What’s appealing about dating clubs (papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan))?
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I enjoy the process of winning a woman over, but I mainly make offers to Type B women, and since things always work out for a pay-per-meeting allowance of 50,000 yen, I’ve been getting bored lately.
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This isn’t the place for you.
There are regular dating apps where you can put your skills to the test. Go use one of those—it’ll cost you less.
This is where unpopular guys like me use money to make things work.
Please leave and let me have this place.
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If you enjoy winning someone over, why are you registered with a dating club? It seems like you could simply pursue someone you meet naturally.
And if you’re bored with it, you should just cancel your membership.
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It sounds like you enjoy the process of winning someone over. I haven’t been using the club for very long, but I find the relationship afterward much more enjoyable once I’ve been won over. Also, winning a woman over and then failing to treat her well seems a little uncool. If you’re not interested in maintaining an ongoing relationship, I don’t think club dating is really for you.
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At a dating club, there’s really no need to “win someone over” in the first place.
After all, a papa who’s begun to think about his own mortality wants to give a woman who’s still looking ahead to life all kinds of things. In your 40s, you’re still far too young and inexperienced to understand that… You wouldn’t be able to see the appeal or benefits yet.
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Even with a Type B arrangement, it’s not really about winning someone over at a dating club in the first place. It’s probably about 100 times easier than meeting someone outside the club, so for someone like you who enjoys the process of wooing a woman, it’s simply too easy—you’re looking in the wrong place for that kind of enjoyment.
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If you’re tired of playing around with women, I think you should just stop.
That kind of “sample-and-move-on” attitude isn’t well received at dating clubs, so it won’t be a problem if you leave.
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I think sex is just the gateway to relationships through a dating club. It would be a shame to get bored after barely dipping your toes in and thinking you’ve figured it all out.
You’re in your forties—saying things like a kid in his twenties is embarrassing.
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At 40, I don’t think this is something you should keep doing just because you’re asking others what makes it appealing. If you get bored, you can simply quit.
I only do what I personally feel is worthwhile. I might quit once I get bored, too.
It would be different if you had successfully won over every B-type woman, but otherwise, you’re making far too sweeping a generalization.
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For men, isn’t the real appeal of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) being able to build a relationship where you can sense each other’s humanity, rather than one connected by money alone?
If your goal—and source of satisfaction—is simply to win her over and turn things intimate, you might as well pick someone up on the street.
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An old man grumbling “It’s so hot, it’s so hot” in the park was saying, “You’re only making offers to girls who’ll accept ¥50,000 per meeting, right?”
I genuinely don’t understand it even a little. If you’re going to brag about offering a low allowance or claim you hate money-minded women, why not use a dating app or meet women out in the real world?
I have no idea why you’re active in a dating club—or why you act so cocky there.
Lounges are where the most beautiful women gather in the real world, so try picking up a lounge hostess. It’s fun.
If you’re not confident you can win over a lounge hostess, go to a men’s esthetic salon instead. There may not be as many as at lounges, but there are still plenty of beautiful women.
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I’ve come to realize that the appeal of baba-katsu isn’t seducing young women and having sex with them—it’s being able to pursue a relationship that includes intimacy.
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