The Club woman I met the other day was in a bad mood the entire time and made several rude comments, so I decided to leave after about 20 minutes.
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Before we parted, I really wanted to ask her, so I said, “Why are you in such a bad mood? Did I say something rude?”
Her response was:
・I can’t deal with bald men.
・It’s unreasonable to put the allowance in an envelope.
There’s nothing I can do about being bald, so I’ll just accept that.
But should I stop using an envelope?
I feel a little uncomfortable handing it over loose, so I’ve always used an envelope.
According to her, it was unreasonable because she couldn’t check how much money was inside.
Is that actually how people feel about it?
I’ve met around 20 women, and this is the first time anyone has said that to me.
But if many people feel the same way she does, I’m thinking I should stop using envelopes.
How do you usually give the transportation allowance at a first meeting?
For reference, I put ¥10,000 in a white Japanese paper envelope.
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> I’ve given up on the baldness—I don’t think there’s anything I can do about it anymore.
I don’t think it’s necessarily hopeless. There are options like Aderans and Art Nature, and if you feel your hair is starting to thin, you could even go for a completely shaved head.
A shaved head is different from being bald.
When I think about it that way, I worry that he may have given up not only on his hair, but also on his clothes, grooming, and overall cleanliness.
If he’s trying to make up for everything with money alone, he could hand her around ¥100,000 the moment they meet and say, “This is for the meal,” then offer ¥100,000 as the hotel allowance.
That might make up for the baldness to some extent, but if his personality is also an issue, I feel like she might still turn him down.
So I think he should try without giving up on everything.
> By the way, I put ¥10,000 in a white Japanese-paper envelope.
About five or six years ago, Universe gave men who joined the club small gift envelopes. The idea was to suggest that it’s a good way to hand over the allowance.
If you’re having dinner in a private room, it might be fine without an envelope, but women may still feel self-conscious about other people seeing the money being handed over at a restaurant. A regular envelope also seems too large and a bit awkward.
That’s exactly why a small gift envelope is ideal.
After handing it over, you could also say something like, “Please check inside, just to be sure.” I think that would help the woman feel at ease.
So, I recommend using a small gift envelope.
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No offense, but I think she probably just found you physically off-putting.
As they say, when you hate the monk, you hate his robes too.
Whether you put the allowance in a small envelope or hand it over loose, some people will complain either way.
Let it go and move on to the next one.
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Even if a woman has an unpleasant experience, I don’t think she should show it in her attitude or make rude remarks.
That said, maybe something happened that left her feeling she had no choice but to react that way?
I don’t think someone would get that upset over something as minor as whether the allowance was put in an envelope or whether the man was bald.
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Maybe it’s just a matter of personal preference.
I’ve only ever received my allowance in an envelope or something similar, so I think I’d be surprised if someone handed it to me directly.
There may have been another reason, or perhaps they were simply in a bad mood after something unpleasant had happened.
Forget about them and move on. Hopefully, the next person who makes you an offer will be wonderful!
Pay attention to your cleanliness and appearance, and I hope things go well next time!
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If you happened to come across someone like that once in 20 times, that would be a rare case.
Personally, whether it’s handed over in an envelope or loose, it doesn’t make a difference as long as you say “thank you” and hand it over like a gentleman. I’ve never been put off by the way the money was given, so I think there must be another reason.
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I always put it in an envelope. When I hand it over, I make sure to say something like:
“There’s 3 in here for transportation.”
I’ve only had someone check the contents once, and it never caused any problems or put her in a bad mood.
I give her the transportation money within two or three minutes of meeting, but I think she’s already decided by then whether she’s okay with an adult relationship (intimate) or not.
By the way, how many stars did that woman have? I’m curious.
Recently, I happened to find a woman with zero stars (I think she was blacklisted) and was debating whether to make her an offer. But now I’m also tempted to make an offer to the woman who treated you so disrespectfully.
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I hand the allowance over in a small gift envelope.
During my interview, a staff member told me, “It seems that many members put it in an envelope when they hand it over,” so I remember going out to buy some small gift envelopes.
The reason I use a small gift envelope instead of a regular one is so the woman can quickly put it away.
I’ve met nearly 100 women, and while I’ve received thanks for paying the transportation money upfront or comments like “The envelope is cute,” no one has ever complained about the allowance being in an envelope.
I think you simply didn’t click with that particular woman.
The only things I think you can do are upload a photo to your profile and leave that woman a -2 feedback rating. I don’t see any need to change the way you use the envelopes.
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