Is it rude not to invite a C- or D-type woman to an adult relationship when you meet her?

Type C means that an adult relationship (intimate) may be possible if you hit it off. But if a gentleman turns her down despite her being Type D, did he actually read her profile carefully—from beginning to end? I find that a little rude. So why not send an offer to someone who’s Type C or Type B instead? Otherwise, you may get negative feedback from the woman.

That’s just rude. You chose her based on things like her looks—and apparently her weight, figure, and the way she talks too—so your judgment is seriously terrible… Women at least come expecting that they’ve been chosen because they fit someone’s preferences, even if they’re meeting a stranger they’ve never seen before. At least take responsibility for that… You’re being way too naive.

You should have been told when you joined that, regardless of whether the relationship type is C or D, both men and women have the right to decline. So even with a type D woman, she may turn a man down after dinner, and on rare occasions, the man may decline as well. The reason it’s rare for men to say no is that many men carefully study a woman’s profile, think it over at length, and only make an offer after deciding they’re truly comfortable doing so. Unless something serious comes up, they generally won’t back out. Women, on the other hand, go on a date without knowing what the man’s face, build, or anything else is like until they actually meet him. So even with type D, I think it’s perfectly understandable for a woman to decline. That said, I don’t hear many stories of women turning down type D offers either, which makes me think women are pretty impressive too. With type C, men with a bad reputation may sometimes be turned down after dinner. But since the possibility of things progressing after dinner is only around 50% to begin with for type C, being turned down by one out of every two women is normal. (If you don’t like that, you can simply make offers to type D women.) Of course, some smooth, gentlemanly men may never have been turned down with type C. But looking at the overall picture, I think the actual rejection rate is around 30%, which is somewhat different from the stated terms. So, regarding the question: “Is it rude not to invite a type C or D woman to an adult relationship when meeting her?” I do think it could be considered rude with a type D woman. But as Mac-san says, you should show some consideration for her feelings by saying something like: “I’m really sorry, but I’m not feeling well today and don’t think I can do it. I’m sorry.” Still, women’s profiles contain all kinds of information. Did he not read them properly? The questioner seems a little puzzling. I could understand it if he said there wouldn’t be a next time after H, since that isn’t something written in the profile.

I’m a little unconventional in that, regardless of the dating type, I have everyone start with dinner only through the club. I think both men and women should take things slowly and carefully see whether there’s potential for an ongoing relationship afterward. Even if you check your compatibility with several people, there isn’t really that much difference（笑）

If it were me, I’d be disappointed, but I’d just think, “Oh, I guess we weren’t a good match,” say thank you, and leave it at that. Women with a Type C arrangement can also turn someone down. And from the man’s perspective, even with a Type C woman, if he feels there won’t be a next time, I think it’s fine to keep it to dinner only (no intimacy). (Though I’d be really upset.)

I consider it rude, so I generally don’t make offers to Type C women. When I have no choice but to make an offer, I ask the club to let her know that the first meeting will be dinner only (no intimacy).

If you don’t intend to meet again, it isn’t rude. Just as women have the right to turn men down, men have the right to turn women down. That’s what freely chosen relationships are all about. However, if you do plan to meet again but don’t invite her to a hotel on the first meeting, some women may consider that rude.

Whether it’s rude or not depends on how the other person feels. For example, some people might consider it rude if you’re thinking, “I’m not really into it, but I guess I’ll do it once anyway.” If the woman thought it was a possibility, then it would certainly mean her expectations were off.