Men, I’d appreciate it if you could tell me what kinds of places you usually choose.
Women, please share what kinds of places you’d prefer—or any places you definitely wouldn’t want to go.
I usually ask the woman in advance, but they often just say, “I’ll leave it up to you,” which makes the decision pretty difficult.
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I’d appreciate it if he first checked the woman’s profile, followed any preferences she listed, and, if nothing was mentioned, suggested a few options mixing Japanese, Western, and Chinese cuisine.
That would make me think, “He seems like the kind of man who’s considerate.”
Personally, I prefer a light course or ordering à la carte. I like it when he casually checks my preferences on the spot and then takes the initiative in choosing what to order.
As others have mentioned, you’ll probably need to discuss the allowance and such, so for A/B, a semi-private or private room would be smart, while for C/D, I think a private room would be best.
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I like hotel buffets too.
I ask whether they’d prefer a hotel buffet or a private room. If they prefer a private room, I look for a place serving the kind of food they like.
I’d say the budget is around ¥7,500 per person. More expensive places and family restaurants can wait until we’ve gotten to know each other better.
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When they say, “I’ll leave it up to you,” Japanese food is usually the safest choice. If she’s Japanese, you can’t really go wrong with light, well-prepared Japanese cuisine. I usually choose a restaurant with a pleasant atmosphere and good food, where the meal costs around ¥7,000–8,000 per person, and there’s a private or semi-private room.
Of course, part of it is about not being rude, but my main consideration is choosing the kind of restaurant that women I’m attracted to tend to like. Formal, expensive places can be intimidating, so I generally avoid them. I do like delicious food, though, and I’m drawn to women who smile when they eat something good and react with, “Mmm, delicious~ ♪(^^)” even while they still have food in their mouths. So I choose places that suit that type of woman.
I used to pick somewhat more expensive restaurants, but the kind of women I attracted was different, and I got tired of the expectations afterward—the assumption that I’d continue doing things the same way. Eventually, I settled on my current approach.
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Choosing where to eat can be tricky, can’t it?
The key is avoiding people to avoid.
The first thing I consider is whether she prefers a private room or not.
Someone who prefers private rooms may think, “I don’t want to discuss papa-katsu-related things where other people can hear us,” while someone who doesn’t may think, “I don’t want to be shut in a private room with a papa (a male supporter).”
I try to get a sense of which type she is from her profile and videos. Put simply, is she more into a quiet, relaxed atmosphere or a lively, bustling one?
If I can’t tell, I choose a semi-private room or somewhere with plenty of space between tables, where it’s hard for either of us to hear the other tables. With that in mind, hotel restaurants are usually a safe choice.
As for the food, if she specifically mentions something in her profile, there’s a chance she’s already tired of eating it.
Sometimes she just casually writes “sushi,” but then everyone takes her out for sushi all the time… especially women who receive a lot of offers.
So choosing somewhere that serves sushi among other options might actually help you avoid a person to avoid.
(Of course, if she really loves sushi, that’s different—but it’s hard to know before meeting.)
I also sometimes arrange to meet at a café first, separately from the restaurant, partly to guard against last-minute cancellations.
That way, we can head to the restaurant after she’s had a chance to relax, which I personally prefer.
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If you’re so unsure that you have to ask, you probably aren’t that interested in food, so a hotel restaurant is the safest choice.
That said, hotel dining is actually what I’d want to avoid most. A woman will be delighted if you show great taste by choosing an independent restaurant she’s always wanted to try.
For a standard setup, don’t make a reservation in advance. Once you meet, ask whether she’d prefer to go out first or eat first. We’ll usually end up going out somewhere—often quite far—and then either eat at the destination, dine after returning, or make a special trip to the restaurant we have in mind. The cuisine can be chosen according to the mood that day: Japanese, sushi, Western, teppanyaki, French, Italian, yakiniku, and so on.
For a letter date, suggest several options like the ones above and discuss which restaurant to choose.
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After reading her profile, I take the following into consideration:
- A private room
- A course meal with small portions, after checking her likes and dislikes in advance
- A stylish, clean, and well-kept atmosphere
- A location that’s easy for her to get to
That’s about it. Basically, I usually go to restaurants I’ve been to before.
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Every restaurant I’ve been taken to has been delicious and lovely(^^) The first meeting is dinner only, but since the dates last four hours, I’ve also been invited to some wonderful bars. I’m happy to visit high-end restaurants I could never go to on my own, but for a first meeting, I think it’s easier to enjoy the meal and have a good conversation when the seats aren’t too far apart—or when you’re sitting side by side. A private room makes it even easier to talk. If you’re dining with a woman who’s a C or D type, I think it’s best to choose a restaurant where other people won’t be able to overhear you discussing the allowance.
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For me, the first meeting is basically just a throwaway dinner.
More than the food itself, I focus on choosing a place with a pleasant atmosphere, reasonably upscale prices, and a private or semi-private room—in short, a safe, no-risk choice for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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For a first meeting, it’s best to avoid casual places like izakayas or family restaurants.
Read the woman’s profile carefully. It should mention her food preferences and the like.
Usually, I’m invited to dine at a hotel restaurant for the first meeting. Once, after being made to walk around a lot, I was taken to Tully’s Coffee, but things didn’t progress beyond that.
I’m sorry, and I’m always taken to nice places. Thank you, as always.
When a woman says, “I’ll leave it up to you,” don’t take it literally. You’re being tested at that point.
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Unless it’s an exceptionally cheap place, it probably won’t be a major issue.
If you choose a decent restaurant and things don’t progress to another date, the problem likely has nothing to do with the restaurant.
For what it’s worth, I once said that I go to hotel buffets because I don’t know what kinds of food women like, and someone told me that wasn’t a very good choice.
I also often go to fairly nice yakiniku restaurants, but I’ve heard people say they’re not ideal because the smell can cling to your clothes.
In the end, every choice has its downsides, so I think you should simply choose a decent restaurant that you can confidently recommend.
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If we get along and the conversation flows, I think I could enjoy myself anywhere.
If I’m allowed to be a little picky, though, I’d love to be taken somewhere I wouldn’t normally be able to go on my own!
I’ve never had this happen, but izakayas, family restaurants, and fast-food places are out of the question. Not for a first meeting.
The first meeting is all about making a first impression, and I think that’s really important—for both of us. Women also take the time and spend the money to look their best, after all.
So I’d really appreciate it if that could be taken into consideration.
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I choose a restaurant with a private or semi-private room in the meeting area, taking into account the woman’s favorite foods listed in her profile and what I feel like eating.
I also consider how close it is to a taxi stand or hotel, and whether she can get there from the station without getting wet on a rainy day.
Beyond that, the answer should naturally become clear if you think about whether women in the demographic you’re offering to would enjoy or be comfortable with the place. Put at least that much thought into it.
P.S. I don’t choose hot-pot restaurants, since she probably doesn’t want to share a pot with some older guy she’s meeting for the first time.
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