogeneous groups, so their world is small. They spent high school studying for entrance exams instead of having fun, and unlike women, men need money to have fun, so I don’t think they really blossom in their twenties. Their youth begins in their thirties or forties, so before that, they’re relatively easy prey. If you want to win someone like that over, I think you can just go straight at them. Throwing in the occasional curveball is more than enough. In other words, it’s elementary-school baseball. Their experience and social literacy are limited, so they won’t understand subtle games. A typical academic elitist’s pattern is getting intimidated by someone’s educational background, overthinking everything, and self-destructing. I think it comes down to having the courage to throw a fastball right down the middle at a batter who seems flawless. And in the end, nobody can do it. That’s why, for men, those kinds of women often turn out to be foreigners rather than Japanese women once they reach their forties. Even if they’re supposedly at the top of the academic hierarchy, very few people can fully commit to marketing themselves along those lines, so I think most of them are unhappier than you’d imagine. Oh, I’m not talking about myself. This is something I heard from a classmate. Poop Taro only made it through middle school. My highest educational qualification is alcoholism. It’s not exactly a good school, but it’s addictive enough that I can’t quit. Actually, I might not have graduated yet (sweat). Incidentally, University of Tokyo men who attended private girls’ and boys’ schools with automatic advancement are incredibly compatible. I think these two can have the kind of fairy-tale, girlish, pure love that nobody would understand even if you wrote about it here. As long as you keep moving forward without hesitation, you’ll be fine. Given the way society is set up, women can build up more experience more easily, so bringing plenty of that experience into the relationship, while facing the mindset of a potato boy who only has his academic credentials and genuinely suspects her of being a prostitute, with an escalator-school girl crying and resisting with all her might—that feels like exactly the right dynamic. By the way, I think a dramatic confrontation like that would be best held at Renoir. Not Starbucks. I don’t know whether it will ultimately work out, but if you swing for the fences every time, I think you’ll gain an irreplaceable experience that only you can have. You only live once, so go for it without hesitation. Taro P.S. Paper Airplane, Yes, I often feel like the other person is dancing around inside a fantasy they created on their own. But I don’t agree with the idea that “people who are good singers are good without practicing.” Regardless of whether they went to the University of Tokyo, I think the one thing people who attended top schools can genuinely be proud of is knowing that effort can lead to results. Of course, some people live entirely on talent. But people like that are easy to understand. I don’t think this case is like that. There’s a book called Mindset, so give it a read. Going on ten dates without touching each other even a millimeter is also totally a thing. If the woman has more experience, she should just throw her arms around him. The man simply doesn’t know how to play the game. But once intimacy actually begins, he may turn out to have remarkably good technique. He may have studied by watching porn, and because he’s diligent about research, he can sometimes take things surprisingly far even on the first time by watching his partner’s reactions. But that’s ultimately just a matter of how far he can get on a first encounter—it’s nothing more than a lucky punch. What matters is what comes after that. Men may occupy that kind of position, but whether a woman can approach it with the same mindset is, I think, the most important issue in situations like this. To sum it up, it’s about whether you’re compatible or not—but I think there’s actually a lot more depth to it. P.P.S. Paper Airplane, Thanks for writing back. Continuing this conversation here would violate the rules, so I’ll stop now, but I found it all very interesting (^^)