Can a Plain, Shy Girl Do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I’m 19, 150 cm tall, and weigh 47 kg. I don’t look overweight at first glance, but I have some belly fat, a big butt, and thick thighs. I don’t have much of a bust—probably a B cup.
And although I’d say my face is average, I can look a little plain and unsophisticated. I have this image that everyone who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is glamorous, so I’m worried whether someone like me would be okay.
Should I try to lose weight or aim to become a Minato Ward girl?
At the same time, I feel like even plain girls must be in demand in some circles. What’s it really like?
Also, I’m shy and not confident in my conversation skills, so I’m planning to stick to adult relationships (intimate) only. Is that dangerous? I intend to choose people carefully and stay on my guard, but…
Is an allowance of ¥20,000, excluding the hotel fee, reasonable?
If I’m a virgin, would the allowance be higher or lower?
Sorry for all the questions.
It sounds like you’re objectively listing the things you want to improve about yourself, but deep down, I don’t really see the desire to change them.
Like, “I might be better off losing weight, but I’m okay as I am now, right?”
If you want to have a good experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think you should first make an effort to get closer to the kind of person people generally say is “better,” before anything else.
Rather than listing all your insecurities and feeling relieved when someone says, “You’re probably fine,” I think you’ll have a much more enjoyable experience once you become someone who can carry herself with a certain level of confidence in this world.
I gained some weight during COVID, so I chose not to take things further with anyone new until I had slimmed down to a certain extent.
It’s not so much about the other person. If I can’t feel confident, enjoy myself, and stay positive, then the time we spend together won’t be enjoyable either.
Akari
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This isn’t the kind of world where you get ¥20,000 plus the hotel fee.
Somehow, I don’t think you’ll be able to have the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangement you’re hoping for. Focus on your day job.
You can earn ¥2,000 an hour at an Amazon warehouse.
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> I’m shy and not confident in my conversation skills, so I’m planning to stick to adult relationships only.
Based on that alone, I don’t think it’s going to work out.
If you only want adult relationships, I think you’d be better off going to a sex-work establishment.
The age of adulthood used to be 20, so I think many places didn’t hire 19-year-old women
(since contracts with minors often became meaningless in practice).
Now that the age of adulthood is 18, there shouldn’t be any contractual issues,
so it seems like they might hire 19-year-olds—but are most places still keeping the same policy?
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I’ve only ever made offers to plain, chubby girls.
You can get 50 if it’s a separate hotel arrangement, or if she’s a virgin. You’ve got to bluff a little.
That said, it might not work if you’re extremely shy. In a way, communication skills matter more than looks.
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The image of women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) living glamorous lives comes from watching too much Twitter.
I sometimes see people say “20, hotel separate,” but isn’t that terminology from dating sites about 20 years ago…?
Does being a virgin increase the allowance? Not that I’m interested.
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Some men do prefer women with a more modest, understated look, so I think it’s definitely possible.
For example, I get the impression that there are more men who avoid women with dyed brown hair or a gyaru-like appearance than men who prefer flashy, glamorous women. It’s actually quite common for a low-key Gold woman to receive more offers than a Black woman and already have three papas (male supporters) just one month after registering.
As for the allowance, follow your own values. I don’t think it’s something other people have the right to decide or give you their opinion on.
Personally, I wouldn’t date a virgin because it sounds like too much trouble, but some men do prefer virgins, so those men might pay you more.
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