I’m about to be entrusted with a very responsible role at work. If that happens, it’ll be harder to take time off, and there will probably be many weekdays when I won’t know what time I’ll get home.
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It’ll probably be harder to meet my papas (male supporters), and honestly, it feels a little burdensome. The pay isn’t particularly high, but it’s enough to live on as long as I don’t spend extravagantly. At the same time, I don’t plan on staying in this job forever, so I’m struggling to figure out what to do. In a situation like this, should I take the plunge and change jobs?
Sorry for rambling. I’d really appreciate any advice. Thank you.
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It’s unfortunate that, as a woman in your 30s who has been working for quite some time, you still can’t decide what to do with your career. What matters most to you in life—what should take priority?
You still have plenty of time and energy to work, so I hope you find a job that gives you a real sense of purpose.
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Focus on the work right in front of you for now. If possible, quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) too.
If you can’t find purpose, fulfillment, or a sense of achievement in what you’re doing now, you’ll just repeat the same pattern wherever you go.
It all depends on you.
A good job isn’t just going to appear in front of you on its own…
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>But since I don’t plan on doing this job forever, I’m not sure what to do.
These days, it seems like a lot of people change jobs, but I think it may be better to learn to like your current job—or change the way you look at it—rather than immediately changing careers. Since you’re going to be entrusted with more responsibility, this could be a great opportunity.
Everyone has different jobs, but I think few people start out believing that their job is the perfect fit for them. Many people come to enjoy their work after building relationships through it, or gradually realizing how meaningful it is as they continue doing it.
I’m sure there are papas (male supporters) who would understand, so why not talk to them about it? I think it’s best to approach papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with the understanding that you’ll eventually move on from it.
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I’m in favor of changing jobs.
It sounds like you may have reached a plateau in your growth as an employee, making the work less rewarding and increasingly difficult to endure. If that weren’t the case, I think you’d probably be able to approach your projects more positively.
That said, you can’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) forever. I think it would be better to change jobs, reduce your working hours, secure more free time, and use that time to pursue a side job rather than increasing your papa-katsu.
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Work-life balance is a tough one.
If you change jobs for better pay and benefits, your working hours will probably become even harsher than they are now.
How about working hard at your current job and aiming for one more promotion?
The higher your position, the more your subordinates can handle things like routine tasks, so I get the impression that your working hours become more manageable. That said, you’ll need the mental strength to handle the added responsibility, as well as the creativity and expertise to fulfill the role...
Since you’ve already been selected to move ahead of others, I feel it might be worth aiming a little higher.
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A job with more responsibility?
Most jobs naturally come with some level of responsibility, but do you mean that you’ll be taking on greater responsibility than before because you’re being entrusted with a major project or something similar?
Either way, if you don’t plan on working there for much longer, I don’t see why you couldn’t continue taking days off as you have been. The key is whether you can create a system that keeps things running even when you’re absent.
You could also make arrangements so that you can leave on time even on weekdays.
It may seem difficult to do, but I think it would be worth considering and finding ways to make it work.
If it really seems impossible, you could always consult your supervisor.
Also, as Mac mentioned, you could talk to your papa. Some papas might even say, “I’ll give you about what you earn at work, so quit your job.”
Even if it doesn’t go that far, I feel like talking to him could lead to some kind of idea.
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It depends on what you’re looking for, but if your responsibilities increase, it becomes harder to take time off, and you start getting home later, your salary should go up if you work for a decent company. If that’s the case, you might consider graduating from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Companies that don’t raise your salary even under those circumstances are what people generally call exploitative companies.
Alternatively, you could narrow it down to a papa (a male supporter) who’s willing to continue seeing you despite your situation changing.
It’s hard to say without knowing what your priorities are, but I think it might be a good idea to discuss it with the papa you’re currently seeing and trust the most.
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If changing jobs would improve your employment conditions because you’ve built up your skills, then I think you should go for it.
If you plan to take it easy at work and rely on your allowance to get by, you could change to a job that makes it easier to find time—even if it means earning less—or request a transfer within your company.
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