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Jul 10, 2022 13:24
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A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Questions like this never seem to go away.
As mentioned in an earlier question, it depends on where you mainly look.
With Universe Club, I think the standard median allowance is around 50,000 yen. On apps, the median is probably lower.
That said, based on my experience, fewer than 10% turn me down at 50,000 yen even through Universe. For reference, I’ve mainly dealt with very popular women.
It may simply work because I only see them once a month.
I don’t put any stress on the women, and if things develop into intimacy, they can still enjoy themselves to a reasonable extent. So perhaps they’re willing to see me occasionally, almost like a little treat on the side.
Other
I believe it was about three or four years ago that Hi○min, a matchmaking broker in Minato Ward, said:
“Per hotel visit, unattractive women get ¥20,000, average-looking women ¥30,000, attractive women ¥50,000–¥80,000, and exceptionally beautiful women ¥100,000 or more.”
Personally, I feel that ¥50,000 is probably the median.
So I’d say that if you’re a little cuter than average, it’s reasonable to expect ¥40,000–¥50,000.
Please take this simply as one person’s opinion.
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Other
I don’t think there’s really a standard rate, and ideally, you should decide on terms you feel comfortable with.
That said, I’ll share what men have specifically offered me since I joined Universe. I’ve been offered anywhere from ¥50,000 per meeting to whatever amount I wanted. It varies from person to person, so I don’t decide based on the allowance alone—I take the person into consideration and think it over carefully.
P.S. Just to avoid any misunderstanding, I’m not saying that an allowance of ¥50,000 is low. Even if I worked, I don’t think I could earn ¥50,000 in just a few hours, and if I were a man, I don’t think I could pay that much either. Once again, I really think the papas at the club are amazing!
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
It varies.
Officially, once the club makes an introduction, what happens afterward is up to you.
You’ll probably get a better sense of the different opinions by asking Google.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Each papa has his own sense of the going rate. Even people who say “there’s no standard rate” still set their own rate.
For me, the going rate for an adult relationship (intimate) is ¥100,000–¥150,000 per meeting. I see it as papas offering ¥50,000 per meeting looking for girls who would accept that amount.
For me, ¥120,000 is the most common.
I also have two girls on a monthly arrangement whom I pay upfront but hardly ever meet. Some girls don’t want to be paid unless they meet, while others want to keep receiving payments even without meeting.
You could say my allowance is high because I only choose extremely popular women who wouldn’t even consider ¥50,000 per meeting.
If papas offering ¥50,000 tried making offers to my monthly partners, they’d be rejected across the board. They’d be instantly dismissed with, “Are you making fun of me?”
My most recent offer was ¥140,000 per meeting, but when I asked around, she said most of the other papas had offered ¥70,000–¥80,000, with one offering ¥100,000.
P.S.
If money bothers you, why not just use a dating app...?
Other
There’s no clear market rate.
In a previous answer, I said: “It depends on whether you interpret the going rate as the average or the median. The average is probably skewed upward by people who pay exceptionally high amounts, so I’d say it’s above 8, while the median is probably around 5.”
Comparing the amounts suggested by the girls I’ve dated with my own arrangements, pay-per-meeting amounts range from about 20,000 to 500,000 yen.
That’s why I don’t think there’s any definitive market rate.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
It’s a dating club, after all.
It’s not an allowance-contract club.
If you genuinely like seeing each other, there’s no need to discuss an allowance.
Putting a price on dating—or intimacy—is just ridiculous…
> @Mr. Loser
> You could also say that, with a pay-per-meeting allowance of 50,000 yen, you’re only choosing extremely popular women who wouldn’t give you the time of day.
I don’t think that’s necessarily true…
> If the papas offering 50,000 yen per meeting tried approaching my monthly arrangements, they’d all be rejected without a doubt.
That applies here too…
What really matters is whether the woman Mr. Loser likes feels the same way about him.
I think the difference is simply whether someone expects to be entertained in exchange for her allowance, or genuinely wants to entertain him. The difference in the allowance amount…
Honestly, I don’t think you can ever be truly satisfied with someone you obtained through money.
On the other hand, if she’s someone you genuinely adore, she won’t be swayed by anyone—not Mr. Loser or anyone else—no matter whether they offer hundreds of thousands of yen or any amount of money.
You’ll remain captivated by each other, feel that this is the person you want, and be able to trust and feel secure with one another.
And if you think the allowance amount gives you an advantage or creates a difference, that way of thinking is simply shallow.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
There’s no such thing as a standard rate.
In my experience, it can be 0, 1.5, 2, or 3—and there have also been cases of 5, 10, 20, 30, 160, or even 250.
With amounts varying that widely, there’s no way to establish a standard rate.