It was really helpful!
I don't have romantic feelings for him, so honestly, I want to be compensated for making time to see him.
But I'm always grateful to my papa (a male supporter),
so this time, I think I'll go have dinner with him!
If he asks me to meet without an allowance in the future, I think I'll make a troubled face.
Thank you.
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I'm an office worker, but I'm currently seeing one person on a monthly arrangement and two on a pay-per-meeting basis, taking turns, to help me reach my goal.
The arrangements include an adult relationship (intimate).
Everyone and I had been getting along well, but...
The person closest to my age, from whom I receive an allowance of 40,000 yen for an adult relationship each time, contacts me frequently and often asks me to meet, so I feel like we're getting quite close.
After three months, he invited me out for dinner for the first time without an allowance.
I don't mind at all, but I'm worried that he may start asking to see me without an allowance.
Is there a good way to phrase my response? Or should I just end things cleanly?
#papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) #allowance
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If that’s how you truly feel, I think you should say so. Once you agree to something, it tends to become the default.
How much allowance would you like for dinner?
If you don’t say anything, things may become difficult for you going forward.
If you do it for free once, you’ll likely be invited to dinner for free again. If you’re okay with that, then that’s fine, but…
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I think it’s best to meet a man for “dinner only, with no allowance” if he’ll still hand it over discreetly so you can accept it quickly—even if you only get to see each other for a few minutes.
It’s better not to focus too much on the allowance when meeting,
but you still need to receive the equivalent amount.
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> I’ll be honest: I don’t have romantic feelings, so what I really want is compensation for making time for him.
I figured that was probably the case. But honestly, that’s normal for most people, so I don’t think you need to worry too much about it.
Your papa (a male supporter) doesn’t seem all that unreasonable either, though I wonder how things will work since you’re close in age.
Also, regardless of whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), the secret to maintaining a good relationship is for both people to make a few compromises and do nice things for each other（笑).
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I’ve never thought about it that way, so I honestly can’t think of a good way to phrase it.
Is your partner around the same age as me—somewhere in their 30s? If they’re unmarried, they might ask to see you without an allowance.
But if there’s no allowance, I think it would be fair to have them cover your living expenses—food, clothing, and housing—and get you a credit card instead. That’s what I do for my wife.
Since you don’t seem to be short on papas, you could just cut this person off. If it comes to that, look for someone else.
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That’s great to hear!
Have a wonderful time enjoying your meal together〜٩(｡•ω•｡*)و ♡♡
There are certain things you can only talk about with male members, along with the support they offer and simply having them there—it’s comforting, isn’t it〜
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