Have you only had sex with that papa (a male supporter)?
Why not ask something like, “Are you feeling okay?”
There’s no way to know whether the papa is asymptomatic or had symptoms and still had sex, so it’s hard to say.
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That’s awful. Personally, I’d end things with that papa (a male supporter), since I’d be worried he’d do the same thing again.
Before breaking things off, though, I might say something like, “You gave me an STI. I haven’t been intimate with anyone else, so it must have come from you. You should get tested and treated.” For the sake of the other girls too, I think he should get his condition treated.
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You should contact him.
See how he responds, then decide whether you want to continue seeing him.
That said, in a setting where people are expected to date multiple partners, there’s no way to know how true it really is when someone claims they’re only seeing you.
If you’ve always had sex without protection, I’m afraid you have to accept some responsibility as well.
When it comes to STIs, men often seem to take them less seriously, with many thinking that taking medication if they get infected is all it takes.
The more often they get tested, the more they think it’s fine to have sex without protection—or they simply underestimate how serious these illnesses can be. That’s the kind of naive thinking some men have.
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It’s best to be honest with your papa. If he reacts negatively, then it’s time to say goodbye.
Of all the women I’m seeing on a monthly arrangement, there’s one who regularly sends me her test results. You can’t help but grow attached to someone like that, right? Getting tested for STIs is almost like declaring that she has other papas besides me, but I don’t feel bad about it at all. If anything, I find her sincerity endearing.
STIs are basically a matter of luck, so there’s only so much you can do. I get tested more than twice a month on average—four times last month, and I’m on track for four this month as well. That’s because I go in for an extra test whenever I happen to mess up.
Since the beginning of this year, I’ve followed that woman’s example and started sending my own test results to the women I see on monthly arrangements. It’s been very well received.
At first, I thought they might see it as a negative—“Is this guy seeing so many women that he has to get tested?”—but the effect was actually the opposite.
Every woman realizes that I’m seeing multiple people. They’re far smarter than I am.
That said, you can’t guarantee that no one will react negatively, so it helps to preface the results with something like:
“I get tested regularly because I have a girlfriend—and because we’re intimate.”
That way, it doesn’t come across badly. Having a girlfriend is true, after all.
Of course, I show my girlfriend my test results regularly too. She knows I do papa-katsu, and her reaction is pleasantly understanding as well.
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When it comes to illnesses, it’s an unavoidable topic.
I’m extremely serious about these things, so if I ever became infected, I’d be honest about it and ask them to get treatment. It would take a lot of courage to say, but I believe it’s simply proper etiquette as an adult woman.
Of course, taking precautions to avoid infection and getting tested regularly are also the bare minimum of good manners, regardless of gender.
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You should contact him and judge your papa (a male supporter) by his reaction and attitude.
As long as you’re involved in this activity, there’s always a risk of STIs. Some can be transmitted even when using condoms, such as genital warts and herpes.
For now, I hope you can both get tested and treated, then calmly discuss how to handle things going forward so this doesn’t happen again.
Whenever questions like this come up, some people respond with things like, “I’ve had unprotected sex with multiple women and have never gotten an STI,” whether they’re bragging or what. I don’t say things like that, because I could catch one myself tomorrow.
Just one thing: it’s not simply that you were infected by him—the questioner also bears some responsibility. You probably could have firmly refused, but you didn’t. And the fact that you were involved in a dating club in the first place means you can’t claim to be a completely innocent victim.
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You should contact them and talk it out. You’ll probably be angry, but try not to interrogate them too harshly. Talk things through, observe their reaction, and if they’re being dishonest, I think it’s best to end things.
It would probably be easier if you could just be upfront and say that multiple relationships are normal at a dating club, but that’s not easy. I also get the impression that many women feel the same way. So perhaps that aspect can be given some leeway. What matters is whether they can properly deal with the situation at hand, identify the cause, and work toward improving things. Once you’ve figured out what caused it, the important question is whether they’re willing to change any behavior that carries a high STI risk.
By the way, I don’t think moral cleanliness and STI risk necessarily correlate. In the adult entertainment industry, I’d say delivery services are riskier than Tobita Shinchi. The former involves brief encounters with no foreplay or oral and a condom, while the latter ultimately involves receiving bodily fluids on mucous membranes. Also, an AV actress may actually carry less risk than an ordinary woman who gets occasional offers, since she does it professionally and both parties are tested.
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