I’m a woman in my mid-20s.

I’m in my 30s too, and senior business owners sometimes tell me I’m “green” or “young and inexperienced,” but no one has ever gone so far as to say I’m still a “greenhorn.” Maybe that particular choice of words struck a chord with the papas. Looking back objectively, I was naturally much greener in my 20s. Even now, in my 30s, I still have plenty of immature, inexperienced sides when viewed by senior people I respect or those who have achieved results. So I think the questioner’s impression is exactly right. Even as a man, I’ve met people in their 40s and 50s who are clearly different from those my age—people I couldn’t possibly catch up with at my current age, yet who are incredibly attractive and whom I admire. So I can understand why a certain number of women are drawn to people like that. Some of them make you wonder why they’re still single, while others are divorced for various reasons, so there are certainly people who could be potential partners. I don’t think you need to worry too much about that aspect. That said, speaking from a concerned older-person perspective, as I mentioned earlier, I’m assuming these people are attractive—including financially. If that’s the case, I believe it reduces the chances of someone like you running into difficulties in the future. Even if he were to pass away first, the financial security he worked hard to build could continue to protect you in the years ahead. Of course, if every person in their 40s or 50s seems more mature than everyone in their 30s, it could simply be a matter of personal taste—or perhaps the 30-somethings you’ve met just haven’t been particularly impressive. I still have a lot of experience to gain myself, so let’s keep doing our best as two people who are still a little green. I’m rooting for you.

They probably burst out laughing because you described someone in their 30s as still being “green.” They likely found it hilarious because they thought, “I guess that’s one way to look at it.” Generally, being “green” is associated with people in their teens. Some might even say people in their 20s are still inexperienced, but not many people would describe someone in their 30s that way. So I think they found both your unique perspective and the way you phrased it funny. But they didn’t mean anything bad by it. If anything, they probably think more highly of you now and see you as a woman who says interesting things. So don’t take it in a negative way.

Wow, I totally relate! I’m naturally attracted to men in their late 30s and up too, so I think I’m probably similar to you. Men around my age (in their late 20s), no matter how handsome or wealthy they are, still seem to lack life experience. They might be fine for something casual, but I’d hesitate to seriously date one. It’s simply a matter of preference, so I don’t think you need to make a big deal out of it or feel self-conscious!

If someone in their 20s called someone in their 30s inexperienced, papas in their 40s and 50s would probably laugh. They’d be thinking, “You’re one to talk!” But I don’t think you need to worry about it. I was also attracted to older men when I was younger, and I’m still very fond of one papa who’s 22 years older than me. These days, though, I don’t mind dating people around my age or even younger. Regardless of age, I ultimately continue seeing the people who care about me and are compatible with me in every sense. Marika

I want to say something important. The person asking this question is an angel. You’re the dream and hope of us older guys. I’m sincerely grateful, and I hope you’ll continue to show favor to older men. m(_ _)m Now, to answer your question. Speaking generally, men in their twenties are probably something like this: - No money - Bad at sex - No emotional余裕 - Handsome That’s the ↑↑↑ general image, but unfortunately, we papas are actually much worse. - Low allowance (most offer 50,000 yen or less) - Bad at sex (the more someone claims he’s good, the worse he usually is) - He seems relaxed but isn’t, so despite offering 50,000 yen, he gives you a truly awful kiss and then asks for a second round - Ugly So I really can’t help feeling that falling for an older man won’t lead to anything good. My girlfriend is more than 20 years younger than me, but I always tell her, “You should find someone nice around your own age, or slightly older.” Men usually die first, and their income usually ends first, too. I don’t think there are that many advantages to having a boyfriend or husband more than 20 years older than you. Maybe the healthiest arrangement would be to have a boyfriend around your own age and a papa who’s more than 20 years older. Addendum: The reason my girlfriend, who’s more than 20 years younger than me, chose me ultimately comes down to money and the emotional余裕 that money brings. Of course, I have more money than some young guy, so I can give her money freely and cover her beauty expenses. And unlike the way I was when I was answering questions here, I’m simply calm and easygoing. In other words: “A papa兼任 boyfriend.” I give her money, but I don’t interfere in her life or pressure her to meet me, so I suppose I’m functionally convenient for her. I’ve never viewed her as a purely romantic girlfriend. I can’t say this to her directly, but it’s no different from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). However, unlike other PJ girls, our relationship started without an allowance, so I didn’t win her over with money. That said, I’ve spent a lot of money at lounges where she could see it, so maybe I did basically win her over with money after all. No, it was definitely the money. Unfortunately, I have to admit that...

That’s probably more or less true, but I think what made me laugh was that you went so far as to call them “young and inexperienced.” There are probably quite a few women in their twenties who just aren’t attracted to men their own age.