I started working as a new employee in April, but are there people who live solely on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
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I have a papa (a male supporter) I've been seeing since college. Now that work has gotten busier and we're meeting less often, he told me he’d give me enough living expenses plus an allowance to let me quit my job, so I wouldn’t have to work.
I have no intention of quitting my job, so I’m thinking of cutting ties with him.
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There are probably people who live solely off papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
I think you should end things with that papa and, like me, remain a regular working woman member while waiting for offers from papas who are looking for something at the level of just earning some extra spending money.
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Sorry for going off on a tangent, but I honestly don’t understand what’s so wrong with being a full-time PJ.
Where does this atmosphere come from—the idea that a regular day job is noble, while being a PJ or working nights isn’t?
I know a girl who worked incredibly hard as a full-time men’s esthetician and eventually became independent. She really put in the effort, carries herself like a business owner, and we have a great time joking about the loneliness of being a CEO.
I’m dating a sexy actress, too, and she’s genuinely a wonderful person—far more thoughtful and profound than some office worker who never thinks about anything.
I believe that people cling to this popular fixed idea that being a full-time PJ is somehow bad, and that’s why they can only survive in this shitty world where conformity is treated as common sense. In business, they’re always copying what others have done, letting the first movers take all the good opportunities, never earning as much as they want, and remaining on the consuming end forever. I’m telling myself the same thing as I write this: Don’t do what everyone else is doing.
That said, your papa is trash, so cut him off immediately.
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Some people do make a living solely through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but like YouTubers and TikTokers, most are ultimately destined to lose people’s interest.
It’s definitely better to have a source of income besides papa-katsu.
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This sounds like the same person as always.
> “I’m not planning to quit my job, so I’m thinking about cutting ties with this papa (a male supporter).”
If you want to cut ties, then cut ties. If you want to keep seeing him, then keep seeing him.
> “Are there people who live solely off papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?”
There are probably people who live solely off papa-katsu, just as there are people who live solely off investments, rental income, or horse racing.
But even if you ask that question and find out the answer, would anything change?
I think the question itself is meaningless. You’re asking about something where nothing would change whether the answer is A or B.
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There probably are. I’ve met a woman who used to do that. Still, if you’re going to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’d recommend managing multiple papas. If you focus on just one, it’s over if he cuts you off. You’re left with no alternatives. Even if you stay with one papa for a long time, it doesn’t help you develop the skills to find the next one. If you want to maintain a situation where multiple papas come and go, you’ll probably sharpen all kinds of techniques, so if you’re determined to do it, I recommend seeing multiple papas.
Just because you’re continuing your job doesn’t mean you have to cut off your current papa. I think you should meet him at whatever pace works for you. He may complain, but you’re still receiving an allowance from him. He’s kind of like a nagging parent who always sends your allowance on time, isn’t he? So I think you should keep him around. At the very least, don’t be the one to cut things off. Just go at your own pace, and if he doesn’t like it, let him gradually disappear. Wouldn’t that work?
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Some people may even live solely off papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
I think you should do whatever you want. You don’t have to force yourself to stay involved with someone who only seems to think about himself. It’s not like he’s going to support you for the rest of your life.
If he wants to say that, he should first pay your living expenses plus about 30 years’ worth of allowance upfront. If he wants you to quit your job, I think that’s the least he should do.
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