What is everyone doing over the Obon holiday? Are you meeting up with your papa or PJ?
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My papa invited me to go on a trip somewhere during next week’s Obon break, but I’m surprised anyone would make an offer like that when it’s so hot, exhausting, and we’re still dealing with COVID. I’d be perfectly happy just meeting for a few hours and receiving my allowance! How should I turn him down if I can’t be honest about how I really feel?
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It’s a shame that the papa I was supposed to see for the first time in a while caught COVID and can’t make it to Tokyo.
I’m not going on any trips, but I do have someone I see at a regular pace.
My main papa is away on a long-term business trip, so I’m basically spending my time feeling lonely.
Marika
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It’s not really a long enough break to call it an Obon holiday, but since I work in back office and have a pretty flexible schedule, I’m planning both to take the shinkansen to see my super-close papa (a male supporter) who lives far away and to fly home to my hometown!
But two of my plans for this weekend got rescheduled, so I’ve been incredibly bored… I want to go to a hot spring!
I think last year during Obon, my papa didn’t give me much attention, and I remember feeling lonely the whole time. I’ve been blessed with some wonderful encounters over the past year. So grateful, so grateful.
If you don’t want to go, maybe consult your wallet (allowance), turn it down, and suggest a date that would only take a few hours instead?
“I don’t have enough time to go on a trip…”
“It must be really hot and tiring, so how about going for a drive instead?”
Have a wonderful Obon holiday♪
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For Obon, a woman invited me to Okinawa. If it’s an unpleasant older guy, then sure—keep it to a few hours, with the allowance being the only condition.
COVID is just a cold. Japanese people are way too nervous. There are 37,767 cases—maybe they should just stop counting already.
I’ve had three vaccine doses and haven’t been infected yet, though I might be next soon. I’ve stocked up at home on test kits, acetaminophen, jelly drinks, candy, and plenty of fluids. I don’t plan to go to the hospital unless it becomes serious.
As for how to turn someone down:
Say you’re going home to visit family, working part-time, doing an internship, or have work.
If they still keep asking, say, “I’ll go if you give me ¥○○万円 so I don’t have to work part-time,” and name an outrageous price. If they’re willing to pay that much, just think of it as going to a concert by an artist you dislike, and commit to acting like you’re having fun.
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I’ve been invited by a woman close to my age, so I’m taking the bullet train to meet her in her hometown.
I also caught BA.5. This is the umpteenth time I’ve had COVID, but it was mild again.
I’m not stupid enough to get vaccinated with a vaccine developed for the Alpha variant to protect against Omicron, so I’m unvaccinated.
I don’t think I’ll get vaccinated in the future either. Is life really that enjoyable if you spend it running from COVID, which has been reduced to nothing more than a common cold? Wearing a mask and keeping conversation to a minimum is enough.
I’ve looked at COVID-related data from all over the world, and it’s basically just a cold virus now.
Young women in particular don’t need to get vaccinated at all. Even if they do get infected, they’ll be fine isolating at home while taking over-the-counter fever reducers and Kikyo-to. There’s no need to insist on using Caronal.
For the record, I personally know enough people who died after getting vaccinated to count on both hands. My impression is that many of them were young women.
Vaccines are something old men and pot-bellied papa supporters only need to get as a sort of good-luck charm.
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Why not look for a papa (a male supporter) you’d actually want to travel with?
With travel, you should be the one saying, “I want to go!” “That was fun!” and “Let’s go again.”
If you keep meeting a papa you can’t be honest with and don’t even enjoy spending time with, that’s not papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—it’s papa hell. No different from just having a job.
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I’ll be going back home for Obon, so I won’t be seeing my papa (a male supporter).
With family trips, class reunions, and other hometown commitments, I think you can turn down a trip with your papa. You can steer the conversation toward something like, “Surely not during Obon, right?”
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I’m going out with a woman tomorrow.
Nothing will change just because it’s Obon.
As you wrote yourself, I think you should simply be honest and say that you don’t want to travel during the COVID-19 pandemic.
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