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Aug 1, 2022 14:13
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I’m Potassium, a female member.
In my case, if “doing that” would satisfy my papa’s sexual desire, I think I’d agree if my current papa asked me about it.
On the other hand, if what satisfies him is the feeling that he’s made a woman feel good, then I’d work with my papa to explore ways for both of us to enjoy ourselves.
Isn’t that process itself an incredibly pleasurable and satisfying experience—and what allows the relationship to continue?
That said, I wouldn’t want to go through that process with anyone other than a papa I genuinely liked and respected.
I think it would be more thoughtful and appealing if women were told about it beforehand.
That’s just my personal opinion.
🏅 手コキ評論家
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Age: 60s
👨 Male
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Medication affects everyone differently, so I can’t casually recommend it—but do you mean that even medication hasn’t helped?
The writer Nobuhiko Kobayashi once said, “Even after losing sexual function, another kind of desire remains.” In that case, I recommend reading Jun’ichirō Tanizaki’s A Fool’s Diary. It may open the door to a whole new world.
Other
If it were me, I’d continue seeing him without making a big deal of it, but he’d become a low priority and I’d probably gradually fade out.
That said, if it were someone I’d already built a relationship with—say, my favorite papa (a male supporter)—and things eventually reached that point, I’d be happy just to be there for him, and even happier if he caressed me.
When the priority is money ≫ compatibility, you might actually feel lucky if penetration isn’t necessary.
Also, if you’re giving him oral and he can’t get hard, you won’t know when to stop, so please say, “That’s enough for now, thank you,” at some point.
Marika
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I’m also responding as Ishibashi from the staff.
If you’re giving her an allowance, I don’t think there’s any problem at all. That said, as others have mentioned, it would probably be best to explain the circumstances beforehand.
👨 Male
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I don’t think you’ll be satisfied.
When you’re seeing someone, it seems like you ultimately want the real thing. Women may put in the effort because they receive an allowance, but deep down, I think they want to feel the real thing too.
🏅 あなたの味方
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Age: Private
👨 Male
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If you tell her in advance that you’d like to go to a hotel and get her consent, I don’t think it should lead to any problems.
That said, if it ends up taking a long time, she may decide it’s better not to see you again. So I think it’s considerate to wrap things up in about the same amount of time as usual.
Also, getting to the root of the issue, there are effective medications available now, such as Viagra, so you may want to consider using something like that.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
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Even if she welcomes it, she probably won’t be satisfied.
It’s not just about compatibility—you also care about your partner’s reactions and satisfaction during sex…
> I sometimes hear that when there’s no ejaculation, the touching just goes on and on. If they’re really good at it, that’s fine, but if they’re rough or clumsy, it’s nothing but painful.
I agree. If you can’t finish quickly and smoothly at the right time, you’re better off not even touching her.
> Oh, right—maybe you could still learn something like oil massage at this point.
That’s a good idea. A full-body massage while both of you are naked would probably be exciting and highly satisfying for both of you. It feels especially good to start touching her when she’s at the height of her sensitivity.
> As a man, you might think, “Since I’m not going to have penetration, how about lowering the allowance from 70,000 to 50,000?” But that’s completely wrong—it should actually be higher.
You have to be prepared to do it… especially since you can’t really show how satisfied you are otherwise…
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Just kissing, fingering, and cunnilingus, right?
As long as he gives you a proper allowance, I don’t see a problem with it.
That said, many women feel that a long session of foreplay from someone who’s bad at it is nothing but torture—in that case, they’d rather just have intercourse.
I think whether you’re good at foreplay is a major factor.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
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I completely understand wanting to kiss, but I’ve heard many women say they’d rather be penetrated than subjected to a long, “Magikarp-style” kiss.
As a man, you might think, “Since there won’t be penetration, how about 5 instead of the usual allowance of 7?” But apparently that’s way off base—they say they’d actually want the allowance increased.
Potassium, what are your honest feelings from the woman’s perspective? (No-look pass.)
I hope medication can help, though I’m sure you’ve already tried that long ago...
Also, I recommend a men’s esthetic salon. Apparently, it occasionally helps men overcome ED. After all, they provide that kind of attentive touching throughout the session. Of course, kissing and touching each other are strictly prohibited.
Other
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all.
That said, I would prefer to be told in advance. Otherwise, I start worrying and wondering whether I did something to upset you.
Akari