I received an offer through a letter date and am scheduled to meet him this week. In our messages, he also mentioned that he had reserved a hotel room, saying something like, “If you’re comfortable with that…” However, my chronic condition has gotten worse this week, and I’m not feeling well (it’s not COVID or anything). I’m thinking of turning down the adult relationship.
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Would it be okay to tell him, “I’m on my period and bleeding, so I’m sorry, but would another day work instead?”
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I feel that being honest is better, since lying can lead to problems later on, and men are more likely to understand and accept things when you’re upfront with them.
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Occasionally, some people will say they’re fine with meeting even when you’re on your period.
It’s better to say you have a chronic condition or something similar.
That makes it easier to turn them down next time, too.
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I agree with Kamihikōki. It’s creepy how this guy seems to be “closing off all her escape routes.”
Still, that doesn’t seem to be the issue for the person asking the question. They simply want to postpone things amicably because they’re not feeling well, right?
I think saying you’re feeling unwell is perfectly fine. You could also blame it on your period, but men like this will calculate your cycle, and later the story won’t add up, forcing you to come up with increasingly complicated excuses. If you don’t want to mention your chronic condition, you could say you’re experiencing unexpected bleeding. Since it has nothing to do with your cycle, there’s no problem. It’s actually a fairly common excuse. Personally, I heard it just last month (lol).
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> “I’ve reserved a hotel room, if you’re interested.”
I hate how he’s trying to cover himself with that kind of wording.
If you’re going to book it, just book it without the hedging. You can ask for an answer after we meet, right?
So with stingy guys, I just leave them on read and say goodbye…
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If you’re feeling unwell, why not consider postponing your meeting until you’re fully recovered?
Especially at a time like this, I’d personally rather not meet while you’re still sick.
If he says he still wants to see you, you could tell him that you’re willing to have dinner, but you can’t go to a hotel. If he gets angry about that, then he’s probably not someone worth continuing to see.
I think the best relationships are ones where both people are considerate of each other.
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I think it’s best to be as specific as possible about not feeling well.
You could lie and say you’re on your period, but then there’s a risk he’ll think, “Again?” the next time you really are.
That said, since turning him down has already probably left a bad impression, either way may not make much difference.
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Why do they lie and say they’re on their period?
I feel like they could just say they aren’t feeling well this week.
Is repeatedly sending sexually suggestive messages throughout the day—when they already know what the answer will be—some kind of fetish?
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I wonder if this one will be hidden too...
My answers get hidden as well, so I don’t even feel like answering anymore.
If this keeps up, maybe I’ll only answer hidden questions (I’m contrary like that).
It’s total chaos—you have to become an answerer yourself if you want to see my answers.
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