What kinds of topics do you usually get excited talking about?
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I know it depends on the person, of course, but I’d like to hear your thoughts for reference.
I’ve also heard that people often go golfing together. Is it better to know how to play golf when doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? I’ve never played before and barely even know the rules.
I can’t play golf either, so I’d like to take it up, but I haven’t been able to because it seems like it would take a huge amount of time and money…
My papa (a male supporter) and I often talk about our work. We also talk about beauty, our hobbies, and where we should go on our next date, so we never run out of things to discuss. Once you get closer, you probably won’t have to think about it so much, but if you’re worried at first, why not come up with a few topics before your date?
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I’d love to try golf sometime~ *｡ﾟ(*´ω｀*)ﾟ｡*
Even though I don’t play golf, the sneakers I wear for work are actually golf shoes.
I don’t prepare conversation topics based on what happened that day or anything like that. I think we just get carried away naturally as the conversation flows (*´︶`*).
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When I talk to people, I don’t get all tense or overthink it. The words just come naturally, to the point where I sometimes wonder what I’m even talking about. If I get stuck, I expand the conversation in different directions from one topic.
You should probably stop playing golf just to match your papa (a male supporter). Even if you have the equipment, you’ll need to take lessons to improve, and lessons can be pretty expensive. You’ll end up wondering what you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for in the first place.
In my case, he bought me a golf set and paid for my lessons. But to keep improving, I still had to go to the driving range every week, so it ultimately took both money and time.
Why not choose another hobby? You could explore cafés with great food, go camping, or take drives. I enjoy getting out and doing things, so I usually go all out and have fun. Don’t you have any hobbies of your own?
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I usually pick up on the little things women say in passing and expand on them, so there isn’t really a set topic.
I’m basically a listener. If she’s quiet, I’ll take the lead, but generally I listen, nod at the right moments, and enjoy the conversation. We probably talk about manga most often.
As for golf, I enjoy playing with one of my monthly arrangement partners, who can shoot in the 30s from the white tees. I’m good at golf, so I play from the black or blue tees.
Sometimes we’re intimate in the rest area along the way, too.
I definitely think it’s worth learning golf now. It’s also a place to meet people.
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We talk about what’s been going on in our lives lately, her work, her complaints, other men, dirty jokes—things like that. If we have a shared hobby or interest, we talk about that too. Golf is one example.
If the man she’s seeing likes golf, it’s nice to have something they can enjoy together. But there are already plenty of women who play golf, so I think it’s naïve to assume you can learn it now and gain an advantage in papa-katsu.
Even if you can’t play golf, I think the relationship will continue as long as you can spend enjoyable time together and have good sex.
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It depends on the person.
I usually pick up on things they mention that I understand or am interested in and expand the conversation from there—work, the economy, hobbies like music or sports, and so on. Safe topics would probably be food or places you’ve traveled to.
You absolutely don’t need to know anything about golf. I actually had a hard time finding a papa who would play golf with me. Unless your papa wants you to play golf and provides everything, including paying for lessons, taking up golf just for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) defeats the whole purpose—you won’t save any money at all.
Marika
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There are people you naturally click with, where you don’t even have to think of topics to talk about, and people you don’t.
With the former, you’re on the same wavelength no matter what you talk about, and the conversation naturally becomes fun and lively. With the latter, you have to make an effort, and an awkward atmosphere can start to hang in the air.
When you can share your reactions to something happening right in front of you, you can just say whatever pops into your head. But if the other person barely reacts, you have to think about and choose what to talk about, which gets exhausting.
Regardless of gender, it’s best to spend time with someone you can be comfortable around without having to worry about every little thing.
For example, you might both burst out laughing and get really excited over graffiti on a wall, or get totally into how ridiculously crooked a pillar near a convenience store is. It’s what people mean when they say someone is “on your wavelength”—your sense of humor and the things you say just line up.
When you’re eating together, it’s not just about both saying the food is delicious. You can also understand each other when your impressions match, whether the food is amazing, mediocre, or a total miss…
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