He says things have been hectic lately. He messaged that he’d like to meet sometime next week, but it’s been four days with no word from him.
I might understand if it were a person who had died, but… I’ve never had a pet, so I really don’t know.
Is he probably just fading out?
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If you’re genuinely looking toward a future with this man, then
“giving him space”
is your best move. It’s your only move. Stay close enough to support him without getting in his way.
Don’t message him on LINE for a while, either. The more you do, the more he’ll dislike you.
A pet is family, so compared with you—the person asking this question, who hasn’t even shared any intimacy with him—the importance is worlds apart.
That said, it’s fine to look for other men.
I have two girls in monthly arrangements who are currently withdrawn because of problems at work or with friends.
I just transfer their monthly allowance and reply when they contact me. The only message I send first is, “I’ve transferred it.”
What I enjoy is indulging in the thought that I’ve become successful enough to support someone even at times like this.
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Pets are just as important to me as family.
That said, I can’t imagine having the nerve to spend time with a papa-katsu woman only four days after losing a close family member—let alone treating the death of a person as somehow more acceptable than the death of a pet.
You’re a cold person.
Just assume you’ve been faded out and say goodbye for good.
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When my sister called while our father was dying, she refused to come to the hospital because “the cat was sick and I couldn’t leave it alone” (lol). There really are people who consider their pets that important.
That said, in your case, there’s also a possibility they’re fading out. There’s not much point in trying to figure out why. What matters is whether you’ll be able to see them again and whether they respond when you reach out. If you panic and start bombarding them, you may only push them away, so stay calm, show consideration for their circumstances, and keep contacting them patiently. Even if you do meet again, you may never know whether the problem was resolved or they had been planning to fade out but changed their mind. Well, it happens all the time. Best of luck.
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If the pet loss is genuine, all you can do is wait.
You can’t change someone’s thoughts or feelings. That said, you don’t need to pander to a man who ghosts someone important to him, makes them worry, and treats them carelessly.
Leave him alone and focus on communicating with your other papas.
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If it was the death of a beloved pet they’d had for many years, they must be deeply shaken and may not feel like doing anything for a while… So perhaps they’re simply not confident they can enjoy a date right now. Rather than giving up immediately, I think it may be worth waiting a little longer and seeing how things go. If you’d like to see them again, why not send a message that shows you understand and empathize with how they’re feeling?
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