I wanted to reread a certain male member’s date review today because it left an impression on me, but I couldn’t access it on my smartphone. Strangely, I was able to view it on my PC after getting home.

I’m Potassium, a female member. Personally, I like receiving it in a small gift envelope! It feels like getting New Year’s money, haha. I check what’s inside after I get home. I feel that an allowance is a way of expressing someone’s feelings, so I don’t want to check it in front of the person I’m with. Checking the cash from a small envelope—or being handed money directly—in a public place makes me feel like I’m selling myself, and it really affects me emotionally. (They say the trip isn’t over until you get home, after all… I like saving the fun things for later! That way, if I truly enjoyed our time together, I can thank him for the wonderful time on my way home, then look at the envelope once I’m back and thank him both for understanding our relationship and for the allowance.) As Kazu-san said, it really comes down to personal preference, so if your styles don’t match, there’s not much to be done. If it bothers you, why not simply explain why and ask the woman what she would prefer? If both the person making the offer and the person accepting it feel that men and women are equals, then it’s kind of like a gacha for both sides… (and spinning the gacha is part of the fun)! And if the result is an SSR—a person whose way of dating suits you—then I think you should pursue a long-term relationship. I don’t think it’s about the specific details of how considerate someone is, but rather whether both people are showing consideration and genuinely care. So if you’re not sure, why not ask? Asking is also a form of consideration, after all… If the cash is handed over at a hotel or somewhere discreetly, a woman can simply think, “He’s doing that so I won’t have to count it in front of him.” If it’s given in a small gift envelope, she can think, “He’s doing that so I won’t have to look Fukuzawa Yukichi in the eye.” If she doesn’t like that, then the relationship simply won’t continue. That’s just my personal opinion, though!

I’m with Taro on this one! You’re still young, so I think you should focus on becoming a better man. And by “becoming a better man,” I don’t just mean keeping your manhood in good working order, of course… The other aspects are even more important! Keep at it!

I read your previous question too, and honestly, I don’t think that’s really what you need to be worrying about. I think you’d be better off patiently looking for someone you click with. It sounds like, with the first woman, you were outbid by other men even though your allowance was relatively generous. But she didn’t shut you down, so I’d say you’ve probably got the basic manners down. If that’s the case, the only thing left is whether you’re a good match or not. Think back to the women you’ve dated in the past. Do you want to meet someone similar, or would you rather try something completely different and have a fresh experience? If it’s the former, you don’t need any special techniques. If your basic manners are in place, all that matters is how you feel. Women are feeling the same thing. At the first meeting, you could act a little inexperienced and ask, “Are you sure I’m okay?” If she smiles and says yes, then looks away and responds with something like, “I think we’d get along really well,” that’s a bingo. You can probably tell without her saying it, but there’s something exciting about making her say it out loud, right? (Pervert.) If it’s the latter, there are techniques you can use, but a numbers game works too. In fact, “the more shots you take, the more likely you are to hit” is statistically true. Even with assassinations, there are probably more cases involving shotguns or explosives than pinpoint shots like Golgo 13, right? If you want to master the art of “winning a woman over,” then go for it—it could be fun. But if you’re only interested in the end result, I think you’ll be happier just spinning the gacha over and over. If you’ve got the basic manners down, it shouldn’t be too bad in terms of cost-effectiveness either. Oh, right—the question was about how to hand over the money, wasn’t it? Just to answer that: lately, I’ve been handing it over unfolded, like when you play Old Maid with cash. Since the allowance is sometimes on the smaller side, it’s immediately obvious how much it is anyway. (笑) Also, the better the relationship gets, the less you want to bring up money. So when those women are confronted with the cash right in front of them, they seem a little uncomfortable. Sometimes they quietly say, “Thank you,” while looking away. Even though up until that point they’d been talking loudly and casually, joking around like crazy… That awkwardness is another adorable point, really. (Pervert, part two.) Sorry for rambling. Taro

Hmm (+_+) I still don’t get it. Anyway, students carefully study guides on how to ace the interview and show up fully prepared—but what’s scary is that the interviewers aren’t worried at all that they’ve already read those same guides, lol. At this rate, you’ll be one step behind forever!

> You need practice when it comes to handing over the money. Exactly. That’s why you should learn how women like to receive it by practicing with women outside the club. Whether it’s your girlfriend, wife, or daughter, it’s a good idea to get used to smoothly and naturally giving an amount and using a method that women can relate to and respond positively to in terms of their everyday sense of money. That said, I think the questioner’s problem lies in factors other than how the money is handed over. I haven’t read the survey.

I read this date review with interest too. I honestly assumed you might be “Makeo,” the guy who always seems to lose. As for how the allowance is handed over, I don’t think either way is a problem. If you’re dealing with someone who makes you worry about details like that, I doubt the arrangement would continue smoothly anyway. I never check what’s inside the envelope. I simply don’t date people I’d have to suspect like that. The fact that you ask questions, read date reviews, and even say that you want to improve things beyond the allowance gives me a good impression of you. That said, maybe you’re worrying a little too much. I hope you meet someone you can enjoy spending time with without overthinking everything.

I read your thoughts, but the fact that you walk around town with a woman already makes it a no-go. You seem like an ordinary papa (a male supporter)—the kind you see anywhere—with some areas where you’re considerate and others where you’re not. The way you hand over the money takes practice. You need to give it discreetly so it doesn’t feel like a payment and offend her pride. It’s important to hand it over smoothly, with genuine appreciation. I sometimes say, “Please count it.” Also, I generally make offers to B-type women, and even with a C-type woman, I don’t book a hotel. Instead, I simulate the route at the same time the day before, or during the same time slot on the same day of the previous week. It’s preparation to ensure I can escort her smoothly to the room.

There’s no single “right” way to give someone their allowance. Personally, the only thing I’d avoid is handing over cash in an obvious, awkward way where other people can see. By the way, I read your date recap, and it came across as incredibly pushy. If I were a woman, I don’t think I’d want to date this man.

I think people have different reactions to different things. For example, I make a habit of booking a hotel in advance, but I imagine some women might feel that’s a little too well-prepared. In the same way, something one woman appreciates may make another uncomfortable. I think that’s why we keep making offers—to find someone whose feelings and preferences are reasonably compatible with our own. In short, there may be situations where “Make sure it’s properly on” is appreciated, and others where it isn’t. Also, I think asking or wondering whether something is appropriate by using “women” as the subject ignores the fact that you’re dealing with an individual person, which I find disrespectful.