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Jul 4, 2022 10:00
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Sometimes it’s dinner only (no intimacy), so it’s not necessarily based on having a physical relationship.
There’s not much point in asking here. If you want a definite answer, you could hire a private investigator, but after the initial first meeting arranged by the club, the relationship is independent, so the club isn’t involved.
You say she should just endure it, but perhaps your wife registered because she’s been holding something in and this was a reaction to that. I think it would be better to address that issue.
Since you mentioned she’s in her 20s, she may still have a long time ahead during which she’d have to keep enduring things.
Other
I once read in a book that women are less able to forgive emotional cheating, while men are less able to forgive physical cheating.
Even married women without children seem to have pretty much the same feelings as single women. At heart, they’re still women—not mothers. I suppose it’s only natural that they might want to spend time with men.
That said, I can’t imagine many married women signing up here for Type A arrangements with no physical intimacy. Though I haven’t looked into it closely, so I could be wrong.
👨 Male
Universe member
Both the person doing it and the person on the receiving end usually have their own reasons.
If it’s something that can be resolved, it would be better to address it.
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) probably isn’t something you can keep doing forever, so take care to protect your health. In some cases, it may be worth turning a blind eye.
Other
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) doesn’t always involve intimacy.
If your wife wants to have sex, it may be easy for her to do so, so it really comes down to what you decide to do.
If she’s very particular about cleanliness, the chances may be low—but people can say anything.
Haven’t you taken your wife out for a nice meal? I think she probably wants to enjoy a little luxury too. Try taking her out at least once a month.
Other
It depends on whether she’s doing it because money is tight at home, because she wants intimacy, or simply to have some spending money of her own.
If the household finances are really strained, she might stop papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) if you work hard enough to cover what the family needs.
Other
Can you really keep putting up with it indefinitely?
(By “indefinitely,” I mean until your wife stops doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).)
Since you went to the trouble of getting married, I think you’d have a better chance of maintaining your happiness if, rather than simply choosing to endure it, you faced the issue with your wife and thought about how you could get her to stop.
Sorry for offering such meddlesome, idealistic advice.
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Some people are only looking for dinner, so it doesn’t necessarily involve an intimate relationship.
Didn’t you read the Q&A?