Tips Jul 6, 2022 18:41

I’d appreciate some advice on a first date with a B-type woman.

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I’m still a papa (a male supporter) with a score of around 40, but with my first offer, I took everyone’s advice here, met a C-type woman, and thankfully things went well and have continued smoothly. For my second offer, I’ll be meeting a B-type woman. I understand that the first date is dinner only (no intimacy), and I have no intention of inviting her to an adult relationship (intimate) from the first day. However, after considering various scenarios for when to discuss the terms of the arrangement, I came up with the following possibilities: (1) During dinner on the first date (even with a B-type woman, at a private restaurant from the first meeting) (2) During an extension after dinner on the first date (enjoying dinner only in an open setting, then inviting her somewhere we can be alone, such as karaoke, and first checking whether she’s willing to hear that kind of proposal or would rather leave. I intend to offer an additional allowance.) (3) Tell her afterward via LINE or some other messaging app (4) During dinner on the second date (essentially following the same flow as the first date with the C-type woman, but on the second date) I assume it depends on the person, but I feel that something like (2) might be appropriate. Still, I’m not sure… I don’t think it’s good to bring it up either too early or too late, so I wanted to ask how I should judge the timing and avoid being as disrespectful as possible to the other person. As always, thank you to everyone who takes the time to answer. The following is just an aside, so please feel free to skip it. This is my third time asking a question here. The same thing happened the second time, but perhaps I’m the type who feels compelled to step in and break the flow whenever the board gets heated. My apologies.
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フラーレン
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細く長く続けばいいなあ
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m terrible at this stuff, so take my opinion with a grain of salt! I’ve used all four patterns: 1, 2, 3, and 4. It really comes down to how quickly you bring it up. Even with Type B, someone might lean more toward C or more toward A. So if I feel they’re closer to C, I bring it up early with option 1. If they seem closer to A, I take things a little more slowly. The fact that someone chose B probably means they want to “make sure they have enough time to get to know the other person”—although I’m sure some people can decide within three seconds of meeting someone. So I feel it’s best to wait until you’ve given off the signal: “I’ve gotten a pretty good sense of what kind of person you are.” Once you feel like you’ve run out of the usual, natural topics for getting to know each other, that’s probably the right time.
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負け男
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
For Type B, I do it: - With a letter date, pretty much right after we’ve finished introducing ourselves - With a dinner date, sometime between the staff bringing water and menus and coming to take our order What’s on the woman’s mind is the allowance, and I don’t want that hanging over her and keeping her from focusing on the date, so I bring it up right away. Something like: “(With a slight bow) This is your transportation money for today. There’s 30,000 yen in here. While we’re on the subject, I’d like to discuss the allowance. I’m thinking 120,000 yen for an adult relationship.” I’ve never stumbled over my words, and it’s never made things awkward. After that, the woman stays smiling the whole time. If we haven’t exchanged contact information, she’ll even ask, “How should we get in touch?” At that point, I take it as a sign that she’s okay with an adult relationship. Then, at the end of dinner, I arrange the date and time for our next meeting. I just move the conversation along on the assumption that she’s okay with an adult relationship, saying, “I’d like to invite you to my room next time. When would be convenient for you?” I’ve never been turned down. The allowance is pretty high, after all. ( TДT)
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’d go with option 3. Option 1 would be fine too. A first date can be tiring, so I’d keep it to two hours. That rules out option 2.
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だて◎ゆめ
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Younger people are busy, so it really comes down to whether they’ll have time for overtime(笑) It might be better not to rush too much...(笑) If you’re in a hurry, option (1) might be fine. (2) If she’s willing to spend time with you after dinner as well, you could bring it up then.
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