I had a friend sit in the passenger seat and support me while I drove, but they told me I was a bad driver. I think so too.
I live in Tokyo, so I mostly drive around the city, but people honk at me pretty often.
(When I went out to the countryside, no one honked at me at all…)
My question is: sometimes a papa (a male supporter) offers to meet in his car. Should I avoid asking to drive it? I’d like to gain experience by driving different kinds of cars…
(I guess no one would let me drive on the first day, though… haha. Would it be better to wait until we’ve gotten to know each other?)
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I’m not very good at driving, so I stick with a kei car.
It’s easy to make a U-turn if I get lost!
I had quite a few accidents at first, and thought,
“Yeah, I guess I’m not cut out for driving a nice car（笑）” (*ˊ˘ˋ*)｡♪:*
There’s no way I could drive someone else’s car!
I’m even scared to borrow a loaner when my car’s in for inspection!
Let’s not do that (>_<)
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If a friend who had just gotten their license told me the same thing as the person asking this question, I’d do everything I could to stop them.
I guess I couldn’t complain if they could buy the car they’re borrowing from their papa (a male supporter) outright in cash and fully cover any medical expenses or compensation in the event of an accident…
As others have said, if you want to drive a variety of cars, you should gain experience with insurance coverage through rental cars or car-sharing services. There may also be cars available to rent at events held at race circuits.
I’ve been driving locally for nearly ten years, and people say I’m good at it and enjoy driving, but driving in Tokyo still scares me.
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It probably won’t happen on the first date, but eventually, if you say, “I want this car,” he might buy it for you as a present.
It is certainly convenient when a girl can drive, but foreign cars and large vehicles are probably out of the question until she gets a little more experienced.
Are young women these days just used to video games? I’m always amazed when they can reverse neatly into a parking spot using only the backup camera. Coming from a generation that could never park successfully with just a backup camera because everything looked distorted…
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If I were going to let her drive, I’d rent a car and get comprehensive insurance when signing the rental agreement.
If it’s your own car and you get into a solo accident, it’s not a big deal. But once another person is involved, things can get really complicated.
That said, there have been two girls who asked to drive and I actually let them… A guy can’t really say no when a beautiful woman asks him, right? 😅
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If you get into an accident, can you take responsibility?
Could you afford the repair costs, even if the accident happened in your own car? It would also cause trouble for the person riding beside you.
Please think it through carefully.
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Getting honked at—that takes some doing.
And yet, the idea of practicing in your papa’s car is seriously misguided.
I love driving, and even my own car would look large and high-spec to most people. Even so, I’d never think of driving my papas’ cars.
What bothers me most in town is seeing women driving cars that are beyond their ability to handle despite being poor drivers.
—Akari
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It’s incredibly presumptuous to ask to use someone else’s car when you’ve only just gotten your license and aren’t even an average driver yet.
Many papas drive cars that are much more expensive than ordinary ones. Do you have any idea how much it could cost if you got into an accident and had to pay for repairs or compensation?
It would cause your papa a huge amount of trouble, too. I enjoy driving and have a clean record with a gold license, but I wouldn’t want to drive someone else’s car when the size and handling are different. You’re better off not doing it. I’d be too scared to drive the Ferraris, Rolls-Royces, or Maybachs that some papas own.
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These days, people are generally so kind—or perhaps just more patient—that there’s almost a sense that the person who honks is the one at fault. Unless it’s a really serious situation, I don’t think people honk much anymore.
So I imagine you must be pretty “dangerous” behind the wheel.
Many papas drive luxury cars, which are often large, so they’re not exactly something you can casually borrow for a little practice.
Of course, if he’s wealthy and kind enough to say, “It’s fine if you hit my Ferrari,” then maybe—but even if you cause an accident, it won’t just inconvenience your papa. You could also cause traffic and trouble for everyone around you.
Please practice thoroughly in your own car.
Marika
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Getting into an accident in your papa’s car would be a nightmare. Even if it’s a solo accident, you still have to call the police and the insurance company. Just imagining bystanders gathering around makes me terrified.
Driving is all about practice, so I recommend practicing extensively in one car. Buy an inexpensive used car that you won’t mind denting or driving into the ground, and drive it a lot for about two years. After that, you’ll naturally be able to drive other cars too. That’s how it worked for me.
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You’ve only just gotten your license, right?
Driving someone else’s car with a learner’s sticker is completely out of the question, in my opinion. Most people seem to end up scraping or bumping the car.
Even after you no longer need the learner’s sticker, you’ll probably still be a little dangerous for about another year or so. (For example, you may fail to slow down where you should, and it’s scary watching someone drive through mountain passes when they don’t know how to shift the car’s weight properly.
A lot of people seem to think that cars turn simply by turning the steering wheel, but once you’re above a certain speed, the car won’t turn properly unless you shift its weight correctly. That’s why some people run off the track at the very first corner on a circuit.)
If you want to drive, I think it would be better to have them buy you a cheap used car—or buy one yourself. If you want to drive a variety of cars, renting cars would probably be the better option.
In the past, Nippon Rent-A-Car even had cars like the Skyline GT-R, RX-7, GTO, FTO, Eunos Roadster, and Pajero in its lineup. They don’t seem to have quite as many options now, but you should still be able to try driving a reasonable variety of cars.
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I don’t have a driver’s license, but even if I did, I wouldn’t want to drive someone else’s car.
What would I do if something happened? And if it belonged to the man I’m seeing, I’d be causing him trouble too.
If you have your own car, I think it would be better to keep doing what you’re doing now and have a friend accompany you. If you don’t have a car, you could buy or rent one yourself, or ask the person you’re seeing to buy one for you.
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I also think it’s better not to do it.
I don’t think there are that many papas (male supporters) who would patiently practice driving with you. And if you got into an accident, you might upset him. I can hardly think of any real advantages.
I think it would be better to build a good relationship and have him buy you a car for practice instead.
Also, I drive in Tokyo, and it’s not that common to be honked at. For now, make sure you display your beginner’s mark and drive with extra caution.
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Once you’ve gotten to know him better, ask if he’ll let you practice driving.
Just make sure to check his optional auto insurance first, since it may only cover family members. If you’re not covered, absolutely don’t drive the car.
Honestly, the quickest way to improve would be to buy your own car and drive every day, though.
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