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Jul 19, 2022 22:05
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m not sure, so let’s move on to the next offer.
If the same thing happens three times in a row and you can’t move on to an adult relationship (intimate), you should consider that there may be some issue on your end.
For now, do your best with the next one.
P.S.
You could also ask the club whether they’ve received any negative feedback about you. For example, that you smelled bad or lacked cleanliness. If they point out something to work on, you can fix it. Just giving examples, of course.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
It’s hard to tell what went wrong because you haven’t mentioned things like what you were wearing, whether this was her first time meeting someone through papa-katsu, or how you invited her that resulted in the date ending with dinner only because she wasn’t feeling well.
Still, my guess would be one of these:
- She immediately decided, based on your appearance, that it wasn’t going to work.
- The conversation over dinner didn’t really get going.
- The way you invited her wasn’t appropriate.
Also, the fact that you asked about her schedule on LINE but didn’t actually invite her is a major problem to begin with.
Did you just want to know her schedule? Are you a stalker?
Normally, you invite someone first and then work out a date and time. A man who only wants to know a woman’s schedule without actually asking her out comes across as someone who doesn’t really consider her feelings.
That kind of thing becomes obvious during dinner, so she may have disliked it and turned you down by saying she wasn’t feeling well.
For your next date, try going into it thinking that you’re the one who has to be chosen by the woman. If you genuinely keep that mindset, I think things will go better.
Other
Try checking the Q&A box every day.
You may find some hints about what you did wrong.
If you’re being turned down despite being a C type, I’d say there must be something fairly significant going on. The standard transportation allowance of 1 should be fine.
Other
Taro-san has already pointed this out, but the fact that you’re haggling over 2.5 makes it feel rather disappointing.
In that case, 2 would actually be better. And if you had a good time, I think you should avoid being stingy and give 3 instead.
For the rest, please take everyone else’s opinions into consideration.
Other
Considering the nature of your question, some important information is missing. That makes me think you may not have had that kind of awareness in the first place—and that may have been where things went wrong.
When exactly did she say she was feeling unwell? If it was during the latter half of the meal, that was probably a sign she wanted to decline. If so, how had she been acting up to that point? Was the conversation lively? Did she look or act uncomfortable? Saying she was “an attractive woman” is all well and good, but weren’t you perhaps the only one enjoying yourself?
On a first date, you need to focus completely on the other person’s reactions. Things like the number of times she makes eye contact, how often she smiles or laughs, and how long the pauses in conversation last are clear KPIs. There are also qualitative factors, such as whether the conversation naturally develops and expands, or whether she brings up more personal topics rather than just superficial ones. Your own responses matter too—such as whether you’re properly returning her eye contact. If you’re paying attention to these things, you should be able to tell whether she’s interested and whether you’re on the same wavelength.
If she became cold within the first five minutes of the date, then your appearance was probably the issue. But if that wasn’t the case, I think the problem was with the substance of the conversation or something along those lines.
It’s not impossible to try to fix a disadvantage with money, but you’d have to offer a pretty surprising amount to actually change the game.
Also, what exactly is the “.5” in “2.5”? That honestly surprised me. For a second, I thought it was about the time difference in India. I nearly lost my temper like the lady manager in that Aiful commercial who got the answer “a cat,” thinking, “You really don’t understand anything, do you?” Actually, it’s just plain funny. Thank you（笑）
Sorry for offering such an unfiltered opinion. I hope it helps.
Taro
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Work out and run every day, and go to a nail salon to keep your toenails looking nice.
You might be thinking, “Even your toenails?” But if you let even one thing slide, other areas will gradually become neglected too.
Women are treasures, you know? Check every single screw.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
You thought it would be fun, and this is what happened…
You’re really not cut out for a dating club…
A date isn’t about enjoying yourself; it’s about making the other person have a good time and feel happy—and finding joy in that yourself.
Even though you’re a Type C, I have to say, it takes incredible nerve to cancel on the day of the date.
Other
I can’t say why without having met you myself. It could be your appearance, cleanliness, conversation skills, personality…
That said, if I were the woman you met and wasn’t feeling well that day, I’d probably message you on LINE after we said goodbye. Actually, I’d send a thank-you message even if I felt perfectly fine.
And if you seemed like someone I’d want to see again, I’d ask whether we could meet again.
Whether the transportation allowance was 2.5, 1, or 0.5… I think if she wanted to see someone, she’d make the effort, and if she didn’t, she simply wouldn’t contact them.
She was probably a woman who had enough options to be selective.
Other
I understand how you feel, but if she went quiet even after you gave her a generous allowance, something about your appearance (such as your grooming or facial features), conversation, or overall vibe may have put her off.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
“I liked her, so I gave her ¥25,000 for transportation,” he says with a laugh.
That may work in some cases, but sometimes, no matter how much you offer, she still won’t want to be with you.
👨 Male
Universe member
Well, I suppose you didn’t pass the overall assessment.
I don’t think there was any particular issue they could point to.
By the way, are you handsome? There are a lot of good-looking men at dating clubs.
Still, look on the bright side—you were able to meet her. In my case, my offer was rejected outright...
Don’t dwell on it. Move on to the next one! There are still plenty of women waiting for you...
P.S.
Did you study up using this anonymous Q&A box before meeting her?
Is your allowance lower than Make-O’s?
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
How could anyone know that without even seeing them?
You’re expecting far too much from the people answering.
The only thing we can tell is that someone who can’t think about their partner enough to ask a question like this probably isn’t cut out for a dating club.