I’m the one who just posted about my five-year relationship and complained about his farting problem.

If you’re comfortable with that, then I think it’s perfectly fine. Before things escalate, it might be a good idea to talk to him about anything that makes you uncomfortable. I hope you find someone wonderful at Universe Club whom you can build a long-term relationship with. You must be a very attractive person—I’d love to know your secret!!

I read both questions. Hmm... I feel like this may be going a little too far by my standards. I believe that the person receiving compensation is generally in a weaker position than the person paying it, so even if you’re the one providing the money, you shouldn’t do anything the other person doesn’t want. In this case, it sounds like you’re not comfortable with it, so I think you should take some time to talk things over properly with him. Relationships between men and women can bring up all kinds of issues, but when something feels important, I think it’s best to pause and face it honestly. As I’ve mentioned several times in this papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) anonymous Q&A, I believe continuing the relationship can sometimes benefit the woman more than ending it. That’s why, early on in my own arrangements, I made a point of having plenty of honest discussions. Even in a relationship involving an allowance, I think what matters isn’t the size of the payment, but the value of the benefits both people receive. To make this an enjoyable relationship that benefits you both, please don’t force yourself into anything—talk things through carefully as you go. It’s okay to say when something makes you uncomfortable. How would he feel if the positions were reversed? I don’t think this is simply a fetish, but what do you think?

> He also says he wants me to stay with him until he dies. I think he really means it. > For now, I’ll try being a little firm: > “Stop farting!!” lol Just don’t be too hard on him about the farting... lol I think you two are a perfect match.

I’m glad it had a happy ending♪ It’s hard to choose the right words, but getting a monthly allowance of 500,000 yen in your 40s is amazing. There’s not even the slightest reason to break up, and I think you’d regret it for the rest of your life if you did. > The good things about my boyfriend are that conversation with him is fun, his smile is adorable, we share hobbies, and I respect him professionally. > There are many other good things, too. If you’re getting 500,000 yen or more in allowance and like this many things about him, I think he’s more than worth holding in your farts for. So even when he annoys you, try to put it cutely. Making money is hard. Really hard. The more you earn, the more intense the pressure gets, and sometimes you even find yourself thinking, “Wouldn’t I be happier as a salaried employee?” A man who can’t give a woman the money that matters to him—meaning he offers a low allowance—is ultimately someone who’s kind to himself but not to women. Plenty of people come up with seemingly logical excuses, but no matter what they say, it’s off-putting when they can’t part with money that’s important to them. However they try to justify it, they can’t escape the fact that they’re simply not giving it to her. In that respect, your papa (a male supporter) is giving you 500,000 yen or more a month despite being nearly 70, precisely because he genuinely likes and cares about you. So treasure him. I’m not saying you should eat poop, but at least humor him by putting up with his farts. And if he gets on your nerves, come vent here by asking another question. Wishing you happiness! An allowance is kindness. An allowance is kindness. An allowance is kindness. I said it three times because it’s important. I’m hopelessly lenient with myself and strict with everyone else, so none of the above applies to me—but every man other than me believes that “an allowance is kindness.”