It’s been about half a month since I joined the club. Although some members have added me to their favorites, I still haven’t received many offers…
I expected that it might be difficult to be approached because I’m a single mother and in my 30s, but…
For all the wonderful female members here, what do you do to increase your chances of receiving offers? And for the male members, what do you look for when deciding to make an offer?
I feel a little embarrassed asking this because it may make me seem too eager.
I’ve only recently become a single mother, and I’m starting to feel lonely both physically and emotionally.
Thank you in advance for your answers.
#NewToPapaKatsu #SingleMother
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I currently have six favorite girls, but come to think of it, I haven’t sent out an offer in quite a while.
I don’t send offers while I’m seeing someone, so I’m waiting for one of those arrangements to end. That said, it looks like they’ll probably continue for a while longer.
If someone has made it onto my favorites list, that means she’s reasonably promising on the dating club site!
So if you’re patient, your turn will probably come eventually... I'm sure of it.
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As you grow older, you develop the maternal instinct to raise children, the social skills to work, and a positive, wholehearted determination to keep giving things your all. Since you seem like someone who properly takes care of what you can, I’d love to become friends with you. - ̗̀ ꒰ঌ(^o^)໒꒱ ̖́-
You also seem like a wonderful person, so I think you’ll start receiving offers pretty quickly!
You want to feel needed by someone, don’t you…
You want to be held by someone with a bigger frame than yours, don’t you…?
☆Seattle: Thank you♪ It’s all thanks to everyone~!
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This is Akai from Universe Club’s Tokyo branch.
Being in your 30s shouldn’t be much of an issue.
As for being a single mother, it may have some impact, since fewer male members tend to seek that profile than usual.
Most men start by looking at visible impressions, such as photos and videos, so if you don’t make a strong impression there, it can be harder to receive offers.
We also offer reshoots once every six months, so you may want to consider retaking your photos then.
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Do you really have to state that you’re a single mother?
If you tell the staff, they’ll probably include it in your profile, right?
Being brutally honest isn’t always the best approach. As Aya mentioned, quite a few people avoid single mothers. Even if your child is young but very close to their grandparents and happily spends time playing with them whenever you leave them there.
Also, photos are everything. It’s not necessarily about showing your face, either. I had my face blurred. I only listed my line of work, not my specific job. However, at another dating club where I disclosed my occupation without showing my face, I received over ten offers in one month, so your occupation may also be a major factor.
I think it’s worth trying to send messages with a comment like, “You seem lovely.” If the staff have written “single mother” in your profile comments, you can’t change it yourself, so registering with another dating club might also be an option.
There are probably people who like single mothers and want to support them, but I think they’re in the minority. That said, when you start seeing someone, you should definitely tell them honestly.
Marika
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I think offers are based first on an appearance that appeals to papas, followed by your occupation, age, and the impression you make on the staff. Unfortunately, it seems you may be lacking in one of those areas.
Also, since you’re a single mother, you’re at a disadvantage in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), where many men want a carefree fling while avoiding risks.
Many men may feel that you’d be difficult to meet casually because of your child’s schedule, that you might cancel at the last minute, or that seeing your child’s face in their mind makes them feel somewhat uncomfortable.
So you may be better off looking for opportunities outside of papa-katsu.
It’s also possible that your photos simply didn’t do you justice, so I think it might be worth registering with another dating club as well.
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There’s probably something off about your profile or selfie photos.
No one adds hashtags in the question section, right? There’s another place for tags, so please take a closer look.
You’re in your 30s, which is probably the age range that gets the most offers, so there may be some misunderstanding somewhere.
Have a staff member review your profile once.
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Emphasizing this would be the best approach. Sounds good. ↓
Since I’ve only recently become a single mother,
I’ve started feeling lonely both physically and emotionally.
Alternatively, more people view this Q&A box than the homepage, so you could include a hint that makes it searchable. Himawari, become a popular answerer through this route.
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I think one thing women who receive a lot of offers have in common is that they don’t write comment posts or upload selfies.
Personally, I find women who don’t do those things more appealing because they don’t seem overly eager, and I tend to make offers to them more often.
The other things I look at are their profiles and the comments from the club.
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