Thankfully, I’ve received several offers over the past few days, but they’ve all been either last-minute or from far away. Since I’m quite busy with work, it’s understandably difficult to fit in a meeting when I’m contacted the day before, so I often have to turn them down, and I’m not sure what to do.
The long-distance offers are also for places that take around two hours each way by local train, so I’ve been declining those as well.
For the women here who are members, would you accept offers like these?
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The day-before offers usually aren’t made exclusively to you. The man often asks the staff to contact several women based on things like their approximate age and overall vibe, and then invites whoever is available. It can feel a little disrespectful, though that isn’t always the case.
You can change your preferred distance in your profile, so ask the staff to update it for you.
My job also doesn’t allow me to make sudden plans, so I might have to turn one down. What matters more than the offer is what’s going on at your workplace, right?
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The girl I used to see regularly when I was traveling for work seemed to make offers the day before.
I think she initially told me that, under normal circumstances, it would be difficult to make plans on such short notice because of work and her personal life.
It’s entirely up to you whether you accept or decline. They’re not making a last-minute offer expecting you to rearrange your schedule—it’s more like their plans happened to open up unexpectedly, and they’re hoping your schedules line up. If they don’t, then it can’t be helped.
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There’s no need to overthink it. If you don’t feel you’re a good match, simply turn him down.
Even if you force yourself to meet, I doubt the relationship would progress smoothly, so this also saves him from making an unnecessary offer.
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> Many of the offers from farther away involve about two hours each way by regular train.
Generally, when people say an offer is from far away, they mean traveling by bullet train or plane. So where exactly are these offers from when they involve an awkward distance of two hours each way by regular train?
I’m curious whether there are actually people in Utsunomiya offering to meet women from Tokyo (Tokyo to Utsunomiya takes about two hours by regular train). If they’re asking someone to come to Utsunomiya in the first place, it would normally be expected that they cover the bullet train fare. Are there really men living in such an inconvenient in-between location?
> Ladies, would you accept these offers?
Even if other female members would accept them, the person asking wouldn’t, so what’s the point of this question?
If other female members accept them, does that mean you’ll start accepting them too?
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It’s okay to turn them down, but don’t just say no.
Suggest another date, or if the location is far, ask whether they can cover your travel expenses.
It would be a shame to waste the offer when you could make a counterproposal.
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My work schedule is pretty flexible, so depending on the terms, I might go. But men who make an offer the day before somehow seem like they might not be very good at planning, which makes me a little uneasy (lol).
Since you’re busy, I think it’s best not to force yourself to accept. Turn him down for now, while also suggesting alternative dates, like, “I’m available on the ○th or ○th.”
From the man’s perspective, I think that would leave a better impression than simply being turned down～
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It varies from person to person and depends on the situation.
I’ve heard of women turning down their partner’s request, and I’ve also heard of women going along with it.
There’s no point in worrying about what other people do.
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