I’m convinced by the idea that good papas use affectionate nicknames. The better the papa or man, the more likely he seems to call a girl by her name with “-chan” attached.

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Even when it’s a male friend, suddenly calling me by my bare name feels creepy. There’s no way I’d accept some random, unfamiliar men calling me by my first name without permission. It’s different if the girl herself asks them to call her by her bare name, though. Also, I feel like women who’ve become housewifely and given up on their femininity—especially those in sexless relationships—are more likely to be called “Mom” by their husbands. Couples who have children but are still close and not sexless seem more likely to call each other by affectionate nicknames. That said, I’ve only observed around 3,000 men through working in the nightlife industry, so I can’t say this with certainty. What’s it like among the people around you?

Answer 1

I don’t think women are ever referred to without an honorific. That said, anyone who feels the need to go on about their personal theories must have a lot of free time. If they have so many opinions to share, they should do it somewhere else. There’s no need for a Q&A box, and if it’s just going to keep getting posts like this, maybe the Q&A box itself should be shut down. That’s honestly how I feel. The person writing it may be pleased with themselves for getting to share their opinions, though.

Answer 2

Chan Theory Are people creatures who want to categorize everything?

Answer 3

I’m fine with being called whatever feels natural to the other person, so it really depends on them. I don’t mind being called by my name without an honorific at all. “-chan,” “-san”—anything is fine. What matters to me is the atmosphere in which I’m being addressed and the feelings behind it. Some people who call me by my name without an honorific are the possessive type, while others are dinner-only (no intimacy). Those who call me “-chan” or “-san” also treat me very dearly. In the end, I don’t think there’s any real point in categorizing someone or the relationship based on how they address you. Akari

Answer 4

I’m usually called “○○-san” using my first name. The only person who ever called me by my first name without any honorific was my ex-boyfriend. As for the CEO who sexually harassed me, he doesn’t call me by my last name either… He calls me “○○-san♡.”

Answer 5

I usually call them by their first name followed by “-san.” After a few years, though, I sometimes prefer them to drop the honorific. For my part, I let them know early on that I’d like to be called by my first name plus “-san,” and that I’d prefer we speak casually with each other.

Answer 6

It depends on the person’s background, I guess—whether I call them by name, -kun, or -san（笑） For example: - Someone younger or the same age, whom I’ve known since childhood and who would never betray my trust: their first name - A younger or same-age guy whom I’ve known since childhood and understand well, but who’s a little questionable: -kun - Everyone else: -san - Grandchildren: -chan - My wife: “Mom” Thinking about it that way, “Mom” really does fit. So if someone calls me “-chan,” I can safely assume they see me as their grandchild（笑）

Answer 7

My wife and I still call each other by the same nicknames we used when we were dating. She’s never called me “papa,” either. Though we hardly call each other anything these days—more like “Go away” or… wait, am I not being called anything at all?? Not even by my name...

Answer 8

Basically, I call the girls I’m seeing by their first names with “-chan.” I call my wife that, too. We have children, and our intimate life is still active. Naturally, I address all my employees by their family names with “-san.” As Aya-san said, people who call someone “-chan” at work give off the impression of being a sexually harassing boss（笑).

Answer 9

In my case, I get the creeps when a man I’m not into calls me “-chan” (it feels kind of like being addressed by a creepy, harassing boss, doesn’t it?), so I take control of what he calls me myself. Why not try doing the same? I’m not really sure about the pattern you mentioned, though. Sorry.

Answer 10

Except for one, I call everyone “-chan.” I call the one I address without an honorific that way because she told me to. I have an older colleague who calls all younger people by their last names without any honorific. He calls the girls Sato, Suzuki, and so on. He’s incredibly popular—an ultimate mature heartthrob—so when he does it, calling women by their last names actually sounds cool rather than rude. None of the women seem to mind being addressed that way by him, either. I’d never imitate him, though.

Answer 11

For a papa who’s close and wonderful, I’d call him by his name without an honorific. If we’re still a little distant or I feel reserved around him, I’d use “-san.” And if he’s being horny and making his ulterior motives painfully obvious, I’d call him “-chan.” It may vary depending on age, but stop coming up with ridiculous theories, take a bath, and go to bed already. Marika

Answer 12

To be blunt, that’s a ridiculous theory. You say you’ve met 3,000 men working in the nightlife industry, but is that really all you’ve learned from it?

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